Menstruation is part of who I am. At a few days away from being 30, I've been menstruating for over half my life. And I'm used to it. I accept the cramps, the bloating, and the high cost of feminine hygiene products. I'm confident I can handle my period on planes, in meetings, and even on beach vacations. I am a seasoned menstruator who always has spare pads in her handbag, in case you ever need to borrow any. And yet, I am freaking terrified of getting my period on my wedding day.
Doctoral Student, York University
Sarah is a doctoral student at York, member of <a href="http://www.motherhoodinitiative.org/" rel="nofollow">http://www.motherhoodinitiative.org/</a> <br> and has an edited book collection on motherhood coming out with Demeter Press next year.
Ultimately, the refrain, "as long as they're healthy," makes it seem like individuals who are less healthy are less valuable and less loveable. In short, it's just a mean and untrue thing to say, so please, let's stop saying it.
12/17/2014 01:13 EST
Nancy Lanza -- mother of Connecticut shooter Adam Lanza -- is dead. And it's not the time and place to criticize her as an anomaly, some sort of freakish survivalist, when in fact she was a participant in a broader gun culture that should be getting our serious attention. When such shootings happen, however, it is far easier to blame one individual woman for being a "bad mother" who created a "monster" than to acknowledge that some aspects of society in general might be bad and in need of changing. Where does the real instability lie?
12/19/2012 11:46 EST
On October 25, Marina Krim returned from taking her three-year-old daughter to the pool, to find her other two children -- Lulu and Leo -- stabbed to death in the bathtub of the family apartment in the Upper West Side. The nanny has since been charged with the murders. Many Internet responses have focused on mother-blaming, and especially on the mother's part-time labour outside the home. The father's labour is not discussed, just as his parenting skills are not criticized. This is misogynist victim-blaming. Cyberbullying has politics and here they revolve around contempt for women.
11/28/2012 12:35 EST
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