You know you're getting old when you cheer upon discovering John Hughes's classic 1985 teen movie <em>The Breakfast Club </em>is on television on a Saturday night. But now that I am a parent, I watched this movie through an entirely different lens, and many scenes just plain irk me now.
Kathy Kaufield is a writer, communications consultant and mother of two young girls. She’s a former political reporter, columnist and news editor who now writes about the ups and downs of parenting instead of politics. She’s discovered her guilt-easing mantra “Well, at least I don’t smoke crack” makes her feel better about a multitude of parental transgressions. You can read her regular parenting column at www.welcometobrunch.com. Follow her on Twitter @kaufield.
Tears in my eyes, I looked up from my nursing chair at The Hubster, who had our hungry newborn daughter in his arms. I felt like I was trapped in a cruel science experiment to determine how much nipple pain an exhausted new mother could take in two hour intervals before she cracked. Expectant first-time moms: Breastfeeding is hard.
07/23/2014 12:29 EDT
My daughter's Girl Guide leader grabbed me by the shoulders, looked me squarely in the eye and said: "Goodbye Mama." "But, but, but," I sputtered, aghast. I was dropping my 10-year-old daughter off at her Girl Guide camp.
06/30/2014 01:09 EDT
The families left behind -- that's what is hitting me the hardest in the wake of last week's tragedy in Moncton that saw three RCMP officers -- three fathers -- gunned down. This weekend is Father's Day -- the first in a series of terrible 'firsts' that these will families have to face without husbands and fathers.
06/11/2014 12:41 EDT
My girls have never wanted to answer the phone when it rings or make calls or be the voice on our recorded message. When I pass them the phone to chat with their grandmothers, they look at me like I handed them a grenade. I've reviewed some rules of phone etiquette with them (with obviously not enough emphasis on the consequences of prank calls!), but they need practise to feel confident.
06/04/2014 12:16 EDT
"Mom, will you snuggle with me?" my 10-year-old will ask, her arms outstretched from her bed, as I turn to leave her dark room. "Not tonight, sweetie." That's the answer I've been giving her all too often these days, even though I feel a stab of guilt every time I say it.
05/25/2014 10:18 EDT
Well, we've been having some interesting family discussions over dinner recently. Topics have included: marijuana, driver reaction time after consuming alcohol, how nicotine stains your fingers; the intense pain caused by Tasering; bras and body hair. One night, we even examined diagrams of male and female reproductive organs.
05/05/2014 01:04 EDT
It wasn't always this way. My oldest was shocked to discover that all Laura Ingalls got for Christmas one year was a rag doll, an orange, a piece of candy and some socks. My daughters' eyes pop out of their heads when their Granny tells them that when she was a little girl, Santa brought an apple, an orange and one toy for each child in her large family.
04/18/2014 11:54 EDT
We've been trapped inside by icy concussion-inducing, deathtrap snow. I'm like a bear in hibernation, except I'm adding to my fat rather than living off it. I feel like I'm in some kind of dreary winter-induced coma. My youngest didn't wear socks to daycare during the last snowstorm, and I didn't even notice.
04/07/2014 01:08 EDT
Which memories will our children remember forever and which are they going to forget? Are they going to remember the few times I got upset when they spilled their milk or all the times I told them not to worry about it? Are they going to remember all the times I attended their school events or the few times I couldn't be there?
03/25/2014 12:38 EDT
My 10-year-old daughter brought math questions home from school that I struggled to answer. I drew a complete blank on how to calculate the perimeter of a rectangle. Yep, I can now conclusively answer the question, "Are you smarter than a fifth grader?" No. No, I am not.
03/10/2014 12:37 EDT
I get my "friend fix" every Saturday morning at my youngest daughter's gymnastics class. So here's my question: Why do I feel like I need the "excuse" of gymnastics class to spend time with my friends? Maintaining my friendships is an important part of maintaining my well-being.
02/25/2014 05:08 EST
Parenthood has completely changed my idea of romance of course. A "Before Kids" Valentine's Day involved detailed planning, a nice restaurant, dress-up clothes, red roses and lengthy love notes handwritten on delicate pink stationary. An "After Kids" Valentine's Day involves, um, not much.
02/10/2014 05:07 EST
Here's something you don't want to hear from another mother: "Hey, your daughter taught my son how to say the F-word." Yep. There it is. A proud parenting moment indeed.
02/03/2014 01:49 EST
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