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bdsm jian ghomeshi

Jian Ghomeshi wants you to think this is all about BDSM and how he's forward-thinking but his bosses aren't. He "framed" the discussion by claiming he has edgy sex preferences, and the big, boring government broadcaster isn't hip to alternative sex lives. Anyone involved in BDSM knows BDSM is not how the public perceives it. People joke about "safe words," but in the BDSM community, the safe word is sacred. There is a widespread understanding amongst even hardcore BDSM fans that sadomasochism is all about trust and power -- except that power is never held by the person with the whip in hand.
In the case of Jian Ghomeshi, can I say anything out loud if it doesn't flat-out favour the victims? Can I speak if my only stance is to say I won't take one until I have more information? Am I a victim blamer? I feel shame about my reservation to take sides. I feel shame for holding my judgement. I wonder if I'm alone.