Meeting guys and dating has never been really a challenge for me. But, it is the development of a relationship where I've wavered. My addiction is my struggle to allow someone to get incredibly close to me. There are few things that scare me more than being completely vulnerable.
PhD, Olympian, High Performance Consultant
Nicole Forrester is an Olympian High Jumper, Commonwealth Games Gold Medalist and Sports Psychology Consultant, PhD Candidate who specializes in optimal performance. She believes and is committed to the pursuit of excellence. <br> <br> Nicole is the founder of Optimal Zone Inc. a consultant company which specializes in helping athletes and organizations reach and sustain high performance through training and developmental programs. Additionally, she has worked as a reporter, television host and blogger with CBC, and has provided content and comment for CTV, Rogers and Discovery Health Channel. <br> <br> Her blogs include high performance and lifestyle. Occasionally, she likes to push the envelope, blogging on taboo topics she references as <em>Achtung Series</em>!
I've often heard men make the comment "Nice guys finish last." I'm here to tell you that that is NOT true. It may appear
02/21/2013 04:55 EST
It is socially accepted and possibly expected that a man may date many women at one time in search of that special one. Comparatively, many women may date only one guy at a time hoping that that one guy they invest their time and energy in will eventually become their boyfriend. When it comes to dating, a single woman's best friend is The Roster.
02/12/2013 12:26 EST
I am a self-professed good girl. The girl who believes it is courteous to reply to a call, text, or e-mail as I receive them. I can't deny I've been tempted to enter the other side and be that "bad girl" but I've been cursed by the inability to feel morally right playing "the game." I have no choice but to build a case for the good girl.
02/05/2013 12:21 EST
The problem is when it comes to dating there are many "fish in the sea." So, while you may be fortunate to attract the attention of a certain girl -- it is up to you handle it with care and know that if you drop the ball she has other options.
01/28/2013 12:16 EST
<img alt="2012-07-25-olympicbanner.png" src="http://images.huffingtonpost.com/2012-07-25-olympicbanner.png" width="300" height="40" /> With the 2012 Olympic Games over and all the results locked in, Canada has finished 13th in medal standings. So, was the London Olympic Games a success or a failure for Canada? Some may justifiably argue that since we did not reach our goal, Canada failed. But, I'm not so sure I'd agree.
08/13/2012 05:22 EDT
<img alt="2012-07-25-olympicbanner.png" src="http://images.huffingtonpost.com/2012-07-25-olympicbanner.png" width="300" height="40" />As he is the most decorated Olympian of all time, we may never see another athlete accomplish what Michael Phelps has in our lifetime. But, does that make him the ultimate athlete of the Olympic Games? Since creating their Competitive Index for Sport, Mitchell and Stewart found that it was possible to rate the competitive quality of a given sport and the chances for success, whereby the lower the competitive index score the greater chance an individual stood to be successful at the Olympic Games. After seeing the index, it's no wonder why winning the gold medal in the 100 metre is one of the most coveted medals in the world.
08/07/2012 12:24 EDT
Listen carefully and you'll notice the barrage of comments referencing the monumental role mental state has on the performances of athletes competing in the Olympic Games. Often the difference between a podium performance and going home empty-handed is the difference in one's mental state.
08/05/2012 08:48 EDT
<img alt="2012-07-25-olympicbanner.png" src="http://images.huffingtonpost.com/2012-07-25-olympicbanner.png" width="300" height="40" /> As an Olympian, I can tell you that nothing quite prepares you for what it is like to compete at the Olympic Games. Perhaps that is why far and few athletes medal at their very first Olympic Games. When it comes to the Olympic Games, be prepared to observe three types of medalists. The first medalist is your favoured athlete, the second your veteran, and the third -- wildcard!
07/28/2012 08:08 EDT
Continued communication with someone who is not interested in you will keep you in purgatory. You're hanging onto a thread of hope for a possible future relationship. This hope doesn't exist. It is an ILLUSION! What you really need is time to grieve the loss of someone you never had.
04/16/2012 11:29 EDT
If you had the chance to be the most beautiful person in the world or to be a Nobel Peace Prize winner, which would you choose? I am certain in the recesses of many people's brains, beauty would be chosen... And possibly for understandable reasons. How many people would choose beauty in a mate over brains?
02/27/2012 11:58 EST
I know approaching a person of interest may seem life threatening at times, but people are a lot friendlier than our imaginations allow us to believe. The sad thing is often too many guys and girls miss out! But this doesn't have to be the case!
02/22/2012 09:43 EST
An LDR should not be indefinite... This can and will be trouble eventually. It's best to know that the current situation is not permanent and there should be a goal in mind as to when the torture of the LDR will end and the two of you will be reunited in the same area code.
01/25/2012 09:51 EST
Do not use stereotypes to appear knowledgeable about your beloved's race. Obviously, a difference in race does exist and there is nothing wrong with acknowledging these differences, but you don't need to live in the land of labels.
12/14/2011 11:08 EST
The problem with social media is it's pretty narcissistic. The various social media channels seem to beckon for updates such as "What's going on? Where you have been?" But what is the motivation? Are we genuinely sharing? Or, is this our centre stage?
12/12/2011 06:22 EST
You don't hear from her. She doesn't follow up. She's elusively "busy" and doesn't return your texts or phone calls for days, if ever. So, what happened? What in 24 hours could make this girl go from seemingly being into you to treating you like the plague? Here are four woman-repellers.
11/23/2011 09:28 EST
Often what irritates us initially is magnified with time. People are not like sweaters that you can grow into, nor is it ever fair to expect someone to change. What you see is what you get, so you had better love who you are with -- flaws and all -- or throw that fish back in the sea.
11/07/2011 09:07 EST
I never knew what I was feeling for when I conducted self-exams, but when I found a lump two years ago I knew then what I found was NOT normal. I must have sat on my bed for 20 minutes grappling over what I had felt -- "Is this really a lump? Is it serious? Is it cancerous? How can this be? I'm too young to find a lump!"
10/31/2011 03:47 EDT
While I have never been married, and certainly hope never to divorce, I have had my share of failed relationships and rejections. As I reflect back on my own past relationships failures, I can honestly say there is no one that I wish I was still with. In fact, I've found myself thanking God that they are out of my life.
10/27/2011 09:49 EDT
Try as we may, none of us are perfect. We come with flaws and shortcomings I like to refer to as our character. We may like to present ourselves in a fashion that masks our true character, but with time the truth is always revealed. So, why not embrace our character, instead of hiding from it?
10/20/2011 11:31 EDT
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