Heather Laura Clarke is a freelance journalist and columnist whose work appears in newspapers and magazines across Canada. She lives in Truro, Nova Scotia with her husband, son, and daughter, and blogs about her life as a work-at-home mom at LaptopsToLullabies.com.
While I was still under anaesthesia, my OB broke the news to my husband, and told him they had to make a decision on my behalf: I needed a hysterectomy, and it was either now or a few months down the road.
I don't judge my friends who work full-time (I'm completely proud and impressed by their success) and I don't judge my friends who don't work at all (I'm amazed by their patience and ability to put their careers on hold). The trouble is that moms feel the need to defend their position (myself included) whenever they feel it's being questioned, and sometimes it gets downright vicious. We've already established that there's no "perfect" solution that works for everyone, so it seems wrong that anyone has to compare themselves to anyone else (and feel guilty or insecure), but we're never going to get past it, it seems.
03/25/2015 05:50 EDT
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