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Ken Rabow

The Mentor's Mentor for Troubled Teens, Young Adults and their Families

Ken Rabow is the Mentor's Mentor for troubled teens, young adults and their families, training mentors and helping young adults succeed in all aspects of their lives. Check out Ken's book: The Slacker's Guide to Success

Please feel free to email any questions on this or any topic to ken@reallifecoaching.ca or visit www.MentoringYoungAdults.com.
The Greatest Gift I Ever Got Was Giving My Haasen Fraas

The Greatest Gift I Ever Got Was Giving My Haasen Fraas Away

I was meant to give that ice cream to those people. To have all the people in the airport help me out on my odd quest and it would not possibly have been as sweet, if the ice cream had survived. So what did I learn? If I had kept it all for myself I would have had nothing.
09/19/2014 01:19 EDT
Millennials, Do This To Get the Most From Your

Millennials, Do This To Get the Most From Your Mentors

Learn from the past and set a course for a new future. This is the job your Mentor should join you in but remember, it is YOU who must be in command. Use your courage to venture forth, your wisdom to assess, your determination to soldier on in the face of setbacks and your faith to learn from those around you.
09/04/2014 04:55 EDT
Why We Should Mentor Millennials Suffering From Mental

Why We Should Mentor Millennials Suffering From Mental Illness

Some with Bipolar or other mental health issues but they had one advantage that Robin Williams did not (I really wasn't going to say me, please)... they had not learned how to succeed in life. They were stuck and nothing before our work had worked.
09/01/2014 04:32 EDT
How to Have

How to Have Compassion

As a life coach, I work with all sorts of people in their teens and 20s. I learn from all of them. One of my most powerful learning lessons came from a 13-year-old client with Autism, who allowed me to see the dangers of people in power trying to "do the right thing." I am pleased to share with you now the inner workings of one the most interesting minds I have ever met.
03/04/2014 02:10 EST
Finding the Confidence to Find

Finding the Confidence to Find Love

You can't just give up because you haven't found love or met people who live their lives based on appearances or fear. You know that. Tell yourself: "I deserve to be loved. I deserve happiness and I will be patient and relentless in my pursuit of both." Say it again.
02/11/2014 12:10 EST
Baby-Boomers and Millenials, Do These Seven Things to Survive Each

Baby-Boomers and Millenials, Do These Seven Things to Survive Each Other

Avoid really talking to each other! Talking is vastly over-rated. All it does it force you to actually hear the other's side of things and that can only lead to understanding. which makes resentment much more difficult. Circumvent occasions for pleasantries. Nothing good comes from giving the other person the benefit of the doubt.
01/26/2014 10:06 EST
Millenials, Save Yourselves With These Do's and

Millenials, Save Yourselves With These Do's and Don'ts

You are not brilliant because you could play three strings on a guitar when you first picked it up. Your artwork really was just pieces of pasta, glue and paint... it wasn't "just like Van Gogh". It wasn't the cutest thing when you first passed gas (or the last time in front of Grammie).
01/14/2014 05:24 EST
The Slacker's Guide To Success -- In

The Slacker's Guide To Success -- In Conclusion

So you went from being a slacker with unrealized potential to a mover and shaker in the world in 13 steps. Or more likely, you just read all the blog versions of the whole book (without skipping over too much, I hope) and you are wondering a bunch of questions. I will answer the questions first and then get to the ones who have gone through the 13 steps.
10/09/2012 05:26 EDT
The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step 13: Helping Others Helps

The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step 13: Helping Others Helps You

Most people feel something missing in their lives. So, how do we bring meaning into our lives? How do we begin to feel truly alive? Do something crazy! Help someone else. Choose to make one small positive change in the world. When we start thinking about helping others, we raise not only their hopes but our own heart vibrations. Our hearts rise up beyond the petty slights and missteps of daily life and begin to focus on a bigger picture.
10/07/2012 08:53 EDT
The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Twelve: Living a Full

The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Twelve: Living a Full Life

When you are mindful of your daily life, your life is one of being present. Of really living and not just killing time to go virtual. Learning to care and to matter may be one of the greatest commodities in the age of ideas because then your work, play, study and relationship times become chances to experience, feel, think and grow. Live each day like it was the only one you have. Care about people and learn from everything.
10/01/2012 05:22 EDT
The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Eleven: The Good Thing About

The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Eleven: The Good Thing About Addictions

The young clients I work with tend to be addicted to: video gaming, magic cards, junk food and/or cannabis. Many would say that their addictions seem to provide a level of comfort -- a buffer from an unsafe world. Having an addictive nature means that you have a passionate nature. So, how do you take these passions and make them become something generative?
09/30/2012 03:16 EDT
The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Ten: From Crud to

The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Ten: From Crud to Cred

So here you are, taking another stab at "making it" in life. Your parents are cautiously optimistic.You are non-committal. Your dog still thinks you're amazing (but he likes Yanni). It should go well. You're older. You've had a few "challenges" under you belt and you've survived. You're not on the street or in a cult or both. Then why so nervous?
09/26/2012 02:45 EDT
The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Nine: Feeling Safe

The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Nine: Feeling Safe "Out There"

In a positive stage of your life, you're meeting with people who will accept you for following your purpose and sharing the qualities of passion and striving that you have in common. Each positive action builds upon itself. Each setback becomes merely a minor bump on the road you are travelling on and everything leads you towards your bliss. You may just find yourself unboxed and free for the very first time!
09/22/2012 11:21 EDT
The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Eight: Doing It In The Real

The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Eight: Doing It In The Real World

You can study, you can practice, you can philosophize all you want, it means diddly until you test it out there in the "real world." Now comes the next step for a young adult searching to find their success in life: putting three toes in the water. If you get three straight failures, remember Edison took 10,000 wrong tries to find the right filament, creating the incandescent bulb.
09/14/2012 05:38 EDT
The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Seven: Being Your

The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Seven: Being Your Best

What would you do? How would you be? How would you go about it? Who would you seek out? What if it wasn't what you thought it would be? How would you know when you'd arrived? Be careful for what you wish for. I am going to give you the keys to make whatever you want happen as long as it is for the benefit of all who are touched by your choices.
09/12/2012 04:11 EDT
The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Six: How to Beat Your Time

The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Six: How to Beat Your Time Stealer

Now meet your greatest challenger: the time-stealer. He (or she) is fun, charming, great to be with, someone you are happy to do things with, gets all your jokes, just all around great to kill time with. Yes, the time-stealer is a time-killer. You never get it back, and yet, you value the time spent with them.
09/11/2012 03:31 EDT
The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Four:

The Slacker's Guide To Success -- Step Four: Generativity

We need to own what we do. The truth is that it is the things we do just for ourselves, things that we do on a daily basis, things we do when we are inspired but also when we are sick of doing them that builds character and creates something I call Generativity -- the things that one does that improve the quality of life in any way, moment by moment.
09/02/2012 02:51 EDT