Author, life coach and mother supporting other co-parents with her forthcoming book "Co-Parenting from the Inside Out: Voices of Moms and Dads".
Karen co-parented her sons, now grown, with their father from when they were 5 and 8. A life coach, her goal is to support moms and dads who are sharing parenting post-divorce through her forthcoming book, Co-Parenting from the Inside Out: Voices of Moms and Dads. Follow Karen @CoParentAuthor, KarenKristjanson@wordpress.com
Accepting that the marriage is really over is hard for many divorcing parents. In my case, although I initiated the split, I could only look sideways at myself as a soon-to-be-divorced woman. The pain surrounding that was too overpowering to take in all at once -- I felt it would have squashed me if I tried. So I got to know it gradually, with support, until I could stare it right in the eye.
Feelings are great, when they're positive. We smile and high-five to share our exuberance. As co-parents after divorce, we're more in the negative territory at first -- anger, sadness, longing. Who wants to feel those? Easier to ignore them, or distract ourselves with a glass of wine or a movie until the feelings go away.