Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.
I felt fortunate to witness this incredibly awkward moment was because it illustrated to me an important lesson both in human frailty and in human resilience. It was one of the worst possible things that could go wrong -- followed by a surprising and excellent recovery which I saw as tremendously reassuring.
Intimacy requires authenticity, because if you're not real, the other person can't see you for who you are. If you're never authentic, other people will be interacting with a persona, and you won't be loved for your true self. Even if you're in a relationship, you'll be terribly lonely.
12/23/2015 03:08 EST
Every year, there are always people who don't look forward to the holiday season. Some have difficult relationships with their family members, some are feeling lonely and isolated and some are financially strapped.
12/21/2015 09:56 EST
Not being true to your authentic self can result in anxiety, depression, frustration, addiction, and a lack of meaning and fulfillment in your life.
12/16/2015 12:04 EST
When you're loving and giving, the people on the receiving end of your kindness and generosity are touched by your warmth and it often moves them and inspires them to be more loving and giving to those around them, as well.
12/08/2015 12:39 EST
If you want to have a better 2016, hold off on making New Year's resolutions and just focus on self-love. Identify and let go of the negative stories about yourself that you've been walking around with; see yourself as someone with infinite potential and recognize that there's really nothing to stop you from pursuing your goals.
12/01/2015 05:06 EST
It's only through self-acceptance that you can find lasting and sustaining motivation to improve yourself and your life. Positive energy supports positive change; negativity promotes paralysis.
11/25/2015 11:36 EST
We are all connected, even if the terrorists try their hardest to push us apart. Our true power comes not from hatred but from love; not from defensiveness or aggression but from compassion.
11/19/2015 04:43 EST
I've learned that when you want to support someone who's critically ill, loving them isn't enough; you have to meet them where they are. That means letting go of your wishful thinking, your denial, or your selfish need to put a positive spin on things and allowing the other person -- the one who's dying -- to set the tone.
11/16/2015 04:48 EST
Instead of getting what they want, the overly nice person will be used, abused and belittled. It's very confusing to them. Often, they think that what's called for is to be more pleasing. Of course, this only increases the persecution they're experiencing.
11/11/2015 03:57 EST
Just this week, Aritzia, a popular retail clothing business, was called out for racism when one of its Toronto store employees was overheard by a customer making a racist remark. Aside from it being a toxic, terrible mindset, prejudice as a business practice makes no sense.
10/30/2015 02:34 EDT
Instead of trying to get your parents to love and validate you today, you'd be better off facing the truth about them, giving up your futile attempts at winning their love, and focusing your attention instead on developing the self-love and self-confidence that your childhood deprived you of.
10/29/2015 12:26 EDT
When siblings are raised in environments where there's conflict, chaos, rejection or a lack of protection, it has an enormous impact on how they end up relating to each-other in adult life. Over the years, I've seen a lot of patients whose siblings have behaved in strange or hostile ways toward them.
10/28/2015 08:04 EDT
I'm hoping that Mr. Trudeau will surround himself with the best and brightest of the Liberal Party, and with a combination of intelligence, character and willingness to learn, as well as their guidance, he'll grow into the great leader that this country needs and deserves.
10/20/2015 07:51 EDT
I've noticed that often, bosses themselves are intimidated by the bullies in their workforce. They fail to protect those being bullied for fear of how the bully will react. They don't want to get on the bad side of such an aggressive, unreasonable person.
10/19/2015 01:02 EDT
I remember in the fall of 1993, when the Blue Jays last won the World Series, and how the celebrations in the streets went on all night long. Even those of us who weren't die-hard baseball fans were caught up in the thrill of our home team winning the series. We were all proud Torontonians, and we felt the communal aspect of the win. When we watch sports on TV, we can't help but have strong emotions.
10/14/2015 06:00 EDT
Here we are in 2015, and women who go public to accuse men of sexual assault end up being doubly attacked. First, they must deal with the physical and emotional trauma related to their experiences of assault, and second, they must contend with the negative reaction of the public and the ensuing damage to their reputations.
10/14/2015 05:54 EDT
Small business week is here, and it's got me reflecting on my own journey as an entrepreneur. I've learned many lessons along the way. One story stands out as a cautionary tale to anyone who hopes to work in collaboration with other entrepreneurs.
10/13/2015 02:55 EDT
I take voting very seriously and make sure to vote in every election. I'm fortunate that most of the people I'm close to share the same political views as I do. Thinking about this made me wonder, what do you do when your spouse or romantic partner has opposing political views from you?
10/10/2015 10:08 EDT
Canadians and Americans alike love Thanksgiving. It's a time to gather with family and friends and celebrate the harvest season. It's a time to reconnect with people we haven't seen in a while, to eat a delicious meal, relax and enjoy ourselves. Unfortunately, in many families, there are one or two people who can ruin the experience for everyone else.
10/07/2015 12:44 EDT
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