12/07/2012 12:19 EST | Updated 02/06/2013 05:12 EST

Why I Talk to Myself, and You Should Too



That's me up there. Circa 1984?

I think we all have at least one area in our life that we truly want to change for the better. One specific habit, an old repetitive and never-ending problem, that we so desire to resolve once and for all, but we are just too frightened to do the work, be the change, and witness that huge paradigm shift. I know I do.

Just yesterday, whilst walking home from Whole Foods, I decided to have a conversation with myself about just that problem of mine. I had recently read an article about why it is so damn hard for us to make positive changes in the most important areas of our lives when we know exactly what it is we need to do in order to do it.


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The piece stated that quite often it is simply an issue of our "child-like" selves resisting the ideas for change brought on by our "adult" selves, and thus sabotaging all of our efforts. The article went on to say that the first step in making massive transformation in our lives is to simply have a conversation with our kid-self. Say hello, greet that youthful you in a welcoming way, and then use this internal chit-chat to begin distilling the FEAR that the child self feels about the change in question.

It is also important to clearly express that our child-self need not worry, that our grown-up self promises to take care and ensure protection and safety while shifting into this new way of thinking and doing.

So yes, I talked to myself. Out loud I might add. I must have looked mildly of a crazy person walking through Rosedale muttering words of encouragement under my breath to my mini-me. But I did feel better after the "talk." I felt lighter. Calmer. Total placebo effect? Maybe. But who cares? Shifting perception equals a shifted reality, after all.

So today I suggest to you, please sit down, take a breath, and say hello to your kid-self and give him or her a hug. Have a conversation and see what transpires. You just might be surprised.