In speaking with numerous women over the past several years, I've heard all sorts of dating stories, and it seems that there are two types of men, these days: men who want to meet in person and men who don't: the daters and the texters.
Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.
Today, more than ever, a woman needs to know what to look for on a first date; the things that would make it great, as well as the red flags she should be aware of, in order to be safe.
02/01/2016 10:44 EST
I've noticed that sometimes, people on a date are miserable but feel compelled to stay until the logical conclusion of the activity, whether it's coffee, a meal or drinks. They don't realize that they're free to end the date at any point if they're not feeling it or if they're not having a good time.
02/01/2016 10:28 EST
An emotionally abusive relationship can be just as damaging as a physically abusive one, but it can also be more difficult to identify. You're likely to stay longer with someone who's abusing you in a more subtle way, so it's important to recognize the signs of emotional abuse, as this will help you to get away from a toxic partner sooner rather than later.
01/28/2016 09:55 EST
It's been my experience, on a personal and professional level, that for real connections to happen, we need to move slowly in our process of opening up. I understand Mr. Boomer's frustration with the unending stream of platitudes he was encountering, but I don't think that going to the other extreme is the answer.
01/25/2016 04:09 EST
It's almost as though the many brilliant actors, writers, and directors of colour aren't even considered for the vote. It's like they don't even factor into the equation. I can tolerate a lack of imagination in the vote, where people are often rewarded more for their years of service than for the quality of their current work, but I can't sit by saying nothing about the shocking lack of diversity in the pool of nominees, two years in a row.
01/22/2016 05:34 EST
Children don't need their parents to be their friends. That's what they have peers for. A family is one place where a hierarchy is not only appropriate, it's ideal, as children need guidance, limits, and consequences as well as love, care and nurturing.
01/13/2016 02:48 EST
Whether at home, at school or at work, over-entitlement leads to selfish, insensitive, lazy, even defiant behaviour. Children, students and workers who are coddled and treated too permissively tend to aggravate their siblings, fellow students and colleagues, and are far less productive than they're capable of being.
01/07/2016 11:58 EST
If you're unwilling to do the work, your attitude is self-defeatist. Your reluctance to roll up your sleeves and do what has to be done is probably what's holding you back from getting what you truly desire in life.
01/06/2016 10:49 EST
We may not get to choose the bad surprises that befall us, but we definitely get to choose how we handle these experiences. If we use them as opportunities for personal growth, we'll always come out as winners.
01/04/2016 04:46 EST
I've been writing about the politics of sexual assault for a while now, and it seems apparent that for a woman who's been sexually assaulted, the decision to go to the police and to press charges is fraught with complications. She not only has to consider the discomfort of her assault becoming public knowledge, but she must face the daunting possibility that her reputation will be dragged through the mud by the defendant's attorney; that the DA will choose, as Mr. Coster did, not to prosecute; or that the judge will find for the defendant.
12/31/2015 11:19 EST
I felt fortunate to witness this incredibly awkward moment was because it illustrated to me an important lesson both in human frailty and in human resilience. It was one of the worst possible things that could go wrong -- followed by a surprising and excellent recovery which I saw as tremendously reassuring.
12/28/2015 03:38 EST
Intimacy requires authenticity, because if you're not real, the other person can't see you for who you are. If you're never authentic, other people will be interacting with a persona, and you won't be loved for your true self. Even if you're in a relationship, you'll be terribly lonely.
12/23/2015 03:08 EST
Every year, there are always people who don't look forward to the holiday season. Some have difficult relationships with their family members, some are feeling lonely and isolated and some are financially strapped.
12/21/2015 09:56 EST
Not being true to your authentic self can result in anxiety, depression, frustration, addiction, and a lack of meaning and fulfillment in your life.
12/16/2015 12:04 EST
When you're loving and giving, the people on the receiving end of your kindness and generosity are touched by your warmth and it often moves them and inspires them to be more loving and giving to those around them, as well.
12/08/2015 12:39 EST
If you want to have a better 2016, hold off on making New Year's resolutions and just focus on self-love. Identify and let go of the negative stories about yourself that you've been walking around with; see yourself as someone with infinite potential and recognize that there's really nothing to stop you from pursuing your goals.
12/01/2015 05:06 EST
It's only through self-acceptance that you can find lasting and sustaining motivation to improve yourself and your life. Positive energy supports positive change; negativity promotes paralysis.
11/25/2015 11:36 EST
We are all connected, even if the terrorists try their hardest to push us apart. Our true power comes not from hatred but from love; not from defensiveness or aggression but from compassion.
11/19/2015 04:43 EST
I've learned that when you want to support someone who's critically ill, loving them isn't enough; you have to meet them where they are. That means letting go of your wishful thinking, your denial, or your selfish need to put a positive spin on things and allowing the other person -- the one who's dying -- to set the tone.
11/16/2015 04:48 EST
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