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Marcia Sirota

Author, speaker, coach and MD

Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.
Spoiling Your Teen Is Ruining Their

Spoiling Your Teen Is Ruining Their Life

With Family Day fresh in my mind, I've been thinking about the way some teenagers are growing up these days. I see these kids all over. They're angry and frustrated, miserable and lost, and it's mainly the fault of their parents who've been letting them down.
02/27/2017 12:49 EST
What Happens To The Children Of Extreme

What Happens To The Children Of Extreme Narcissists?

I recently wrote a post about who marries an extreme narcissist. Now, I'm going to talk about what happens to the children of extreme narcissists. In my practice as a psychiatrist, I've encountered many such children and they've all been adversely affected by having one or both parents with this personality type.
02/23/2017 04:50 EST
What Do Addicts, Serial Killers And Billionaires Have In

What Do Addicts, Serial Killers And Billionaires Have In Common?

What all these people share is the fact that their actions are driven by a powerful need within them. And interestingly, although the choices they make in trying to satisfy this need might be very different, each one of them has the exact same need.
02/09/2017 11:50 EST
Don't Let The Extreme Narcissists Of The World Silence

Don't Let The Extreme Narcissists Of The World Silence You

The powerful extreme narcissist will never stop trying to silence those who question or oppose them but when we unite, we become equally powerful, if not more so. When we stand together and stand up up for what's right, we become empowered to create positive change in our own lives and in the world.
02/06/2017 11:53 EST
A Word On Extreme Narcissists In The Wake Of Trump's

A Word On Extreme Narcissists In The Wake Of Trump's Inauguration

It's 2017 and extreme narcissists are among us. These toxic individuals are a real problem, as they're destructive and often dangerous. When an extreme narcissist holds a position of power, say, as the head of a corporation or a country, we're in a mess of trouble.
01/23/2017 11:32 EST
Celebrating Michelle Obama's Legacy Of

Celebrating Michelle Obama's Legacy Of Kindness

She inspired Americans to be more caring and respectful toward one-another, as she never treated anyone with less than the utmost respect. For that reason, she won the love, respect and admiration of her fellow Americans. Many First Ladies are respected and admired, it's true, but few were as deeply loved as Mrs. Obama has been.
01/17/2017 04:09 EST
Stop Being A User And Open Your Heart To

Stop Being A User And Open Your Heart To Others

Using people or things isn't a valid solution to our feelings of loneliness, emptiness and alienation. Consuming things -- or other people -- has never made anyone happy. That's why someone who uses other people or things in order to fill the void is compelled to keep on being a user. It never feels like enough.
01/03/2017 03:31 EST
Getting Into The 'Holiday Spirit' 365 Days A

Getting Into The 'Holiday Spirit' 365 Days A Year

This time of year, we're told to be more loving. We're encouraged to get into the "holiday spirit." We're supposed to be more giving, more understanding. But what if we don't feel particularly connected to other people? It's hard to be loving when you don't feel much love.
12/28/2016 03:13 EST
Men Like Trump Are Why Society Turns On Victims Of Sexual

Men Like Trump Are Why Society Turns On Victims Of Sexual Assault

We see how women aren't taken seriously by almost anyone when they speak up about their experiences of sexual abuse, assault or harassment. As a result, we grow up not trusting that in matters of sexual abuse, assault or harassment, we'll be taken seriously or accorded our proper rights.
10/27/2016 03:05 EDT
The Most Effective Managers Are Kind, Not

The Most Effective Managers Are Kind, Not Nice

Even though the workplace is not the same as the home, and even though the people at work aren't our family, when we're grouped together day after day with the same individuals, we human beings naturally have family-type reactions to one-another. In other words, interpersonal dynamics at work will often mirror familial ones.
10/18/2016 07:49 EDT
Workplace Burnout Comes Down To Employees Being Too

Workplace Burnout Comes Down To Employees Being Too 'Nice'

The problem is that it's overwhelming to be always doing more than your fair share in your workplace. Being the "nice" person at work invariably leads to mounting stress, exhaustion, frustration and ultimately burnout, when you can no longer cope with the pressures of having to over-perform.
10/17/2016 04:26 EDT
Learning To Communicate With Your

Learning To Communicate With Your Teen

Teens need to feel connected to their parents if they're going to open up to them, but it's harder these days for teens to connect. Social media makes it easier to be isolated and disconnected from parents and peers, as teens can opt to plug in to their technology and stay plugged in, rather than build real-life relationships.
09/28/2016 11:39 EDT
Grace VanderWaal Deserved To Win AGT, But Should She

Grace VanderWaal Deserved To Win AGT, But Should She Have?

I think that Grace VanderWaal is really special, and I would have preferred it if the big success could have been delayed a bit, so that she could have maintained her innocence for just a little while longer and enjoyed the rest of her childhood. And is Las Vegas the place that any decent parent wants their twelve-year-old hanging out in?
09/16/2016 03:39 EDT
What It Takes To Raise A

What It Takes To Raise A Teenager

Parents need to walk that fine line between allowing their teens to fail and make mistakes, so that they can learn from these experiences, and keeping them from being self-destructive or self-defeating. It's important that teens see that their actions have consequences and learn from their own experiences what works for them and what doesn't work. The parents' role is to make sure that the consequences to their teen aren't so severe that there's no coming back.
09/13/2016 12:14 EDT
Ryan Lochte Lied. So What Does That Mean To The Rest Of

Ryan Lochte Lied. So What Does That Mean To The Rest Of Us?

Ryan Lochte's lie shows us that often, lying just makes things worse. If we mess up, it's better to just admit it and take the consequences like a grown-up. If we lie to avoid getting into trouble, we can make a lot more trouble for ourselves, in the long run. And if we don't get caught in our lie, that's even worse. We can start to think that we can get away with more bad behaviour, or that lying like this is acceptable.
08/22/2016 05:20 EDT
Heaven Help A U.S. More Concerned By Orlando's Junk Than

Heaven Help A U.S. More Concerned By Orlando's Junk Than Trump

Donald Trump may get to be president of the United States, and if he does, it will in large part be because the U.S. populace is more interested in re-tweeting pictures of Orlando Bloom's genitalia than in finding out who the Republican candidate really is and what his intentions are for the great United States of America.
08/05/2016 12:00 EDT
Leslie Jones And The Crime Of Shattering Male

Leslie Jones And The Crime Of Shattering Male Expectations

The fact that Ms. Jones loves herself -- the fact of her obvious confidence and the ease with which she speaks her mind -- well, that's an awful affront to the misogynists who expect a "woman like her," i.e. "not pretty enough" or light-skinned enough (in their tiny minds) to stay in the background with her mouth firmly shut.
07/22/2016 04:09 EDT
Swift-Kardashian-West Feud A Circus Of Narcissism And

Swift-Kardashian-West Feud A Circus Of Narcissism And Bullying

The problem for Ms. Swift is two-fold: she's a super-successful female in a world that is deeply ambivalent, at best, about female success, and also, she mines her life for her music, angering a lot of people in the process. If she happens to poke the wrong person, or dragon, they'll rain down fire upon her.
07/19/2016 12:55 EDT
After The Orlando Massacre, So Many Questions And So Few

After The Orlando Massacre, So Many Questions And So Few Answers

Instead of seeing this man as a radicalized religious terrorist, we could consider the possibility that his ambivalence about his sexuality and his shame about his preferences made him despise and want to punish those people whom he desired. It certainly wouldn't be the first case of this happening.
06/16/2016 10:58 EDT