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Marcia Sirota

Author, speaker, coach and MD

Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.
Why Are Some Siblings So Hateful Towards Each

Why Are Some Siblings So Hateful Towards Each Other?

Siblings can be our best friends or our worst enemies. I've heard of one sibling giving up a kidney for another; being a surrogate for another one's pregnancy, or giving another sibling the down-payment for a house. So what makes one sibling loving and the other hurtful? Mostly, it comes down to what happened during childhood.
03/01/2016 02:47 EST
Why Is Kesha Being

Why Is Kesha Being Punished?

Sexual assault against women is rampant. Thousands of women are subject to it, every day, all over the world. Here in North America, where we pride ourselves on fairness and justice, women who make claims of sexual assault are often denied justice and even more often, they're raked over the coals by the lawyers of the men who've been accused.
02/24/2016 11:44 EST
5 Bad Breakup Mistakes You Want To

5 Bad Breakup Mistakes You Want To Avoid

If you're unhappy in your relationship and you've tried unsuccessfully to make it work, you're only prolonging your misery by not ending things. People tend to indulge in a lot of false hope that a person or situation will change, but if you've tried and tried and your relationship is no better, maybe it's time to cut your losses and get out.
02/22/2016 07:02 EST
The Connection Between Childhood Experiences And Adult

The Connection Between Childhood Experiences And Adult Problems

Every person who's walked through my office door suffering from depression, anxiety, relationship or work problems, low self-esteem or addiction has a history of some type of adversity in their childhood. It's become clear to me by listening to their stories that were it not for these painful events, the person wouldn't be struggling as much as they are, today.
02/17/2016 05:23 EST
5 Behaviours Guaranteed To Prevent Happiness And Success In Your

5 Behaviours Guaranteed To Prevent Happiness And Success In Your Life

Have you ever considered the behaviours that are holding you back from achieving your goals in life? If you aren't where you want to be in your career or finances; if your relationships aren't as positive as they could be... you might want to take a look at this list.
02/09/2016 09:42 EST
10 Attitudes That Will Bring You

10 Attitudes That Will Bring You Happiness

For people who want to be successful in life, there isn't always a clear road map. There are many coaches, writers and experts vying for your attention, each one with their own set of directions that you're supposed to follow in order to achieve happiness and success.
02/09/2016 03:38 EST
Is Marco Muzzo's Tragic Case An Example Of Overly Permissive

Is Marco Muzzo's Tragic Case An Example Of Overly Permissive Parenting?

It's clear that Mr. Muzzo's parents adore him, but I wonder if his parents had tried to intervene earlier on, calling him on his drinking, his fast driving and his general risk-taking behaviour. I wonder if more input from his parents could have prevented this tragedy from happening.
02/05/2016 10:51 EST
These 'Romantic' Gestures In Media Can Be Abusive In Real

These 'Romantic' Gestures In Media Can Be Abusive In Real Life

On TV and in the movies, we see men and women exhibiting terrible behaviours, but the characters on the receiving end most often react as though these actions were reasonable and acceptable, giving the viewing audience the wrong message about how to go about their own relationships.
02/05/2016 04:55 EST
5 Ways For Single People To Have More Love On Valentine's

5 Ways For Single People To Have More Love On Valentine's Day

Even if you feel lonely on Valentine's Day, you can bring more love to yourself and to others. And who knows, with all this love in your heart, you might just attract a new partner into your life in the coming days. Here are five ways to do just that.
02/04/2016 12:09 EST
Texters, Daters And The Challenges Of Modern

Texters, Daters And The Challenges Of Modern Love

In speaking with numerous women over the past several years, I've heard all sorts of dating stories, and it seems that there are two types of men, these days: men who want to meet in person and men who don't: the daters and the texters.
02/03/2016 10:33 EST
10 Signs That You're On A Bad First

10 Signs That You're On A Bad First Date

I've noticed that sometimes, people on a date are miserable but feel compelled to stay until the logical conclusion of the activity, whether it's coffee, a meal or drinks. They don't realize that they're free to end the date at any point if they're not feeling it or if they're not having a good time.
02/01/2016 10:28 EST
10 Signs That You're In An Emotionally Abusive

10 Signs That You're In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

An emotionally abusive relationship can be just as damaging as a physically abusive one, but it can also be more difficult to identify. You're likely to stay longer with someone who's abusing you in a more subtle way, so it's important to recognize the signs of emotional abuse, as this will help you to get away from a toxic partner sooner rather than later.
01/28/2016 09:55 EST
Superficial Small Talk Is Step One To Creating

Superficial Small Talk Is Step One To Creating Intimacy

It's been my experience, on a personal and professional level, that for real connections to happen, we need to move slowly in our process of opening up. I understand Mr. Boomer's frustration with the unending stream of platitudes he was encountering, but I don't think that going to the other extreme is the answer.
01/25/2016 04:09 EST
Why We Need to Boycott This Year's Lily-White

Why We Need to Boycott This Year's Lily-White Oscars

It's almost as though the many brilliant actors, writers, and directors of colour aren't even considered for the vote. It's like they don't even factor into the equation. I can tolerate a lack of imagination in the vote, where people are often rewarded more for their years of service than for the quality of their current work, but I can't sit by saying nothing about the shocking lack of diversity in the pool of nominees, two years in a row.
01/22/2016 05:34 EST
Parents With Authority Make For Happy, Stable

Parents With Authority Make For Happy, Stable Families

Children don't need their parents to be their friends. That's what they have peers for. A family is one place where a hierarchy is not only appropriate, it's ideal, as children need guidance, limits, and consequences as well as love, care and nurturing.
01/13/2016 02:48 EST
Our Entitlement Epidemic Spans From School To

Our Entitlement Epidemic Spans From School To Workplace

Whether at home, at school or at work, over-entitlement leads to selfish, insensitive, lazy, even defiant behaviour. Children, students and workers who are coddled and treated too permissively tend to aggravate their siblings, fellow students and colleagues, and are far less productive than they're capable of being.
01/07/2016 11:58 EST
Personal Growth Work In 2016? It's Worth The

Personal Growth Work In 2016? It's Worth The Effort

If you're unwilling to do the work, your attitude is self-defeatist. Your reluctance to roll up your sleeves and do what has to be done is probably what's holding you back from getting what you truly desire in life.
01/06/2016 10:49 EST
Bill Cosby's Charges Show Us How The Legal System Fails

Bill Cosby's Charges Show Us How The Legal System Fails Women

I've been writing about the politics of sexual assault for a while now, and it seems apparent that for a woman who's been sexually assaulted, the decision to go to the police and to press charges is fraught with complications. She not only has to consider the discomfort of her assault becoming public knowledge, but she must face the daunting possibility that her reputation will be dragged through the mud by the defendant's attorney; that the DA will choose, as Mr. Coster did, not to prosecute; or that the judge will find for the defendant.
12/31/2015 11:19 EST