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Marcia Sirota

Author, speaker, coach and MD

Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.
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Do You Have Dating ADD?

A new malady has sprung up simultaneously with the ascent of online dating. It's called dating ADD. Symptoms of this disorder are similar to the more common form of ADD: easy distractibility, lack of focus and inability to stick to a task.
10/30/2012 10:39 EDT
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A Canadian Psychiatrist in the U.S. Health Care System

Canadian health care is not a perfect system by any means, but having practised psychiatry in the United States as well, I have an pretty good idea about the differences between the Canadian and American health care systems. Since I've returned to Toronto, I've seen the benefits of the Canadian health care system up close. I'm proud to be a Canadian, knowing that my tax dollars are being put to good use.
09/26/2012 05:17 EDT
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Emotional Overeating Part 3: Be Aware of How You Eat

If you've been eating unconsciously out of apathy, ignorance or inertia, or if you've just been eating in the way that your parents showed you, it's not too late to become conscious and empowered. If you're awake and aware, you'll see the truth about the proliferation of food images bombarding you every day on TV, online, in magazines and in restaurant windows.
09/12/2012 12:22 EDT
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Emotional Overeating Part 2: How to Tell if You're Doing it

So, how do you know that you have disordered eating? What differentiates a mild or moderate over-eater from a more serious one is related to two fundamental factors: the degree to which you've been wounded emotionally, and the degree to which food has become the solution to your emotional needs.
09/07/2012 12:19 EDT
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How to See Right Through a Liar

Many liars are successful, but that's usually because we make it easy for them. If we want to be more empowered in our lives, we should stop allowing the liars of the world to take advantage of us. Here are four basic tools for seeing through the liars in your personal, professional and political life and making sure that it's a lot harder for these people to fool you in the future.
08/31/2012 07:53 EDT
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Six Ways To Eliminate Your "Inner Critic"

You might be one of those people walking around today with an extremely negative voice in your head. It's the voice that tells you what you "should" and "shouldn't" do; it makes you feel stupid, small, awkward and inept; blaming you for the things that go wrong in your life and refusing to give you credit for your accomplishments.
07/23/2012 02:48 EDT
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Why It's Impossible to be "In Control"

The other day, one of my patients described herself as a "control freak," and an unhappy one at that. Certainly, she's not the first person I've worked with who's been frustrated in their attempts to be "in control," but it always saddens me to see someone wasting her time on something that's neither possible nor necessary.
07/04/2012 04:24 EDT
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Relationship Woes? Maybe You're Making One of These Mistakes

There are three common relationship mistakes that many of us make, which can get in the way of our happiness and success in love. Understanding what these mistakes are and why we're prone to making them can help us learn to avoid them in the future. If we recognize and let go of these, we're likely to have a lot more success in our current and future relationships.
06/27/2012 02:28 EDT
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How to Stop Being an Angry Person

Anger that's being denied festers inside you like an unhealed wound. The pain you feel as a result of this buried emotion causes you to have one of two reactions: either you become overly nice and pleasing, in reaction against the anger bubbling up inside you, or you become irritable or surly, defensive or hostile.
02/27/2012 11:08 EST
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How to Survive Being Dumped

Being dumped can bring up a lot of self-doubt. You could start thinking that you're too fat or too scrawny; that you talk too much, or you're too quiet. All of these things are possible, but more than likely, the reasons that you were dumped were about the other person and not you.
02/22/2012 02:31 EST

10 Good Habits to Cultivate in 2012

You create a lot of unhappiness for yourself out of your impatience. Why not give yourself a break, enjoy the present moment and have more reasonable, realistic expectations of how long things should take? You'll be much happier, less anxious and more competent if you do this.
12/30/2011 09:07 EST
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10 Bad Habits to Let Go of in 2012

No matter how curious you are about what your ex is up to, there's never any good that can come out of scrolling through his/her Facebook page. Let go of this bad habit and let go of the ex so that you can move on to better things.
12/29/2011 08:58 EST

The 12 Elements of Emotional Intelligence

Intellect can be measured by standardized IQ tests, but there's no actual measure of what I call the "EQ," or Emotional Quotient. Practicing the following elements will enable you to boost your EQ and improve your life.
11/15/2011 09:13 EST

What Men and Women Really Want in Love (and How to Get it)

Men and women have needs that are specific to their gender. What we want from our partners isn't necessarily what they want from us. Men and women communicate differently and we must tailor the way we express ourselves to suit these differences.
11/08/2011 09:32 EST

When to Un-Friend an Old Friend

Whether it's because you've grown apart because you no longer share the same values or lifestyle, or because you realize that the friendship isn't giving you what you need (and maybe never did), it's time to un-friend this person.
11/01/2011 09:43 EDT

How to Deal With Bullies

There will always be people who are jealous or resentful of your success. They're spiteful people who begrudge you the pride you have in yourself and the recognition you're receiving from others. They can't stand it that you're happy, fulfilled and achieving your goals.
10/18/2011 09:35 EDT

How to Say "No" to Bad Behaviour

Lately, my patient Lisa has been disappointed with her boyfriend Dennis, whom she describes as usually very supportive. Something happened that put Dennis and his family into clearer perspective. Den...
10/13/2011 09:48 EDT
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Relationship Advice: When to Break Up

If one or more deal breakers are present in your relationship, you'll have to see whether it's possible for you partner to stop what they're doing immediately. There's no point in waiting for them to change. You've already been tolerating the intolerable.
10/11/2011 11:03 EDT

To Forgive or Not to Forgive?

If someone has to force themselves to forgive in order to meet someone else's expectations, they'll be more tormented than if they'd held onto their hurt. A better solution would be to learn how to let go.
10/06/2011 03:12 EDT