From dancing in the clubs to now dancing in the living room with their son Milo, life has changed just a little for BJ and Frankie. BJ and his husband Frankie reside in Toronto and are raising their little “Bubbaloo” Milo, who was born via gestational surrogate.
BJ and Frankie's birth photo had gone viral which inspired them to write a children's book called Milo's Adventures and create their own website www.familyisaboutlove.com where you can read more of their blogs.
BJ and Frankie are both high school teachers in Toronto. They enjoy doing community theatre, travelling, spending time with family and friends, and now getting to experience life through their little ones eyes!
My parents have been a huge inspiration to me. They have been amazing examples of how to keep a marriage happy and more importantly how to keep each other happy. When I think about what I want from my...
We need to not only normalize families like ours, but all families that don't fit into a very narrow definition of what makes a family. As you know, we define family on something very simple... love. Love is what makes a family.
We're not your traditional family; we're married, we have a son through surrogacy. Family is very important to us, because we fight to be recognized and accepted in everyday life. When our son was born, our birth photo had gone viral. We received a lot of attention, both positive and negative, and recently politicians in Europe are using our photo to make a case against surrogacy and against LGBT families. But to us, family is about love.
We are very fortunate that we live in Canada, more so Toronto, where we feel it is a progressive, open, accepting city. It is legal for gay people to live freely, marry whomever they love, and start a family. We are a family, just like any family out there. It is not OK to harass anyone based on their sexual orientation or for any other reason.
Even as a young child, I knew I wanted to be a father. But I also knew I was gay. So while fatherhood has always been a dream of mine, I lived with the fear that gay men just didn't have children, so I'd never be a dad.
The holiday season is a time that reminds us about the important things in life, like spending time with our loved ones, helping people and spreading that holiday cheer. Frank is Jewish, and I am Catholic, so growing up we had our own customs and traditions.
Allegedly, we are denying our son the right to a mother. Does Milo have a mom? No he doesn't. Does he have two loving parents that will do anything in their power to make sure he is loved, safe, happy, healthy, accepting, tolerant, kind (OK, this list can go on, but I'll stop there)? Will he grow up being less of a person because he doesn't have a mother? No he won't.
Milo was probably one of the easiest babies you would ever meet. He ate, he didn't fuss, he slept through the night, pretty much fell asleep instantly when putting him down. He still sleeps amazingly well but he is getting pickier at eating, and well, he's now a toddler. And parents know what that means.
He loves his little baby just as much as he loves his trains. I think people need to stop over reacting with the whole dolls are for girls and trucks are for boys thing. Just let your kid be who they are, play with what they want to play with. In the end, they will grow up to be the person who they were meant to be.