Who doesn't want to be close to their mother, especially on Mother's Day? But for thousands it's just not possible. Being with Mom hurts too much. Her "love" is toxic. It causes too much emotional pain. No time is this more controversial and guilt-inducing than on Mother's Day.
Last week I worked with a client who prides himself on his strong work ethic. Hard work and excellence matter to him (which is awesome!). The problem? He's burning himself out with 14-hour workdays. And he's calling it "strong work ethic."
I believe we are in full control of our choices and that our actions, in response to what fate offers us, matter. We are here to learn lessons and the hard decisions we have to make are what helps us grow as humans. Our destiny is not something we can sit by and let happen to us.
Are you sometimes criticized for needing too much control? I often defend my controlling nature saying that it can be a good thing. There are some dangers associated with taking over a situation, however. Here are some points to keep in mind to ensure you don't cross the line at work.
Maybe this is reflective of a general August "chill out" mood swing, but thanks to Richard Linklater and Boyhood, I'm learning to see and accept things as they are, and not put too much weight or thought into the "why." I recognize how little I actually control in life, and how much fun there is in watching it go by, reacting when I need to.
Overweight and out of shape, I told myself that surfing is the type of adventure that is simply not for me. I'm the leader
I have had two breakdowns -- one after the end of my marriage, and a second one of the career/identity variety. Based on my experience from the first, I handled the second one differently. I fought the first one. Hard.
The other day, one of my patients described herself as a "control freak," and an unhappy one at that. Certainly, she's not the first person I've worked with who's been frustrated in their attempts to be "in control," but it always saddens me to see someone wasting her time on something that's neither possible nor necessary.