I don't believe that acceptance means that I'm making excuses. Who are you to decide if my experience is an excuse? That's derailing and dehumanizing. When you present your fitspiration article and ask me, a fat person, why I don't look like you and what my excuse must be, you're asking a question that is none of your business. I get that it's supposed to be inspiring and make me think, but you have no idea what I do for myself and what I'm working on personally. I don't owe anyone explanations, excuses, or anything else. I only owe myself those things.
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Elizabeth Hawksworth is a Canadian poet, blogger and short story writer. A busy marketing professional and nanny in Toronto, Ontario, she enjoys taking in the sights and sounds of her city, writing historical fiction, and herding her two cats, Athena and Ophelia. Elizabeth blogs about feminism, body positivity, fatphobia, writing, nannying and social justice at http://www.elizabethahawksworth.com.
Wild ambition is the fuel for the engine, but the engine is represented by hard work. You can't get anywhere without both, and that's something that I've taken from living as a Gen Y'er. We've all made our own happiness. That's what life is about.
09/17/2013 12:32 EDT
It's become apparent to me that the other side, the feminists working tirelessly to get rid of misogyny, are going too far in the other direction and trying to dictate what women should do and be. Enough, already. Here are six reasons why there's no wrong way to be the woman you are.
09/17/2013 07:49 EDT
I don't feel like I have to lower my standards and expectations because I don't look like that girl over by the bar. I feel like I can meet someone that will respect me and that will connect with me, no matter how I look. However, I don't feel that society feels like that's an option for me.
09/10/2013 08:14 EDT
I remember the feeling. I would stand, my back up against the fence, my legs weak. I'd stand there and wonder which way I
09/04/2013 01:53 EDT
I never spiraled down the path to bulimia, though I considered making myself sick to get rid of all the food I binged on. Instead, I just decided to stop eating. I was down to one meal a day, my skin pale and looking sick, when my friends and my pastor at church started to get concerned.
09/01/2013 02:38 EDT
Jack Layton was a die-hard Trekkie, and had his own custom-made Trekkie uniform that he wore at conventions. He was a musician, and loved to gather his friends and colleagues, singing songs from the 1960s. He would encourage everyone to sing, even if you didn't know the words. He wore funky glasses and blue jeans. He kept his hair long.
08/22/2013 05:23 EDT
I want the kids in my life to feel comfortable with their bodies, positive and negative. To me, that doesn't mean never saying they don't like their thighs. In the end, fat or thin acceptance is simply body acceptance. The way you get to the point where you're comfortable with your body is what matters.
08/18/2013 11:17 EDT
It's time to disconnect and really reach out. I know I need to call more. I know I need to reach out to you, to let you know I love you. It's so easy to think that a Facebook message or Twitter retweet shows my love, but I know it really doesn't let you know just how much you really cross my mind.
08/13/2013 12:10 EDT
There's a divide in our culture between childless people and people who are parents. I think we need to support our parent friends more. I've had jealousy and snark directed towards me because I can sleep in on weekends and don't have to deal with the kid alarm clocks at 5 a.m. And it is annoying. I'm not making excuses for that. But I think we need to look behind the snark and annoyance to the real issue. Parents often feel very alone. And most of the time, childless people don't get it, because we're not in it.
08/10/2013 08:58 EDT
Canadians gloss over our bloody history in order to pretend that we're better than the rest of the world, that racism isn't an issue here. It's only not an issue if you're not a person of colour. It's only not an issue if you've never had to watch your children grow up and battle their own skin colour in order to live. It's only not an issue if you're not someone like Trayvon Martin, walking in a neighbourhood where he looked suspicious because he was black.
07/15/2013 12:46 EDT
I didn't know anything about first wave or second wave or third wave feminism. I didn't know Gloria Steinem's name. I didn't know that women fought for the vote in the early 1900s, burned bras in the 60s, or fought rape culture for as long as I've been alive. I didn't know any of these things. And I didn't care. But I was born a feminist.
07/08/2013 05:25 EDT
We're not perfect, and we never have been. But lately, Harper has been slowly eroding Canada into something unrecognizable. I'm still just as patriotic as I always was but I just don't have to accept Canada as it is now -- and neither does anyone else.
07/02/2013 05:06 EDT
I was a cutter for about 10 years of my life. I wasn't ever going to get a tattoo. I didn't think they were for me. However, I realized sometime last year that I've already marked myself with permanency. And choices I made when I was at my lowest are not the permanent marks I want to carry with me the rest of my life.
06/28/2013 08:24 EDT
I had a brief conversation Tuesday night on Twitter with an American friend of mine, in which she questioned the far-reaching effects of the Supreme Court's decision to overturn DOMA and Proposition 8. The thing is, no U.S. policy doesn't affect Canadian policy. We have a Conservative Prime Minister who has decided not to touch these issues in Canada right now. However, he has no qualms about doing basically whatever he wants when it comes to Aboriginal land and rights, to name one debate raging here in Canada, which doesn't leave me much hope that he won't open these issues back up for debate. That's why this stuff is important -- rights are never guaranteed.
06/27/2013 12:28 EDT
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