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Debra Macleod

Marriage Author & Conflict Specialist.

Debra Macleod, B.A., LL.B., is an international marriage author-expert and couples mediator. Visit her private practice at

Is It Ever OK To Have A Work Wife Or Work Husband?

It all began as an occasional after-hours and work-related text from one of her husband's female co-workers. Soon, the texts began to come more frequently, often late at night. Then she found several naked pictures that the female co-worker had sent to him.
03/17/2017 11:47 EDT
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10 Proactive Ways To Fix The Cracks Forming In Your Marriage

I often hear people say that their partner's affair or request for separation came "out of the blue" and that they had "no clue" their partner was that unhappy. Yet when the situation stabilizes a bit and they're able to look back with the clarity of hindsight, they usually admit that there were little cracks beginning to show.
03/09/2017 04:38 EST

Marriages Crash When Sex Falls Off The Radar

When it comes to marriage, emotional and sexual intimacy are two sides of the same coin. In successful marriages, we see a pretty decent balance. We see a couple who is going through life as best friends, and who just happen to think the other is pretty damn hot. Sex is a "use it or lose it" kind of thing.
01/17/2017 03:24 EST
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When His Midlife Crisis Wreaks Havoc On Your Marriage

If your husband is having a destructive midlife crisis, I encourage you to see the situation more objectively. You need to see it for the self-focused power play it can be. Because when one spouse's "crisis" creates a crisis in the life of the other spouse, or in the marriage, there comes a point when you need to wise up.
01/11/2017 12:11 EST
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10 Things Your Cheating Spouse Doesn't Want You To Know

Finding out that your husband or wife has been unfaithful isn't just a time of profound heartbreak and shock, it's also a time of intense confusion. There are so many unanswered questions and so many overwhelming emotions. Unfortunately, not all unfaithful partners will react with honesty, humility or empathy when their betrayal is discovered.
01/03/2017 11:16 EST
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Here's What Your Partner Really Wants For Xmas

Your partner wants you to stop checking your Facebook feed at the movie theatre. To stop getting that glazed-over look in your eye, the one you get when you're in the middle of an actual face-to-face conversation, but you feel that itch to check your phone. Your partner really, really wants you to stop ignoring them or half-listening as you check your emails for the gazillionth time that day. Your partner wants you to stop texting your "friend" while you're lying in the privacy of your bed.
12/15/2016 08:05 EST
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Being An "Alpha Mom" Is Killing Your Marriage

When does a wife become an Alpha Parent? When they become the person who hovers over her husband when he changes the baby's diaper or prepares a meal, just waiting for him to do something wrong -- or rather, something different than she does -- so that she can correct him, criticize him or just take over with an exasperated, "Oh, I'll do it."
07/27/2016 08:07 EDT
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When Your Unfaithful Spouse Refuses To End An Affair

Too often, an unfaithful spouse whose affair has been discovered will continue to see and/or contact their affair partner. Sometimes this is done in secret. They may assure their spouse that they've ended the affair; however, their lack of transparency and untrustworthy behaviour indicates otherwise.
07/20/2016 07:43 EDT

Why "We're Just Friends" Is Often A Lie

The truth is, many opposite-sex friendships are sustained because of a simmering attraction between two people. If circumstances were different, they could easily be sexual partners. And they know it. This underlying current of attraction makes talking, texting and spending time together as "just friends" all the more exciting. It has an erotic edge to it.
07/07/2016 10:45 EDT