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learning to say no

You're not being selfish, you're showing responsibility
It's the time we clean our closets to get rid of things that no longer work, hoping to add something bright and colourful. By following that same practice with our behaviours we can live a more expansive and rewarding life. Start by learning to say yes to your passions and no to things that get in the way, especially items on another's agenda!
I have said yes to things that I had no business saying yes to. Things I had no time for, no interest in, could not afford...all manner of yesses have slid past my lips so I feel confident in saying that I have been around the yes-block and have come back with a better roadmap than when I started. Here are the three ways you can say no, guilt free.
It's a fast-paced world and women work hard. We have homes to maintain, families to care for and demanding jobs. All this takes mountains of energy yet we continue to spend time on things that don't really interest or support us. It's time for women to cut to the chase and do the things that give us energy while getting rid of the rest.
Do you have a difficult time saying "no" to family and friends? By saying "yes" to everyone, you are recklessly giving away all your valuable energy. If you have trouble saying no, it could be that you are motivated by a genuine desire to help but it could also be that you are acting out of fear or guilt.
In our excitement, I think we have all bitten off more than we can chew, and it takes some real truth seeking, and sometimes a true moment of bravery to recognize that, and step down from the merry-go-round of motion. So as I move through the journey that will be 2013, I plan to slow down and know when to say no.