Getting divorced isn't the end goal. It's the start of being divorced. There's a bigger picture, a longer race. It's an art we strive to master and it takes so much work. So pace yourself, my friends. It seems more and more like at least half of us are in it together.
Erin is a writer and blogger working on a book. Visit her at erinsilver.ca
Erin Silver is a freelance writer and blogger with more than 15 years experience writing for major magazines and newspapers in Canada and the United States. A single mom to two rambunctious young boys, she is inspired to share her experiences on everything from divorce and single parenting to dating and blending families. Erin is currently pursing her MFA and writing a memoir, <em>Burnt: Cooking My Way Through Divorce</em>, featuring recipes for every stage of the healing process. Visit her at erinsilver.ca.
She's got everything: beauty, talent, money. She's in the best possible position to get divorced. Why would she allow someone to hurt her the way she has? Why would she just sing about her husband's betrayal when she could kick him to the curb? What message is she sending the rest of us if she decides to stay with someone who has deceived her?
05/31/2016 11:15 EDT
My experience made me wonder if this bike ride was somehow a metaphor for something bigger. Is this like going through a divorce and riding on despite the pain? Does it represent my ability to move forward in the face of life's challenges?
05/24/2016 05:19 EDT
I know there's no such thing as a fairy tale, but maybe I want to write my own ending with my own idea of what makes me happy. Is it such an old fashioned view to want a partner? To have found my match? To have a realistic vision of what life would be like even knowing we will have to face unforeseen challenges?
05/16/2016 10:58 EDT
I started my single mom journey thinking I had to be everything to my boys, but now I know it's not true, or even possible. And it's not even necessary. Of all the things I can't do, or do well enough, I've been lucky to find others who will enrich my boys' lives and pick up the slack.
05/10/2016 06:01 EDT
Single motherhood is undoubtedly the biggest undertaking I've ever managed. It's the most all-consuming task I've ever attempted. Some days I'm tired. Some days I'm not so happy. But I want to show my sons that certain things are in their control. I want them to go forward and make choices that bring them happiness. I want them to have faith and to be unafraid. This Mother's Day isn't just about me; it's about celebrating one another and our accomplishments as a little team.
05/02/2016 04:27 EDT
This was not the way I'd envisioned raising my kids: as part of a broken family, with so many overwhelming feelings and an inherent sadness that I can't easily fix. And I certainly had not expected my kids to struggle with our divorce for as long as they have. I hadn't known they would suffer so deeply.
04/25/2016 09:07 EDT
I'm a single mom, and I live with my two boys, ages five and seven, all by myself. I've become adept at managing the day-to-day routine alone. In fact, the idea of asking for help at this point is almost embarrassing. To me, relying on someone, asking for help, means I'm weak and needy.
04/22/2016 08:59 EDT
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