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Josey Vogels


Josey Vogels is the author of two syndicated sex and relationships columns -- "My Messy Bedroom" and "Dating Girl" -- and blogs for several lifestyle websites. <br> <br> She has written five books on sex and relationships, including her most recent, <em>Bedside Manners: Sex Etiquette Made Easy</em>. Her sixth book will be published in spring 2011. <br> <br> A popular radio and TV host, Josey’s fresh and frank take on matters of the heart have made her Canada’s most popular sexpert. <br> For more info, visit <a href="" rel="nofollow"></a>. Follow her on Twitter @joseyvogels.
How to Put the Moves on Your Man This

How to Put the Moves on Your Man This V-Day

On average, men are four times more likely than women to be the regular initiators of sex (Valentine's Day or not). My experience has taught me that there are a myriad of reasons why women tend to hold back in bed, however, with all this love in the air, I think now is the perfect time to talk about role reversal.
02/13/2014 12:16 EST

Changing Manscape

While there seems to be some concern that all this primping and pampering is threatening more traditional notions of masculinity, I think it's about time. Given the work women have been putting into their appearances for ages, it only seems fair that guys at least worry a little bit about, oh, I don't know, their back hair.
02/21/2012 10:06 EST
Are Kids Who Watch Porn

Are Kids Who Watch Porn Sexxx-Obsessed?

While we assume that viewing all this sexual imagery will automatically turn today's kids into a bunch of porn-addicted, sexually depraved, emotionally stilted adults, no one wanted to pay for the research to prove it.
01/31/2012 09:23 EST
Couples Sleeping Separately: Why Separate Beds Can Save Your

Couples Sleeping Separately: Why Separate Beds Can Save Your Relationship

I love snuggling up to my guy. Drifting off while spooning together feels comfortable, sexy and cozy. Until he starts to snore. I'm a light sleeper -- increasingly so as I get older. So lately, when he's happily dozing, I've taken to giving him a kiss and a cuddle, then going to bed in the spare room, where I have a glorious sleep.
01/18/2012 04:47 EST
Snowballs, Hussies and the Evils of

Snowballs, Hussies and the Evils of Kissing

She called me a hussy. I didn't even know what the word meant. I was 11, after all. I just knew it was bad. My unspeakable trangression? I had crossed over into the boy's side of the schoolyard to rescue a massive snowball from the destructive forces of a hoard of 11 and 12-year-old boys.
01/05/2012 04:09 EST
Christmas Gift-Giving: The True Test of Your

Christmas Gift-Giving: The True Test of Your Relationship

The etiquette of gift giving in relationships isn't always obvious, particularly when it's early in a relationship. Emily Post never included a rule for how many times you have to sleep with someone before they warrant a Christmas present.
12/15/2011 08:46 EST
Have Sex Toys, Will

Have Sex Toys, Will Travel

I knew as soon as the words came out of my mouth that I was in for a hassle. I was just trying to be honest. After all, isn't that the best policy when you're crossing the border into the U.S.? Well, maybe not if you're en route to speak at a sex toy party convention.
11/29/2011 09:27 EST
Is Your Dog Ruining Your

Is Your Dog Ruining Your Relationship?

Some people need time to warm up to a dog, and you should allow for a bonding period. However if your date is disrespectful to your commitment to your dog, i.e., encourages you to leave him or her alone overnight "because, she'll be ok, it's just one night, or a few more hours," I think this a bad sign.
10/31/2011 09:10 EDT
Addicted to

Addicted to Porn

Like any other "addiction," I think a porn or sex addiction has more to do with our own abilities to cope and achieve healthy, interpersonal sexual and emotional relationships.
10/18/2011 12:24 EDT
The Other Reason Your Kids Don't Talk to You About

The Other Reason Your Kids Don't Talk to You About Sex

I realize a lot of kids feel like parents are the last people they want to talk to when it comes to sex, but isn't that partly because parents are still so awkward and obviously embarrassed by it themselves?
10/13/2011 09:26 EDT
If Women Don't Want Kids, Are They

If Women Don't Want Kids, Are They Inadequate?

Some people say that people who don't have children are selfish. And your point is? Yes, I like the freedom to work and enjoy life with just little old me to think about. Besides, give me a break. Why do you think people have kids? To further the human race? For the kid's sake? Doubtful.
09/23/2011 08:06 EDT
When Can't We Afford to Be Picky

When Can't We Afford to Be Picky Daters?

You have to decide what you can and can't live with. If she's gotta be blonde and thin, that's your thing. Don't apologize for it. But if you're frustrated because you're not finding blonde, thin women, that's a problem. You might try adding a few other items to your list.
09/10/2011 10:14 EDT
Why I Bothered to Get Married at

Why I Bothered to Get Married at 40

Why do you need to be married to have your relationship taken seriously? After all, it's just a piece of paper. But it's as if marriage, much like being pregnant, suddenly makes your life a public success. Whew, you made it girl! It's disturbing.
08/24/2011 11:41 EDT

"Love Conquers All" and More Bad Relationship Advice

Living better is often based on clichéd advice and I think it's time to put a stop to it, because frankly, there's some advice, especially when it comes to relationships, that needs to be taken with a grain, heck, make that a whole block, of salt.
08/17/2011 09:42 EDT
Sex Surveys Have Become More Popular Than Actually Doing

Sex Surveys Have Become More Popular Than Actually Doing it

We may be unable to share our most intimate sexual secrets with our partners, but we seem more than willing to expose ourselves publicly. Why the obsession with everybody else's sex lives? I suspect it's our way of seeing if we're keeping up with the Joneses.
06/30/2011 04:01 EDT