Erin is a writer and blogger working on a book. Visit her at erinsilver.ca
Erin Silver is a freelance writer and blogger with more than 15 years experience writing for major magazines and newspapers in Canada and the United States. A single mom to two rambunctious young boys, she is inspired to share her experiences on everything from divorce and single parenting to dating and blending families. Erin is currently pursing her MFA and writing a memoir, Burnt: Cooking My Way Through Divorce, featuring recipes for every stage of the healing process. Visit her at erinsilver.ca.
I'm not making excuses, but between two active kids and their play dates, field trips, and activities I often feel like I'm struggling to keep it all straight. On top of that, I've got my own schedule: I'm in school, writing a book and trying to freelance. My activities come with deadlines of their own. My head is spinning all the time. I'm lucky to know the day of the week.
I didn't cry for myself or for how little hockey knowledge I currently have. I'd rather use these experiences as valuable life lessons. I won't make the same mistake twice. I won't make them with my younger son, because now I know better. And I won't hesitate to help other newbie hockey moms avoid my mistakes.
11/08/2016 03:51 EST
It's not always easy having boys 15 months apart. Now ages six and seven, they have always wanted the same thing at the same time -- same toys, same food, same clothes. They often feel they are somehow competing for the same resources, too, whether it be our time or attention.
11/01/2016 10:00 EDT
I don't know if my methods are right. Am I being a helicopter mom? Am I being too involved? Shouldn't kids learn to deal with these issues on their own, or is it ok to provide some well intentioned guidance?
10/20/2016 02:51 EDT
I want them to know there's merit trying. The cross country season has passed us by, but there are still spelling tests, math tests, hockey games, baseball tryouts and track and field. They won't win every game. They won't make every team. But they will try again. I know they can.
10/17/2016 09:03 EDT
I'm not sure about everyone else, but I have a tendency to overeat when the food is particularly delicious. I pick at the food as I'm making it, I eat standing while serving my guests, and in the chaos of kids running around and the dishes piling up, I end up eating more, thinking that I forgot to eat to begin with. By the time I'm really stuffed, it's dessert. And like everyone else, I eat some more.
10/11/2016 11:44 EDT
Rough play helps stimulate the brain and enables siblings to develop both cognitive and emotional intelligence. After all, when one pins the other to the ground, they are learning to read facial expressions and interpret body language. They are also learning about fairness and developing fledgling conflict resolution skills.
09/26/2016 05:58 EDT
Blended families are everywhere, representing nearly 13 per cent of all Canadian households. In the U.S. approximately 40 per cent of adults have a close step-relationship, such as with stepchild or stepparent. The process of bringing two families together, or adding a stepparent, can be extremely complex.
09/21/2016 03:26 EDT
I'm not sure whether to let my son play or drastically limit his playing time. But one thing is for sure: now that school is back in session, there have to be rules around how long my boys are allowed to play and when. I recently began polling parents about their rules, and my kids have listened intently to these discussions.
09/08/2016 10:07 EDT
The first day of school was a biggie for us. We all had the back-to-school jitters, so my ex and I brought our boys to school together on their first day last year. It was awkward, and I felt like a phoney showing up to school looking like a family, but I got over it quickly. My kids were happy to have both their parents at school to wave to them and support them as they walked through the school doors.
09/01/2016 05:22 EDT
I wanted to take my kids on a trip. Somewhere, anywhere in the world. I've always loved to travel, and one of the things
08/22/2016 09:40 EDT
Perhaps the hardest part about being a mom is leaving your kids, tearing yourself in half, whether for an MFA residency, like I'm doing, or even just to travel or go to work each day. Parenthood is a juggling act, and some days we are better at balancing than others.
08/12/2016 11:19 EDT
Studies show that people who take vacations, including 24-hour vacations and staycations, experience lower stress, improved mood, reduced risk of heart disease, a better outlook on life and increased ability to fight colds and infection. As well, mini-breaks strengthen relationships by building bonds and connectedness.
08/02/2016 11:01 EDT
I want my kids to get a taste for travel. I want them to experience life. To not be afraid to try something new. I want to have memories with them. I want to have done things. Why should I allow my personal situation (being on my own with two boys) scare me into not taking a risk?
07/25/2016 12:16 EDT
Over my years as a single mom, I've developed some strategies for cooking for small families. I hope this makes mealtime planning more delicious and less wasteful.
07/04/2016 11:20 EDT
I thought we'd go to a cottage in the summer, take our own trip to celebrate our 10th anniversary. I'd wanted to go to Japan. Now it feels like I'm counting backwards. I'm in the negative numbers, counting how many years I've been divorced. How many years we could have been married if only...
06/27/2016 03:30 EDT
There's been a lot of media attention lately devoted to changing the idea that dads aren't babysitters. That they are equal parenting partners. I'm seeing it more and more and I love it. While previous generations of dads (and even some dads I know today) believe in tough love, see it as their responsibility to "toughen up" their kids, and who have an easier time raising their voice than giving hugs, I hope these kinds of parents are on the way out of fashion.
06/20/2016 09:50 EDT
Lying isn't bad when you want to save someone from pain or confusion because they are too little to understand that the world can be ugly and bad. They have time to watch the news when they are bigger, to learn about terrorist attacks and shootings, about cheating and even strip clubs. But I promise, it won't be from me.
06/13/2016 11:28 EDT
Getting divorced isn't the end goal. It's the start of being divorced. There's a bigger picture, a longer race. It's an art we strive to master and it takes so much work. So pace yourself, my friends. It seems more and more like at least half of us are in it together.
06/07/2016 10:58 EDT
She's got everything: beauty, talent, money. She's in the best possible position to get divorced. Why would she allow someone to hurt her the way she has? Why would she just sing about her husband's betrayal when she could kick him to the curb? What message is she sending the rest of us if she decides to stay with someone who has deceived her?
05/31/2016 11:15 EDT
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