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Debra Macleod

Marriage Author-Expert & Educator

Debra Macleod, B.A., LL.B., is an international marriage author-expert and couples mediator. Visit her private practice at DebraMacleod.com.
Spare Single Women The 'Always A Bridesmaid' Line This Wedding

Spare Single Women The 'Always A Bridesmaid' Line This Wedding Season

"Always a bridesmaid and never a bride, hey?" I was on the receiving end of that a couple times. Despite being in law school, despite having lots of friends, despite having travelled and by all accounts being pretty damn happy with life, the insinuation was that I wasn't successful because I wasn't married.
06/13/2017 01:32 EDT
10 Proactive Ways To Fix The Cracks Forming In Your

10 Proactive Ways To Fix The Cracks Forming In Your Marriage

I often hear people say that their partner's affair or request for separation came "out of the blue" and that they had "no clue" their partner was that unhappy. Yet when the situation stabilizes a bit and they're able to look back with the clarity of hindsight, they usually admit that there were little cracks beginning to show.
03/09/2017 04:38 EST
Marriages Crash When Sex Falls Off The

Marriages Crash When Sex Falls Off The Radar

When it comes to marriage, emotional and sexual intimacy are two sides of the same coin. In successful marriages, we see a pretty decent balance. We see a couple who is going through life as best friends, and who just happen to think the other is pretty damn hot. Sex is a "use it or lose it" kind of thing.
01/17/2017 03:24 EST
Here's What Your Partner Really Wants For

Here's What Your Partner Really Wants For Xmas

Your partner wants you to stop checking your Facebook feed at the movie theatre. To stop getting that glazed-over look in your eye, the one you get when you're in the middle of an actual face-to-face conversation, but you feel that itch to check your phone. Your partner really, really wants you to stop ignoring them or half-listening as you check your emails for the gazillionth time that day. Your partner wants you to stop texting your "friend" while you're lying in the privacy of your bed.
12/15/2016 08:05 EST
'Tis the Season For Holidays And Horrible

'Tis the Season For Holidays And Horrible Marriages

You don't need to fix your problems because Christmas is coming. You need to fix them because they're chipping away at your happiness and well-being, and they're probably chipping away at the happiness and well-being of your kids, too.
12/08/2016 07:37 EST
Counselling Can Ruin What's Left Of Your Struggling

Counselling Can Ruin What's Left Of Your Struggling Marriage

Many people feel that marriage counselling is ineffective, yet it remains the prevailing approach to relationship troubles, even in the majority of situations where psychological problems are not present. It's time to think outside the box.
11/04/2016 04:02 EDT
Should You Contact The Person Your Spouse Is Cheating

Should You Contact The Person Your Spouse Is Cheating With?

If you don't know who the other woman or man is, you may be painfully curious --iIs the other person more attractive than me? What did my partner see in him or her? You may think that confronting them will make them back off or that they might tell you certain details of the affair that your spouse will not reveal. But it's never that simple.
09/14/2016 09:15 EDT
Being An

Being An "Alpha Mom" Is Killing Your Marriage

When does a wife become an Alpha Parent? When they become the person who hovers over her husband when he changes the baby's diaper or prepares a meal, just waiting for him to do something wrong -- or rather, something different than she does -- so that she can correct him, criticize him or just take over with an exasperated, "Oh, I'll do it."
07/27/2016 08:07 EDT
When Your Unfaithful Spouse Refuses To End An

When Your Unfaithful Spouse Refuses To End An Affair

Too often, an unfaithful spouse whose affair has been discovered will continue to see and/or contact their affair partner. Sometimes this is done in secret. They may assure their spouse that they've ended the affair; however, their lack of transparency and untrustworthy behaviour indicates otherwise.
07/20/2016 07:43 EDT
8 Relationship Resolutions Every Couple Should

8 Relationship Resolutions Every Couple Should Make

Ah, we all love a fresh start, don't we? But between charging up that new Fitbit and vowing to stay on budget, be sure to make a few promises to your sweetheart. Here are eight relationship resolutions every couple should make.
12/31/2015 03:15 EST
Looking For A New Holiday Ritual? Try Something

Looking For A New Holiday Ritual? Try Something Old

Many people want to express a sense of reverence for life; however, the religious themes they see around them seem empty and foreign. If this resonates with you, who knows? Maybe something old can offer you something new.
12/15/2015 02:54 EST
These Are The Signs Your Spouse Is Having A Texting

These Are The Signs Your Spouse Is Having A Texting Affair

You look the other way and pretend not to notice or be bothered. You force yourself to not ask who your spouse is texting and not show how worried or hurt you are. You lay awake and stare at your partner's phone, wishing you could look through it but not wanting to cross that line. Finally, you crack.
11/24/2015 03:16 EST
Are You Afraid To Make A Change? Don't Let Fear Paralyze

Are You Afraid To Make A Change? Don't Let Fear Paralyze You

How is fear deciding your fate? How is it affecting the decisions you make, the paths you take or don't take? Light a candle and reflect. Or take a night drive and think. It's funny -- as soon as you start to see fear clearly, it looks a lot less scary. So take a deep breath and stare it down.
10/26/2015 05:19 EDT
Life Is Short, Turn Your Spouse

Life Is Short, Turn Your Spouse On

The recent Ashley Madison hack hasn't just exposed user data - it's also brought to light our various attitudes toward marriage and monogamy in today's high-tech, high-strung society. There are many reasons people stray and technology enables infidelity in a way that is faster and easier -- although certainly not more secretive -- than ever before. Yet in the end, it is always a question of choice. "Will I break the promise I made to my spouse?" In the wake of the Ashley Madison hack, we're seeing a lot of "You got what you deserved!" opinions.
08/19/2015 06:55 EDT
8 Ways to Take Your Marriage

8 Ways to Take Your Marriage "Off Hold"

It's a mistake to think that you can put your relationship "on hold" until the kids are gone. Instead, practice these eight ways to take your marriage "off hold" right now, and keep it alive and well throughout the various stages of your life together.
08/04/2015 12:19 EDT