Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.
We see how women aren't taken seriously by almost anyone when they speak up about their experiences of sexual abuse, assault or harassment. As a result, we grow up not trusting that in matters of sexual abuse, assault or harassment, we'll be taken seriously or accorded our proper rights.
Even though the workplace is not the same as the home, and even though the people at work aren't our family, when we're grouped together day after day with the same individuals, we human beings naturally have family-type reactions to one-another. In other words, interpersonal dynamics at work will often mirror familial ones.
10/18/2016 07:49 EDT
The problem is that it's overwhelming to be always doing more than your fair share in your workplace. Being the "nice" person at work invariably leads to mounting stress, exhaustion, frustration and ultimately burnout, when you can no longer cope with the pressures of having to over-perform.
10/17/2016 04:26 EDT
Teens need to feel connected to their parents if they're going to open up to them, but it's harder these days for teens to connect. Social media makes it easier to be isolated and disconnected from parents and peers, as teens can opt to plug in to their technology and stay plugged in, rather than build real-life relationships.
09/28/2016 11:39 EDT
I think that Grace VanderWaal is really special, and I would have preferred it if the big success could have been delayed a bit, so that she could have maintained her innocence for just a little while longer and enjoyed the rest of her childhood. And is Las Vegas the place that any decent parent wants their twelve-year-old hanging out in?
09/16/2016 03:39 EDT
Parents need to walk that fine line between allowing their teens to fail and make mistakes, so that they can learn from these experiences, and keeping them from being self-destructive or self-defeating. It's important that teens see that their actions have consequences and learn from their own experiences what works for them and what doesn't work. The parents' role is to make sure that the consequences to their teen aren't so severe that there's no coming back.
09/13/2016 12:14 EDT
Ryan Lochte's lie shows us that often, lying just makes things worse. If we mess up, it's better to just admit it and take the consequences like a grown-up. If we lie to avoid getting into trouble, we can make a lot more trouble for ourselves, in the long run. And if we don't get caught in our lie, that's even worse. We can start to think that we can get away with more bad behaviour, or that lying like this is acceptable.
08/22/2016 05:20 EDT
Donald Trump may get to be president of the United States, and if he does, it will in large part be because the U.S. populace is more interested in re-tweeting pictures of Orlando Bloom's genitalia than in finding out who the Republican candidate really is and what his intentions are for the great United States of America.
08/05/2016 12:00 EDT
The fact that Ms. Jones loves herself -- the fact of her obvious confidence and the ease with which she speaks her mind -- well, that's an awful affront to the misogynists who expect a "woman like her," i.e. "not pretty enough" or light-skinned enough (in their tiny minds) to stay in the background with her mouth firmly shut.
07/22/2016 04:09 EDT
The problem for Ms. Swift is two-fold: she's a super-successful female in a world that is deeply ambivalent, at best, about female success, and also, she mines her life for her music, angering a lot of people in the process. If she happens to poke the wrong person, or dragon, they'll rain down fire upon her.
07/19/2016 12:55 EDT
Instead of seeing this man as a radicalized religious terrorist, we could consider the possibility that his ambivalence about his sexuality and his shame about his preferences made him despise and want to punish those people whom he desired. It certainly wouldn't be the first case of this happening.
06/16/2016 10:58 EDT
I'm in great shape, emotionally and physically... I've learned some new tips for balancing all the things that I like to do, and as a result, I'm enjoying my practice in a way that I hadn't been, previously. Taking time away from work has renewed my love for the job and has made me a better therapist, as a result.
06/06/2016 11:28 EDT
If you're a caring parent, of course you want the best for your children. You think about their future and want them to be happy, healthy and successful in life. You want them to have good relationships when they grow up; meaningful pastimes and success in whatever job or career they eventually choose. When it comes to their future work life, they'll need important guidance from you, their parents.
05/30/2016 11:41 EDT
The true power of the video and the reason why so many people watched it, was the fact that Candace Payne was able to laugh out loud without an ounce of self-consciousness. Ms. Payne was willing to look silly online, and I think that this ability to be so authentic and free was the real reason why her video got over 140 million views.
05/27/2016 09:57 EDT
I've come to see that instead of wasting time on people and activities that deplete me, I need to "waste" my time procrastinating and playing, so that many more absurd and ridiculous ideas can trickle into my conscious awareness.
05/24/2016 12:59 EDT
Being talented, driven, confident, curious, creative, courageous and ambitious are all necessities if you want to be a success in any field, but they're not enough. The interpersonal component can make or break even the most promising career. The bottom line is that if you don't know how to relate to other people it will be difficult, if not impossible, to succeed in your career.
05/19/2016 12:07 EDT
The right man for an ambitious woman is the type who is inspired, impressed and excited by her achievements and her goals, and who has interests of his own to share with you. He should be supportive and encouraging and never make you feel guilty about the time and energy you spend at work.
05/13/2016 03:12 EDT
There are lots of things that people say about how to overcome food cravings, but I have a sure-fire way that anyone can use, with guaranteed results. There are three steps to overcoming your food cravings, and you'll need to do all three if you want to succeed.
05/11/2016 10:01 EDT
I can think of many times when I ignored what I saw in a person or a situation. Initially, it seems so much easier to see what we prefer to see, rather than face the unpleasant truth of what's actually there. Still, what I've realized is that no matter how difficult it is to acknowledge the signs of trouble in our relationships or environment, it's always better to do so.
05/09/2016 09:39 EDT
In thinking about what it was that made people love him so much, I came to the conclusion that it was because he was completely and utterly himself. He was always authentic to his vision and unafraid to do things exactly his way. He was someone who was truly free.
05/06/2016 11:09 EDT
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