I always respond with the line that people are like dogs -- we are all the same species but we have different fur colours and no colour is actually better than the other: it just is. And since the two eldest are animal obsessed, this all makes sense to them. Then sometime last summer my seven-year-old son (who always identifies himself as brown like daddy) started telling me how he wanted "yellow" hair because it was better. Maybe it sounds overdramatic but I actually wanted to cry -- I just couldn't bear the idea that despite all the changes, a little brown boy or girl would automatically think that it was better to be the blonde, blue-eyed guy (or girl).
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I finally sat down and tried to understand exactly what that meant. What they are saying essentially is that before my daughter came along, my family was incomplete? Because my two wonderful, vivacious and healthy boys don't complete a family? I certainly didn't feel incomplete. I felt blessed, SO blessed.
11/29/2013 05:29 EST
Cooking with my kids means spending quality time and connecting with them while doing a fun activity. My six-year-old loves to bake, while my nine-year old enjoys chopping and helping to cook meals. Cleaning up is a good skill to learn. The best part, of course, is eating the fruits of our labour.
10/11/2013 12:29 EDT
An ad agency recently created images of three Hindu goddesses apparently to spread the message against domestic violence in India. To me it sounds like it is telling Indian men: You may think you are beating up the trifling women, but watch out! In your blind fury without knowing it you might also end up walloping the sacred ones! That sounds like, there are women that men can beat, and women that men should not beat because they are 'sacred.'
10/10/2013 05:46 EDT
Our almost three-year old has started the process of giving up her naps...and it is not pretty. The ongoing lifting and carrying of Syona is also starting to take a toll on my in-laws so we've recently decided that we need some help.
10/09/2013 07:12 EDT
My husband and I thought our decision to not find out the gender of our baby would just be our mystery to deal with. Boy, where we WRONG. EVERYONE and I mean EVERYONE had an opinion to give us on why we should be finding out.
10/08/2013 12:33 EDT
One of the most difficult things to deal with in a divorce is the questions, comments, advice and commentary from family and friends. I've heard some gems over the years. I'd like to share with you some of my top picks for what you should never say to a divorced friend.
07/11/2013 08:44 EDT
Having a child can be overwhelming, in every possible way. Especially if the child is your first born. You see, kids don't come with a manual. You have to mostly trust your gut, take some advice when needed and sometimes rely on the Internet for a huge chunk of information. I used the internet to Google "How to bathe a three-day-old" because I didn't have much help after my child was born.
07/09/2013 12:26 EDT
You really sense a love of life and a fire in Lisa when you meet her, that will leave its impact on you days after. At the official launch of her limited edition line of 10 sarees by SatyaPaul Canada, I had the chance to meet and speak with model-actress and social activist, Lisa Ray.
07/09/2013 03:47 EDT
The biggest question on everyone's mind is "what to wear to that dreaded job interview?" I'm here to tell you that by showing you made an effort for your interview you are demonstrating that you will make an effort on the job. all you need to do is remember the three Cs.
05/31/2013 08:01 EDT
Lately I've been thinking a lot about how people in general (and women themselves) judge each other based on body image. I've read various posts that are saying that Jessica Alba is a horrible role model for new mothers, and is pressuring moms to lose weight fast -- I disagree. Reading statements like that online break my heart, because women and especially moms should play on the same team.
05/23/2013 08:24 EDT
Like many Indian girls, I wasn't allowed to date when I was a teenager. But today, it's been a different childhood for my 18-year-old. In fact things are very different in my household. My husband and I do our best to cope with the reality that she wants to date, even though we never had the same opportunity as teens.
05/21/2013 12:36 EDT
Families that eat together, stay together. How often do you enjoy family meals at your home? With long commutes and kids' activities, it's easy to see why eating together can take a back seat. So why are family meals important? The benefits go beyond health.
05/21/2013 05:23 EDT
The moment the judge said in the court that my divorce is granted and asked if there was anything else I wanted to add to the list of wishes granted on my behalf, it was a no-brainer -- I wanted my name back. Little did I realize then the implications it would have for days, months, and years to come.
04/03/2013 12:04 EDT
When Soania Mathur found out she had Parkinson's Disease, she was carrying her first child and just 27 years old. Now a mother of three daughters, aged 12, 10 and six, she says her biggest challenge back then was trying to find ways to help her children understand her diagnosis and making sure they were never afraid.
04/02/2013 04:57 EDT
All across the country, we're hearing and seeing incidents that involve bullying at an alarming rate. As a parent of children coming from a hostile environment, like divorce, I have a fairly different set of responsibilities in addition to the traditional safe-guarding of our children.
03/21/2013 05:36 EDT
Even though cancer is becoming more widespread among many families today, the fear and devastation that families feel when a loved one is inflicted with the disease has yet to recede. Cancer had always been something that "happened to other people" and "wouldn't be something that would affect us" for my immediate and extended family, until my mum was diagnosed with the disease.
03/13/2013 08:14 EDT
For those of you masalamommas who blog out there, you're part of a select crew. While there's been an explosion of blogging moms over the years, South Asian moms who blog, aren't necessarily on the radar. While many South Asian moms who blog feel the same, some say they don't feel connected to the mommy blogger community as a whole.
03/13/2013 05:14 EDT
Growing up my parents were always experimenting with food, farming and flavours, I reaped the benefits of homemade, wholesome dishes on a daily basis. I never truly appreciated the art of cooking until I got married. It would take me hours to cook a meal, I would run out of ideas or become frustrated with why my food was not tasting like my parents'.
03/12/2013 05:46 EDT
A social code of behaviour is used as a weapon by almost all cultures to violate, control and beat girls and women into submission. Women are told if you don't want to get beaten, raped and killed, then this is how you will have to behave. To all the women reading this: on International Women's Day, take one little code of behaviour that confines you as a woman, tells you how to be at home or outside, forces you to live with shame and/or fear -- and break it! If you break one code today, tomorrow collectively we'll have the courage to break our social prison! So let's get started! Let us resolve to MISBEHAVE!!
03/08/2013 08:06 EST
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