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Marcia Sirota

Author, speaker, coach and MD

Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.
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Make Time to Smile

I read a story online this week about a six-year-old boy named Jaden Hayes, who lost both his parents and decided to do something positive, rather than give in to his grief. When we're feeling sad or stressed or over-heated, we should remember Jaden Hayes, and be inspired to be our best self rather than our crankiest self.
07/30/2015 01:26 EDT
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What Grief Taught Me

When I was 25-years-old and early on in my medical training, I got a phone call from my mom one day. With no preamble, she blurted out, "She's gone!" At first, I didn't know who mom was talking about. Then she said the name. It was Esther, my infant niece.
07/29/2015 09:12 EDT
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happiness

Everyone talks about happiness, and everyone has their own ideas about what will bring us more of it. I think that there are four key principles that together, can create significantly more happiness for ourselves, as well as for those around us.
07/26/2015 07:04 EDT
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Good Communication Can Prevent a Breakup

We make three fundamental mistakes around communication that can really jeopardize an otherwise viable relationship, and there are three important communication skills that can make the difference between an unhappy break-up and an ongoing, happy relationship.
07/23/2015 06:15 EDT
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How to Survive a Bad Breakup

A bad breakup can feel like a stun gun has been applied directly to the center of your chest. You can feel paralyzed, overwhelmed with pain and grief, confused and utterly lost. How does a person cope with such an assault to their emotional world?
07/17/2015 08:12 EDT
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Facing Adversity Can Turn Us Into Better People

The difference between someone who's a victim and someone who's a survivor is the ability to take the crappiest moments in life and turn them into fertilizer. When we can use these painful times as fuel for our personal growth, we can move through any type of difficulty with grace and resilience.
07/16/2015 08:28 EDT
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How to Make the Best Choices for Your Life

Sometimes, it can be hard to change. We may lack the necessary tools to help us understand our motivations and improve our decision-making process. There are six helpful tools that I would recommend for anyone who wants to make better choices and live a better life.
07/07/2015 12:18 EDT
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Four Strategies for Coping With Loss

When I lost someone two years ago, I felt like I was in an altered state of consciousness, swimming through a thick soup of paralyzing emotions, with no idea how long it would last. These four strategies are super simple and enormously helpful, and I want to share them with you.
07/03/2015 07:19 EDT
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5 Tips For Getting Into Shape This Summer

Summer is here, and many of us will be heading to the beach or attending holiday parties. It's also wedding season, and everyone will want to look their best. Here are five simple tips that will help you get into better shape for summer, and for the long run.
07/02/2015 12:41 EDT
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Marriage Equality Is a No-Brainer

When I heard that the U.S. Supreme Court had finally accorded marriage rights to gay people, it felt like one of those, "Well, yeah!" moments. Here in Canada, same-sex marriage rights have been in pla...
06/27/2015 06:36 EDT
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It's Time to Lower the Confederate Flag for Good

It's a very bad time for racism in the United States. It would make sense to work toward lowering the level of racial tension in the country, rather than inflaming it. It's one thing to honour the fallen soldiers of the American civil war, but it's another thing altogether to insist on waving a flag that to so many, represents violence, hatred and oppression toward African Americans.
06/24/2015 12:29 EDT
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Top Five Tips for Super Summer Romance

It's summer finally and if you're anything like me, you've come out of hibernation and are excited to be getting out there and enjoying everything that summer has to offer. Here in Toronto, we have an...
06/23/2015 02:36 EDT
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America's Fatal Attraction to Guns Is More Emotional Than Logical

It's clear that despite all the convincing research demonstrating how guns make us less safe, not more safe, Americans are still very much enamoured with their guns. They rationalize, justify and explain away each tragedy, whether an accidental death by a handgun or a mass shooting of innocent people by rifles or automatic weapons. It's not a logical argument; it's an emotional one, and until we can address the complex psychology at the root of the desire to own guns, we aren't going to convince people to give them up.
06/21/2015 08:56 EDT
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We Must Let Go of Our Fear of Rejection

Human beings are communal animals. We thrive when we're connected; when we feel a sense of belonging and interdependence. We hate the idea of rejection because it plays on our primal fears of being alone and perhaps unable to fend for ourselves.
06/16/2015 05:41 EDT
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What the Duggar Family Teaches Us About Sexual Abuse

The truth is, I've never watched the Duggar family on TV. Still, with all the current media coverage, it's impossible not to be aware of the fact that the eldest son Josh has confessed to inappropriate sexual behaviour, as a teenager, toward four of his sisters and a babysitter. I work with victims of sexual abuse every day in my psychotherapy practice, so I feel I have some insight into the subject at hand. Instead of adding to the judgements in favour of or against the family, I thought that it would be a good idea to look for the learning opportunities here.
06/07/2015 09:21 EDT
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Get Rid of Your Inner Bully

There's a lot of bullying going on these days. We find it in schools, in the workplace and on-line. There's one form of bullying that rarely gets talked about though, and it's creating a lot of misery. I'm talking about self-bullying.
05/31/2015 09:14 EDT