We can distinguish the reasonable men in our lives from the unreasonable men, simply by observing their reactions to our expressions of anger, displeasure or frustration toward them. A reasonable man is willing to take responsibility for his part in things; he'll accept our feedback and will make every effort to accommodate our needs.
Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.
When you think about resilience, you probably think of the ability to bounce back when faced with difficult or painful situations. You think about being able to carry on when you've encountered stress or loss, disappointment, frustration or tragedy. And that's all true. It's also, in my mind, closely associated with an attitude of empowerment.
02/25/2015 09:14 EST
Wellness isn't simply about getting enough exercise, eating our greens and ensuring that we have enough good-quality sleep. Wellness is also about paying attention to all the other things that constitute well-being: it's considering the toxins we're being exposed to every day.
02/02/2015 05:52 EST
I think a lot about happiness, health and success, and I work with people every day so that they can have more of all these things. One message I want to share with everyone is that the secret to greater health, happiness and success is not what you might expect. The secret to greater health, happiness and success is in opening your heart to others.
01/13/2015 05:14 EST
We live in the days of wayward celebrity youth. They're in and out of rehab, being booked for a DUI, or making videos that
03/13/2014 11:26 EDT
While we might think that the dangers we face come in the form of nuclear proliferation, rampant war-mongering, easy access to weapons, global warming and global financial collapse, we'd be wrong. While all the above are dangerous, to be sure, they're just symptoms of the real dangers we face. The real and growing dangers that immanently threaten our survival are tenfold.
04/22/2013 05:38 EDT
Everyone wants better sex, but many of us have the wrong idea about how to make it happen. A happy, fulfilling sex life is available to everyone. If we simply pay attention, we'll discover the sexual satisfaction that we've never previously experienced. Here are the seven secrets to achieving a spectacular sex life.
03/07/2013 05:41 EST
When I observe how people engage in romantic relationships, it seems that they do this in one of two ways: either from the perspective of a child or from that of an adult. People who pursue love from an adult perspective are looking for companionship, romance, a life partner. People who approach love from a child-like perspective, however, have a very different agenda
12/23/2012 11:34 EST
A new malady has sprung up simultaneously with the ascent of online dating. It's called dating ADD. Symptoms of this disorder are similar to the more common form of ADD: easy distractibility, lack of focus and inability to stick to a task.
10/30/2012 10:39 EDT
Canadian health care is not a perfect system by any means, but having practised psychiatry in the United States as well, I have an pretty good idea about the differences between the Canadian and American health care systems. Since I've returned to Toronto, I've seen the benefits of the Canadian health care system up close. I'm proud to be a Canadian, knowing that my tax dollars are being put to good use.
09/26/2012 05:17 EDT
<img alt="2012-09-06-bookcover.jpg" src="http://images.huffingtonpost.com/2012-09-06-bookcover.jpg" width="90" height="136" /style="float: left; margin:10px">If you've been eating unconsciously out of apathy, ignorance or inertia, or if you've just been eating in the way that your parents showed you, it's not too late to become conscious and empowered. If you're awake and aware, you'll see the truth about the proliferation of food images bombarding you every day on TV, online, in magazines and in restaurant windows.
09/12/2012 12:22 EDT
<img alt="2012-09-06-bookcover.jpg" src="http://images.huffingtonpost.com/2012-09-06-bookcover.jpg" width="90" height="136" /style="float: left; margin:10px" > So, how do you know that you have disordered eating? What differentiates a mild or moderate over-eater from a more serious one is related to two fundamental factors: the degree to which you've been wounded emotionally, and the degree to which food has become the solution to your emotional needs.
09/07/2012 12:19 EDT
<img alt="2012-09-06-bookcover.jpg" src="http://images.huffingtonpost.com/2012-09-06-bookcover.jpg" width="90" height="136" /style="float: left; margin:10px" > Many people today are writing about the problems which result from a sedentary lifestyle and calorie-rich, poor quality food. What I want to focus on is the way our childhood difficulties and adult unhappiness come together to create the perfect circumstances in which compulsive eating and obesity are the only logical response.
09/06/2012 11:59 EDT
Many liars are successful, but that's usually because we make it easy for them. If we want to be more empowered in our lives, we should stop allowing the liars of the world to take advantage of us. Here are four basic tools for seeing through the liars in your personal, professional and political life and making sure that it's a lot harder for these people to fool you in the future.
08/31/2012 07:53 EDT
You might be one of those people walking around today with an extremely negative voice in your head. It's the voice that tells you what you "should" and "shouldn't" do; it makes you feel stupid, small, awkward and inept; blaming you for the things that go wrong in your life and refusing to give you credit for your accomplishments.
07/23/2012 02:48 EDT
The other day, one of my patients described herself as a "control freak," and an unhappy one at that. Certainly, she's not the first person I've worked with who's been frustrated in their attempts to be "in control," but it always saddens me to see someone wasting her time on something that's neither possible nor necessary.
07/04/2012 04:24 EDT
There are three common relationship mistakes that many of us make, which can get in the way of our happiness and success in love. Understanding what these mistakes are and why we're prone to making them can help us learn to avoid them in the future. If we recognize and let go of these, we're likely to have a lot more success in our current and future relationships.
06/27/2012 02:28 EDT
Anger that's being denied festers inside you like an unhealed wound. The pain you feel as a result of this buried emotion causes you to have one of two reactions: either you become overly nice and pleasing, in reaction against the anger bubbling up inside you, or you become irritable or surly, defensive or hostile.
02/27/2012 11:08 EST
Being dumped can bring up a lot of self-doubt. You could start thinking that you're too fat or too scrawny; that you talk too much, or you're too quiet. All of these things are possible, but more than likely, the reasons that you were dumped were about the other person and not you.
02/22/2012 02:31 EST
You create a lot of unhappiness for yourself out of your impatience. Why not give yourself a break, enjoy the present moment and have more reasonable, realistic expectations of how long things should take? You'll be much happier, less anxious and more competent if you do this.
12/30/2011 09:07 EST
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