There are so many adults running around without basic life skills, us very much included.
They learn to be self-sufficient much more quickly if we're not always doing things for them.
Appreciating the hard work it takes to earn a living is a valuable lesson for everybody, and the sooner your teen understands this, the better.
Dozens of daycares in Quebec are being encouraged to allow children to roughhouse, rather than break it up. I was alarmed. Don't get me wrong: I'm all for roughhousing. I know that roughhousing is teaching my sons important life lessons. But those are places where kids should learn to resolve their conflicts with words, not fists.
We live in a society that always wants more. A better job, a nicer car, a bigger house, a bigger paycheque, a great title, and so on. However, each of these wants comes with a price.
As our lives became more hectic and lifestyles more busy, the traditional model of family also shifted. No longer were women staying at home, living out their lives as "domestic goddesses," and increasing numbers of men were shown to be not particularly handy when it came to making and fixing things, and that was okay. But now, our kids don't have those skills at all. What happened?
I have had a few daycare kids whose parents did not teach them how to climb stairs. Ever. The thinking was that stairs were dangerous. Of course they are dangerous. That's why, if my daycare kids have the use of their legs, they need to learn to climb them. As soon as a kid learns to walk, we head straight to the stairs.
As times change, so do the skills required to succeed. While learning new skills has never been easier (thank you, internet
Devora Zack, a leadership consultant for major institutions and organizations, has written Singletasking, a book based on the scientific evidence that multi-tasking is a myth. Her advice: If you want to get something done, just tackle that and nothing else. In essence, what Zack has developed is a practical form of mindfulness.
Research has since shown that laughter is good for you. So my advice? Find your funny bone. Trust me, you'll be glad you did.