I am about to experience my 12th Mother's Day, and this year I want to share a secret to dads and kids everywhere about what us moms really want.
I didn't realize it until my daughter gave me a gift this past birthday. It was simple, cost nothing, and has awakened me to what I really want in life.
I want to know that you love me. That I do a good job raising you. That sometimes I can be fun. I want to know that you are growing up strong, and smart and happy.
Tell me that your life is good, that I support you and take away your fears when you are scared. Let me know that the hard decisions I have had to make for you, have been worthwhile and didn't scar you that badly.
Let me know what you admire about me, tell me how I am your hero -- even if it is just in small ways.
If I championed for you, and you noticed, please let me know. It will make me feel appreciated.
Don't worry about getting me a gift, or making me breakfast, just show me love and then lets enjoy the day.
After all is said and done and you are off on your own adventure of life, I won't remember the piles of laundry, or the scrabble to figure out what is for dinner.
What I will remember is the times we laughed together, or when I helped you through a problem that worried you. I will remember late night homework sessions when you finally GOT IT, and when I taught you my chocolate chip cookie recipe.
Don't send me to the spa this mother's day, or prepare a fancy meal. Just be you, because seeing who you are is more than enough of a gift for me.
Dads, kids, this year, just tell mom what she wants to hear. Grab a piece of paper -- or use an app, like this one -- and record it. Don't stress yourselves out trying to make it perfect, we don't want perfection. We just want want real.
A Letter from My Daughter
You are sweet in the heart,
And in the brain smart,
You are to some a daughter and a sister
Aunt or Wife, but to me you are my mother.
You have characteristics that some do not,
Like kindness and gentleness and a hardworking personality.
You can be funny, in ways that only apply to you.
You are generally awesome and beautiful,
A role model to me, and loved throughout the world.
I am proud to call you my mom, Julie.
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