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how to be happy

"If you want to have a friend, you have to be a friend."
What I am saying is, when you make a choice that your future self will not be proud of, lean into the fall and learn from every choice -- both positive and negative. Work to understand your personal triggers and coping mechanisms so that you evolve into the healthier and fitter future self you want to be.
To lose weight, help lower blood pressure, improve energy or decrease anxiety, you need to change your preferences - your daily habits - so that more often than not you are making healthy choices. You need to be consistently healthier. It sounds obvious, but consistency falls into the life category of "simple, but not easy."
As a therapist I often see people searching for fulfillment and meaning in their lives. Many people come into my office trying to figure out why they have so many beautiful things in their lives, but are unable to enjoy life. They often seek therapy because they are feeling unsettled and unhappy. This seems to not just be an individual struggle, but a societal struggle as well. It appears that as a society we have an abundance -- but we are struggling with high levels of depression and left feeling unsatisfied despite all of the beautiful stuff we surround ourselves with .
So don't be afraid to show your quirky side!
So many hours and days of my life I focused on what was not working. Then I learned about gratitude. The more I practiced repeating my gratitude lists, the more natural it became for me to see the positives in people and situations, and to be grateful for all the small, wonderful things occurring in my life.
Artists can teach you everything you need to know about being creative. Don't worry, don't get your Dockers in a twist. You don't need to actually sculpt or paint or perform an expressive dance. You just have to think like those who do.
The power of manifestation and visualization is a bit more complex than just changing your thoughts. In part, one reason for this has been shown in recent neurobiological research which has shown that our though patterns are biologically wired in the brain, which are not easy to "undo."
I've made no secret of the fact that I am someone who has a history with depression and eating disorders; in fact I've written