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Facing The Monsters Lurking In Every Corner Of My

Facing The Monsters Lurking In Every Corner Of My Mind

From the age of seven, dark clouds would follow me around. A haunting nightmare that would leave my eyes soaked in tears. Although closing my eyes was frightening, keeping them open was another battle. I would desperately try to hold onto any shred of reality as if I was drowning and gasping for air.
06/12/2017 11:47 EDT
How I Survived A Lifetime Of

How I Survived A Lifetime Of Bullying

I grew up in a refugee camp to begin with, and since my parents didn't speak German, I was not able to pick up the language very quickly, so I went to kindergarten and was picked on for not knowing German. Not just by fellow kids, but also the teachers, who isolated me and never included me in anything.
02/17/2017 08:20 EST
'So, You Won't Be Marrying A Tamil

'So, You Won't Be Marrying A Tamil Girl?'

That's what my dad asked when I told him I had found the one. He was only half-joking. I think. I'm currently in a long-distance relationship with a girl of Caucasian descent, otherwise known as a <em>vella pettai</em>. We consistently have issues that we need to work around.
01/30/2017 01:40 EST
The Changing State Of My Mother

The Changing State Of My Mother Tongue

When I was a kid, I wasn't up on a Saturday morning watching cartoons while eating fruit loops. Instead, like many Tamil children, I was usually half asleep trying to learn the language that I first learned to speak. I didn't hate going to Tamil school because I missed out on cartoons. I think I hated going because it was a hard language to learn.
12/20/2016 09:37 EST
The Generational Trauma Of War Has Uprooted Tamil

The Generational Trauma Of War Has Uprooted Tamil Identities

We as a diaspora, watched the curtain fall on a decades-long conflict we could never fully understand. And although the impact of the war varies drastically between us, what remains consistent is the recognition of a profound loss and the silent mourning of a forgotten identity.
11/22/2016 11:36 EST
When Did My Parents Get So

When Did My Parents Get So Cool?

This past December, I was finally home for the holidays, after missing two years of the holiday season with my family and friends in Toronto. In fact, in the past two years, I have only been home for a total of three times and each of those three times, there's been an emerging trend: "When did my parents get so cool?"
10/17/2016 09:38 EDT
6 Places To Meet Tamil

6 Places To Meet Tamil Singles

I'm a happily married Tamil man sharing my insights in terms of where I think Tamil singles will have the most luck with meeting other Tamil singles. This list was a result of recent discussions I've had with single friends. By discussion, I mean more of a debate with me trying to get them to think beyond the standard club or bar/lounge.
05/26/2016 11:44 EDT
Overcoming My Eating Disorder Was The Beginning Of A New

Overcoming My Eating Disorder Was The Beginning Of A New Life

The one thing I realize now is being beautiful isn't about being skinny or size zero. It's loving every inch and curve of your body and embracing everything about you. If you don't love yourself, the number means nothing. Telling the world my story was the final stage.
03/01/2016 02:09 EST
As A Tamil Man, I Suffered In Silence During Our Unwanted

As A Tamil Man, I Suffered In Silence During Our Unwanted Pregnancy

As Tamils, we find unwed pregnancy to be such a crime that it restricts those who need someone to lean on in times of despair. I had no one I could go to.My partner did not want anyone to know. From the day we found out we were pregnant to months after we had aborted the child, I had to keep all of my emotions to myself.
02/23/2016 11:22 EST
Tamils' Path To Prosperity In

Tamils' Path To Prosperity In Canada

Our arrival in Canada started in earnest after the 1983 anti-Tamil riot in Sri Lanka. The mass exodus accelerated in the last decade of the last century, resulting in largest Sri Lankan Tamil population outside of Sri Lanka. Since then, collectively the lives of Tamils were "rewired".
02/04/2016 12:35 EST
Ode To Our

Ode To Our Parents

It was almost 30 years ago. War has began. The sounds of chirping birds were replaced with blasting bombs. My husband had come back from town to get me and my daughter. We are leaving tomorrow morning. It was the beginning of our journey. A journey to a new place, a new beginning.
01/11/2016 09:39 EST
New Year, Better

New Year, Better Me

Every year we all make new year's resolutions that ultimately never get resolved. We purchase gym memberships and have sudden health kicks that stop kicking after two weeks and 10 chicken wings later. Trust me, I was supposed to lose those ten pounds, three years ago.
01/04/2016 04:14 EST
Indhu Rubasingham Takes On The World of London

Indhu Rubasingham Takes On The World of London Theatre

With a headstrong career spanning over 20 years, it was humbling to hear 42-year-old Indhu Rubasingham, artistic director of Tricycle Theatre in Kilburn, London, admit that she still gets nervous. Being critiqued is nothing new to this theatre veteran, whose work has been consistently well received and has even earned her a handful of distinguished awards.
12/29/2015 05:31 EST
How To Deal With Inappropriate

How To Deal With Inappropriate Touching

It is important to make sure that our children are in the know about what forms appropriate and inappropriate touching -- or at the very least know how they can define what's OK and what's not.
12/21/2015 02:32 EST
I Am Playing Catch-Up With My

I Am Playing Catch-Up With My Culture

At 21 years old, I realize that I have done myself a disservice. I can barely form a coherent sentence in my language, letters are foreign squiggles to me, and I find myself performing exaggerated gestures to communicate with my non-English speaking grandma. This is certainly not due to a lack of exposure to Tamil, but more as a result of a conscious distancing.
12/15/2015 02:37 EST
Can I Get Change For A

Can I Get Change For A $20?

Instead of asking our parents to change, why don't we change the situation that caused our parents to change -- poverty? Poverty in Sri Lanka has left many children on the streets scavenging for food, or should we say crumbs. What if I told you for $20 you can buy change -- change in the form of a future.
12/08/2015 02:19 EST
I Am a Survivor of Sexual Abuse in the Tamil

I Am a Survivor of Sexual Abuse in the Tamil Community

My experiences of childhood sexual abuse -- of incest -- had stolen many aspects of my life but most importantly, my identity as a Tamil woman. After I moved out, I was shunned not only from my immediate family members, but my uncles, aunts, cousins, distant relatives, family friends -- my Tamil community. It didn't matter to my 19-year-old self why you weren't there for me. The fact of the matter was that you weren't. I felt hurt and abandoned.
10/21/2015 05:09 EDT
How to Stay Happily

How to Stay Happily Married

My opinion on marriage is that it's like driving a car -- you wouldn't put someone in a car who doesn't have some kind of training. This training is essential so that you can safely navigate the roads. So why allow people to make a decision as important as marriage with no preparation?
07/14/2015 12:39 EDT