You are not alone. There are lots of people who look like you. Lots of people. When they see someone like me who is overweight, they make judgments. When I am at my present weight (I have gained and lost Arnold Schwarzenegger's body weight several times over during my 50 odd years) and go into a swanky coffee shop and order a low-fat chocolate, they always ask me, "Do you want whipped cream with that?"
When I lose 20 more pounds, go to a coffee shop and ask for low-fat hot chocolate, they say, "You don't want whipped cream with that?"
When I am at my perfect body weight (for me) they never ask me for whipped cream.
What do we learn from this? Nicole, you can't begin to understand what it means to be someone who needs to protect themselves with a layer of fat to feel safe, or the joy comes from the forbidden fruit that is the cocoa bean, the white bread rush, or the sugar buzz.
For whatever reason, your clan chose to find solace in belittling others as a form of comfort. I did notice that you had $300 worth of cosmetic paint on your face. You seem to thing that artifice is art.
Here's what I have to say to all those with a bad body image: look for real beauty.
It is not in your body, which shall betray the best of us with time. Look for self love first, because a loving man or woman is always kind and inspires instead of ridicules. Seek out those who are kind and help inspire you to be your best, who challenge you in those moments of weakness when you feel the need to get the buzz that bad food gives you, and to forgive the skinny people who don't understand. There are people out there who are in great shape who have kindness, who admit their struggles and don't need to sensationalize by shaming others.
And to Nicole: yes, you seem smart. You have good comedic timing, but shame on you. Yes. You got fame (for a second). You got notoriety. But you have proven the thing that I try so hard to teach the Millennials I work with who feel there's no point in working hard at school when you can get more famous being mean, stupid, or embarrassing in this world: that being a good person and living in the non-digital moment is what life is about. You have shown how bullying can travel. Look. I'm writing about you. Now, goodbye. Learn from Elwood P. Dowd, the character in Harvey. (It's a black and white film... give it a try).
"Years ago, my mother used to say to me, she'd say, 'In this world, Elwood, you must be.' -- She always called me Elwood -- 'In this world, Elwood, you must be oh so smart, or oh so pleasant.' Well, for years I was smart. I recommend pleasant. You may quote me."
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