10/23/2013 12:25 EDT | Updated 12/23/2013 05:12 EST

Maybe There's No Such Thing As 'Autism Recovery'

I have been hearing the words "autism recovery" for over 13 years now. Truth be told, when my son was initially diagnosed 11 years ago, I too latched on to these words and held on for dear life. I mean, who wouldn't? If your child received a diagnosis of autism and you later hear the possibility of recovering from it, wouldn't you grab this thin strand of hope and at least try? I did. If autism recovery was possible, then we would achieve it.

There were many "bandwagons" that I jumped on that promised change in behavior, improvements in sleeping and eating; even dramatic results in social interactions. In essence, I tried everything that I could financially afford in order to have my son recover from autism.

I tried homeopathic supplements, casein free-gluten free diet, yeast free diet, organic diet, behavior interventions, probiotics and thousands of hours of speech therapy, occupational therapy, aba therapy, floor time, social skills, etc.

In reality, you need to be extremely rich in order to try all the possible interventions that claim to have had children recover from autism. Biomedical treatment such as chelation, which is the process of removing toxic metals from the body and hyperbaric oxygen treatment are some examples of costly alternative medicine that most insurance companies do not pay for. What's more, there is continued controversy in the medical community whether such treatments truly make a difference, let alone reverse autism.

A recent study showed that chelation doesn't help kids with autism. You can read the article here.

Another article talks about 3 people who have actually died from chelation therapy.

In the absence of a medical explanation as to the cause of autism, and in desperation to finding a solution, parents are willing to try most anything to help their child.

While I respect every individual's opinion, this is my opinion on autism recovery.

We've all heard the saying "If you know one child with autism, you know ONE child with autism". While there are similarities across the autism spectrum, you cannot fit every child into one mould and give them all similar treatments. Every child with ASD is different and unique. Therefore, their interventions are also unique to fit their specific abilities and work on their difficulties. You can have a very high functioning autistic child with PDD or Asperger's and you can have a very severe case of an autistic child with no eye contact or verbal communication.

We cannot compare a child with severe autism to another child with Asperger and expect the same developmental results. It's impossible. However, what we can expect is each child to develop at their own pace, in their own manner and in their own environment that is best suited for them.

Early intervention and therapy session for an autistic child is critical to their development. Sometimes the changes are small and sometimes it's a huge step forward. But one thing is certain, they continue to learn and grow on a daily basis.

Speech therapy helped my son to create sentences and verbalize his needs. Occupational therapy helped my son with gross and fine motor skills. Floor time helped him to interact with other kids and play appropriately.

While he no longer has certain fixations as he did when he was 3, he does have others. He has matured and developed but he is not recovered from autism. Autism is part of who he is, just like his big brown eyes with long eye lashes.

It was by my own free will that I tried so many alternative solutions. While I initially appreciated the hope of a possible autism recovery so many years ago, I quickly faced my reality and became angry at many organizations that gave me false representations, inflated stories and a cloud of lies. I had feelings of depression and desperation after every attempt failed to produced any significant improvements.

It all seemed like a cruel joke to play on a parent and giving them this sense of possibility when in reality, nobody knows how a child will respond to any given therapy.

What were once words of hope, "autism recovery" have become words that I no longer entertain in my mind.

I see the improvements my son has made and this is through hard work and perseverance. He has reached the stars compared to what he was doing 5 years ago, even one year ago! I celebrate this every single day!

I will never give up on him and we will continue to work hard as we have been doing all these years. But our reality is that autism is part of who he is and it will be for life.

What are your thoughts on autism recovery?

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