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Debra Macleod

Marriage Author-Expert & Educator

Debra Macleod, B.A., LL.B., is an international marriage author-expert and couples mediator. Visit her private practice at <a href="https://debramacleod.com/" rel="nofollow">DebraMacleod.com</a>.
8 Ways to Take Your Marriage

8 Ways to Take Your Marriage "Off Hold"

It's a mistake to think that you can put your relationship "on hold" until the kids are gone. Instead, practice these eight ways to take your marriage "off hold" right now, and keep it alive and well throughout the various stages of your life together.
08/04/2015 12:19 EDT
6 Dating Tips From Around the

6 Dating Tips From Around the World

how to break out of a dating rut? Well, one way is to take a look at the dating conventions and gender interactions that exist in other countries to see whether adding a little international flair to our domestic dating scene might help Cupid land that arrow. Check out the following six dating tips.
06/25/2015 12:45 EDT
5 Ways to Succeed at

5 Ways to Succeed at Marriage

Ah, the quintessential happy home -- mom, dad, a kid or two (or three) cuddled on the couch for a family movie night, munching popcorn and enjoying each other's company. In a world where divorce and family breakdown are rampant, does this vision still exist?
06/08/2015 01:35 EDT
Should the Catholic Church Acknowledge the Destruction of Classical Pagan

Should the Catholic Church Acknowledge the Destruction of Classical Pagan Culture?

I recently read an article that offered a Christian apology to Jewish people for the wrongs committed against them. The author also acknowledged the way that Christianity was "built" on Judaism. That's great; however, there's a glaring omission here. Christianity was also largely "built" on the destruction and desecration of Greco-Roman polytheistic culture.
04/16/2015 01:05 EDT
From Rabbits to Resurrections: How Easter Came to

From Rabbits to Resurrections: How Easter Came to Be

Think Easter started as a Christian holiday? Think again. This spring holiday began as, and still is, a very pagan one. In fact, Easter itself is named after a pagan goddess who was worshipped for centuries before Christ.
04/04/2015 09:15 EDT
Is Your Wife or Girlfriend Controlling

Is Your Wife or Girlfriend Controlling You?

Men who are controlled by their wives or girlfriends often feel emasculated, belittled, fearful and humiliated. They almost always feel confused and isolated. They may be verbally attacked through name-calling, profanity, character assassination or insults (i.e. you're fat, you don't make enough money, you have no backbone, etc.). They may feel like nothing they do is good enough.
03/31/2015 05:50 EDT
8 Ways to Bring a Zombie Marriage Back to

8 Ways to Bring a Zombie Marriage Back to Life

If you're in a zombie marriage, you know the signs: apathy, routine, familiarity, empty interactions, irritability, indifference and sexlessness. You don't actively dislike each other -- you've just kind of stopped showing up. If this sounds familiar to you, don't run away (or aim for the head) just yet. Instead, try these eight tips to see whether they can bring your zombie relationship back to life.
03/24/2015 05:25 EDT
Stop Talking Your Relationship To

Stop Talking Your Relationship To Death!

Of course, relationship problems do have to be discussed. But trust me -- if you improve your interactions before you talk about them, you'll spend a lot less time digging up and re-burying cats that should have been laid to rest a long time ago.
03/11/2015 08:38 EDT
The Ancient Tradition That Can Keep Your Family

The Ancient Tradition That Can Keep Your Family Together

The ancient Vesta tradition is an example of an old faith that is making a comeback. It is a tradition that reaches back to distant antiquity but whose dynamic nature and ability to reflect progressive 21st century humanist and secular values is making it a popular choice for those who identify as "spiritual but not religious."
03/05/2015 06:09 EST
Spouse Poaching: Why Married People Are Sexy

Spouse Poaching: Why Married People Are Sexy Targets

Affairs are messy things and it is unlikely that the illusion of this relationship will lead to any kind of happy reality for you. Even if you do defy the odds and this person leaves his or her spouse for you, all you've accomplished is "winning" someone else's cheating husband or cheating wife.
02/24/2015 05:27 EST
It Seems Some Men Are in 50 Shades of

It Seems Some Men Are in 50 Shades of Shock

I've seen many articles and reviews -- including those by women -- suggesting that women who see or read <em>50 Shades</em> are incapable of distinguishing between an abusive and non-abusive relationship. To me, whatever consensual activities happen in the book or movie can't be as degrading to women as this patronizing sentiment.
02/16/2015 01:55 EST
Have Women Lost Their

Have Women Lost Their "Feminine Mystique?"

In my despairing opinion, too many of us have become a louder, dumbed-down, sexed-up, selfie-snapping, pouty-lipped, desperate shadow of our former selves. That's what men are seeing, and that's how they're treating us.
01/30/2015 05:16 EST
How to Hit the Spiritual

How to Hit the Spiritual "Reset Button" in Your Life

As a couples mediator, January is always an extra-busy month for my practice. There is always a wave of clients seeking to improve their relationships and family lives so that the new year is a happier one than the old year was. They want to hit the reset button in their lives.
01/07/2015 12:24 EST
Dating in 2015: Why Modest Will Be

Dating in 2015: Why Modest Will Be Hottest

As the number of sexually available women continued to grow, it became unnecessary for men to treat women with respect or affection. Why open her door? Why pay for her meal? Why bother to call? Why go through the trouble making her feel special? Why be faithful? Why make a commitment?
12/28/2014 11:19 EST
Why Modern Paganism Is Good For Today's Families, Part

Why Modern Paganism Is Good For Today's Families, Part II

Despite spending most of my life as an atheist, I have come to realize that spirituality is part of the human condition. So is the ability to think for oneself, to follow one's own moral compass and to challenge stereotypes that others have created for their own purposes. If you agree, you might have a spark of Vesta's ancient fire in you after all.
12/21/2014 03:00 EST
Why Modern Paganism is Good For Today's

Why Modern Paganism is Good For Today's Families

I think it is time to challenge the stereotypes surrounding modern paganism and its various beliefs. It has so much to offer, from its fascinating history and cultural influence to its contemporary efforts to create a better world.
12/12/2014 06:07 EST
8 Lies That Parents on the Brink of Divorce Might Tell

8 Lies That Parents on the Brink of Divorce Might Tell Themselves

As a former divorce mediator and current couples and family mediator, I have heard every excuse that parents use to feel better about breaking up their family. Here are eight of the most common lies that, if you're considering divorce, you might be telling yourself.
12/01/2014 05:28 EST
How Amal Clooney is Bringing Marriage Back into

How Amal Clooney is Bringing Marriage Back into Style

Just as fashion trends have a tendency to return (I've seen two people wearing Swatches this week alone!), it appears that marriage is making a comeback. A new and improved version of marriage is hitting the shelves, and it is perhaps more fashionable than ever. Why? Largely because of the type of woman who is choosing to walk down the aisle.
11/05/2014 12:50 EST