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Debra Macleod

Marriage Author & Conflict Specialist.

Debra Macleod, B.A., LL.B., is an international marriage author-expert and couples mediator. Visit her private practice at
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Why Opposite-Sex Friendships Will Destroy Your Marriage

Before you know it, the spouse and his or her extra-marital friend are comforting each other, turning to each other for advice, sharing details of their intimate life and relationships, and texting each other with increasing frequency and intimacy. As the excitement of their forbidden friendship grows, the dynamics in the marriage deteriorate. After all, three's a crowd.
02/09/2015 05:58 EST

Have Women Lost Their "Feminine Mystique?"

In my despairing opinion, too many of us have become a louder, dumbed-down, sexed-up, selfie-snapping, pouty-lipped, desperate shadow of our former selves. That's what men are seeing, and that's how they're treating us.
01/30/2015 05:16 EST
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Dating in 2015: Why Modest Will Be Hottest

As the number of sexually available women continued to grow, it became unnecessary for men to treat women with respect or affection. Why open her door? Why pay for her meal? Why bother to call? Why go through the trouble making her feel special? Why be faithful? Why make a commitment?
12/28/2014 11:19 EST
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Why Modern Paganism Is Good For Today's Families, Part II

Despite spending most of my life as an atheist, I have come to realize that spirituality is part of the human condition. So is the ability to think for oneself, to follow one's own moral compass and to challenge stereotypes that others have created for their own purposes. If you agree, you might have a spark of Vesta's ancient fire in you after all.
12/21/2014 03:00 EST

8 Reasons Your Husband is Falling Out of Love With You

I can't tell you how many unhappy husbands I've seen in my office over the past decade or so. They present with all kinds of issues, from infidelity to in-law troubles and everything in between. Below are eight of the most common complaints that unhappy husbands make about their wives. Read them. Believe them. Stop them.
11/13/2014 06:04 EST

How Amal Clooney is Bringing Marriage Back into Style

Just as fashion trends have a tendency to return (I've seen two people wearing Swatches this week alone!), it appears that marriage is making a comeback. A new and improved version of marriage is hitting the shelves, and it is perhaps more fashionable than ever. Why? Largely because of the type of woman who is choosing to walk down the aisle.
11/05/2014 12:50 EST
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Eight Monster Men You Should Be Scared To Date

Charming and disarmingly persuasive, this sexy, silver-tongued slickster will use your body to satisfy his every pleasure. And while it might feel really good while he's doing it, in the end he ends up stronger and you end up weaker. Unfortunately for you, this monster man is also a monstrous time-waster.
10/29/2014 06:15 EDT

Why Men Get Laid, But Women Get Screwed

Women often enter into casual sex and cohabitation assuming these things are their only options. Yet these practices have only become the default dating norms over the past few decades. And guess what? They're a failed social experiment.
10/23/2014 12:54 EDT

Instead of Making a Spreadsheet About Sex, Try Writing a Love Note

I stumbled upon a story about a husband who, apparently upset with the lack of sex in his marriage, made a spreadsheet that documented how often his wife had sex with him. I've had many clients over the years show me similar lists. Lists like this are made -- and shared on social media -- out of an emotional mixture of frustration, resentment, self- righteousness, a lack of self-restraint and a profound level of immaturity.
07/25/2014 01:06 EDT

Be Honest: Do You Throw Texter Tantrums?

The adult temper tantrum is alive and well. Although it takes many unpleasant forms, one of the most common is what I call a "texter tantrum." Not a week goes by that I don't have a client hold up a cell phone and say, "Look at what my partner has been saying to me!"
06/06/2014 05:09 EDT
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Five Ways to a Happy Marriage

Happy kids and a happy home hinges on one thing: a happy marriage between Mom and Dad. The quality of a couple's marriage sets the tone for family life. Below are five general qualities to strive for (or avoid, as the case may be). They aren't exhaustive, but they are a good start.
05/28/2014 06:00 EDT
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Wanna Get the Girl? Date Like it's 1946

If my email inbox is any indicator, it's clear that modern men and women are clueless about how to behave on a first date. If you want to attract a quality person, you need to behave like a quality person. So check out these 1940s-inspired dating tips that might bring a little timeless sophistication to your dating M.O.
12/05/2013 08:02 EST

Can "Oil Patch Marriages" Ever Work?

Since the oil boom of the 1970's, many Alberta wives have called themselves "oil patch widows" due to work rotations that require their husbands to be away for weeks or months at a stretch. It is understandable how this physical separation can lead to an emotional disconnection between two people who are often leading separate lives.
10/31/2013 05:03 EDT

If You Think All Women Are "Crazy," Take a Look at Yourself

I recently saw a man in my office who asked me why all the women he dated turned out to be "crazy." If all the women you date eventually go off the deep end, perhaps it's time to tune-up your relationship skills. To some extent, I had to agree -- there are some lipsticked loonies out there. Then again, the male gender has its share of jerks and mama's boys. Perhaps it's time to stop pointing fingers at the opposite sex and start engaging in a little self-reflection, especially if you're re-living the same dysfunctional relationship over and over again.
10/11/2013 05:34 EDT