Rough play helps stimulate the brain and enables siblings to develop both cognitive and emotional intelligence. After all, when one pins the other to the ground, they are learning to read facial expressions and interpret body language. They are also learning about fairness and developing fledgling conflict resolution skills.
You've had an argument and it got completely out of hand. It escalated into something personal, and then something hurtful. It's a good way to ruin relationships, and all the hurtful things that were said can be very hard to recover from. Force yourself to stay as calm as possible. Don't take any bait to react negatively, or explosively.
This is your journey and your lesson and if you miss this information you will remain unaware. Do not be too proud to apologize, as an authentic apology can liberate everyone involved. This is the opportunity for conflict to become the vehicle for a deeper and richer relationship.
With our couple, Robyn feels insecure about their connectedness. She wants to feel close. So when he comes home late, she turns that into, "I'm not important. He doesn't care." She feels hurt or abandoned, and that's why she gets upset. On the other hand, Blair needs validation. His sense of identity and confidence are important.
Honestly, I don't know what I'm more tired of, and I don't know what exhausts me more: fighting in the National Hockey League, or the debate that has raged like a wildfire for as long as I can recall on the contentious issue of... fighting in the National Hockey League. Fighting's going nowhere. Don Cherry will stop prefacing every comment he makes with "I gotta tell ya" before fighting is banned. Players will stop wearing protective cups. And arenas around the league will stop overcharging for beer. Why? Because it's fighting that puts the National Hockey League at the top of sportscasts.
There are few sensations as rewarding as that of your knee driving into the soft, fleshy testicles of the guy who just butted in front of you in the lineup at Dairy Queen, but there are also risks. Clearly, there are situations in which a man has no choice but to stand up for himself; there are many more in which standing down is unquestionably the right thing to do. The key is knowing the difference.
There's a reason kids tend to not speak up about bullying, which is that doing so will most likely result in further bullying. A better plan of action is to teach your kids how to fight back. There are a lot of losers out there and one must learn to live with the losers because they are for some unexplainable reason a part of life. This approach offers the added bonus of serving your child well as he or she eventually grows to become a working stiff and undoubtedly encounters adult jerks, like that useless lump of a coworker who resorts to insults to overcompensate for his lack of intellect and ability.
You're overworked. You're tired. Your kids are driving you nuts, your job is driving you nuts and you feel like you haven't
It's pretty hard to justify head shots, or anything that might damage the brain. But don't confuse concussions, head shots, or cheap shots with fighting. It could be argued that few things are less dangerous than a hockey fight. The crowd loves it, and little harm is done.