Mom Postpartum RN Blogger Bipolar II
I'm a postpartum nurse, recently diagnosed with mental illness. I will share my stories whether you want to read them or not. Stopping the stigma of mental illness now.
Although comparing a broken bone to an amputated limb is not at all analogous, a civilian who loses a limb to a workplace injury is not provided anywhere near the compensation for such a tragedy as would a military member, who in all cases, is fully aware and prepared before deployment of the dangers involved in their jobs.
Simple childhood moments between siblings and friends of "You show me yours, I'll show you mine" were turned into interrogation sessions were my finger pointed at each child demanding, "Where did you learn that?" To this day, 10 years later, my kids will still remind me of those episodes with arched eyebrows, querying, "What was that all about anyway?"
04/29/2014 08:22 EDT
At the age of four, I would wake in the middle of the night; my legs trembling; the bile in my stomach churning up into my throat; my arms paralyzed by my side; a small scream escaping my young lips as I begged God to take me to heaven; as I prayed that the all-consuming fear would go away so that I could catch my breath. How does one explain this to anyone when it has been entrenched within since before time began? Doctors told my mother that I was simply "high strung" and that I would "grow out of it." I didn't. Somehow, while I work to accept the reality of my diagnoses, I must also convey to those who are part of my life, that although my illness has appeared to them as a series of unfortunate events, it has dropped me to my knees and sent me careening into a fiery hell of anguish only understood by those who have seen the divide between reality and insanity.
03/27/2014 12:20 EDT
Dear Dad, From the time I was a little girl, you were my saviour. You loved me fiercely. This is how I have remembered you
03/17/2014 11:17 EDT
Although "Mental Illness Awareness Week" is a lovely concept, it only serves to validate those of us who already understand the stigma. It does not enlighten those who already have a pre-existing perception of mental illness as being a defect. In order to enhance their efficacy, those of us with mental illness need to be proactive in our cause, and not be stunted by the stigma.
03/03/2014 12:16 EST
United through the veil of one moment in time, social media displays the true essence of humanity. Victims. Heroes. Defenders. Defenceless. All represented in the eyes of the world wide web in a myriad of captions, comments, pictures, and paintings.
04/18/2013 08:27 EDT
To all the Justin Bieber haters, I have this to say: he has more class in his underwear-showing backside than Rihanna will ever have. Say what you will about the kid, but he doesn't feel it necessary to scream vulgarities into his mic while he's on a stage.
03/28/2013 12:45 EDT
When I first heard that <em>Big Brother</em> was coming to Canada, I immediately began mentally creating my audition tape. But then my children burst my bubble by pointing out, "Mom, you'd be the first one evicted." What? Why?
03/18/2013 12:11 EDT
I went from three years of competitive body building in a bikini division, where what I looked like controlled my every movement. Now I'm in a career that has me working 12-hour shifts, running off my feet to tend to the needs of my patients. I know women who tell me they don't care what they look like. They are fine with who they are and they embrace their age -- I'm not there yet.
03/13/2013 08:13 EDT
As a reality TV enthusiast, I await new seasons of <em>Survivor</em>, <em>Amazing Race</em>, <em>American Idol</em>, etcetera. So when I heard that <em>Big Brother</em> was coming to Canada I resigned myself to the fact that I would be the show's biggest fan. What I didn't expect, however, was the ensuing vulgarity.
03/07/2013 05:43 EST
I take full accountability for the fact that my kids are hardly ever...nay...are NEVER able to take accountability for their failures. When my son came out of the dressing room, his first words were, "We lost because the refs weren't calling any penalties on the other team." My husband stopped in his tracks, turned to face our little forlorn, sore loser, and said, "No. You lost because you guys stopped skating in the second period."
03/04/2013 12:22 EST
My stay-at-home friends and I are always ready to slay the reputation of our fellow women in the quintessential ploy to be the superior mothers. Why is it that in a male-dominated world, women are so quick to cut each other down, rather than speak up in defense of one another?
02/26/2013 12:23 EST
I grew up in the era of Tough Love. There was no pretending in my home. My mother called it as she saw it, and what she saw wasn't always pretty. I've spent years meticulously choosing politically correct ways of disciplining my children. Now I know exactly where I went wrong.
02/21/2013 05:30 EST
Watching <em>The View</em> this morning the controversy whirred around reproductive parts, and what we, as parents, should be teaching our children to call them. The consensus: It just doesn't seem right to hear a little girl referring to her breasts. Boobies is much cuter. Because we're concerned about the cuteness of these body parts on a seven-year-old?
02/18/2013 01:18 EST
When I was pregnant with my first child, I had a list of all the "dos and don'ts" required for effectively achieving the status of perfect parent. As I swapped my hopes for a career in nursing, and instead chose countless hours of time bonding with my children, in those early days of motherhood when I was stumbling over the educational toys strewn about my home, nobody could have convinced me then that I would become what I am today.
02/12/2013 12:26 EST
This generation craves popularity. Opportunities for reality TV shows, YouTube viral videos and gamer status is creating a generation of children who not only live their lives in the public eye, but experience feelings of failure when that Instagram picture doesn't get as many hits as the one posted prior to it.
02/11/2013 05:37 EST
Anti-bullying campaigns have been part of school curricula for at least 10 years, but I question whether the time spent teaching children to "tell a grown up" is even helpful, when in fact, the concerns stem from deeper sources than simply some kid with anger issues.
02/02/2013 10:57 EST
My racism at the age of 10, although not acceptable, was somewhat understandable. But my daughter's? Why aren't today's youth more knowledgeable than I was? The expectation would be that after a thorough history lesson, our children should be horrified by the treatment of the aboriginal community, not rationalizing it.
01/09/2013 12:24 EST
The fitness revolution nicknamed "Fitspo," would have people believing that perfectly sculpted bodies are the new thin. It would have you thinking that if you aren't training for a marathon or a body building competition then you're doomed to a life of heart disease and metabolic issues. I'm here to tell you that all of that is false. It's nonsense.
10/27/2012 07:47 EDT
I started meeting people who embodied such strength and dignity despite medication side effects that shook their bodies as they walked; caused their faces to twitch and their eyes to blink repeatedly. Several of these people sharing with me that their faith in Jesus spurred them forward; giving them the courage to continue and try new treatments.
10/26/2012 04:49 EDT
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