Very shortly after finding out I was approved to adopt, my adoption worker came to my home to tell me about two amazing adolescent sisters: Charity and Emily. I sat at my kitchen table for the rest of the night, staring straight ahead like a deer in the headlights, thinking about everything the worker had asked me to consider.
I was born in North Bay, Ontario, in 1968 as Dorothée Labrosse. I was placed for adoption immediately upon my birth, and two months later, was blessed with a wonderful life with my adoptive parents. Since recently being diagnosed with mental illnesses, a synopsis of my birth family's health could help in the treatment of my illnesses and potentially those of my children.
The Toronto Star and other publications have touted the success of Ontario's Africentric school system. The problem is, one would expect higher test scores and improved behaviour from students who attend such a school, as the program will self-select parents who care more about their children and are engaged in their education. The fact is, as confirmed in countless studies, that the collapse of the black family within a segment of the black community is the primary reason so many of our children fall through the cracks of society, to be broken against the hard, unbending steel of racism, prejudice, failure and depression. No amount of "specialty schools" can change that.
I want to adopt our second child. But then, I got this question: "Why would you want to steal a baby from a family that can't have children?" It had never crossed my mind that we were in competition against infertile families. I believe that the private Canadian adoption system has lost sight of what is paramount to the process: the needs of the children who need forever families. There has been a clear shift away from this goal towards fulfilling the desires of parents who are unable to conceive.
This story has been updated from its original version. In light of the news that Russian President Vladimir Putin has approved
T.J. is a senior Chow Chow with a b-u-tiful cream coat who was brought in as a stray to a shelter in British Columbia. His owner never claimed him. Katie was found as a stray so we have no history on her. Although a senior, don't let her age fool you. She has lots of spunk, and a sharp brain.
I did not give birth to Allie. I'm her foster mother, but I have no rights to make key decisions for this child in my care. Allie's "real" mother has never been with her daughter for more than two hours at a time. "Mom" has never taken Allie to the park, given her a bath, or put her to bed.
Before Lindsay Metzger's mother qualified for the family's Habitat house, that was not the path her life was on. The family of four moved around a lot, from rental to rental, most of them not very nice. Habitat doesn't just build houses. It builds better futures for the people who live in them.
Rene deBlois agreed that he would just be a sperm donor for his friend and her same-sex partner, and that he would not play any kind of role in the child's life. Now deBlois says he was coerced into the latter part of this arrangement and that he believes he should be recognized as the child's father. On the surface, this may seem logical, but in reality, this is a case about the rights of the child.
The 99 per cent built a nation, raised successful families against increasing economic odds, built remarkably successful businesses, sacrificed for their communities and cared for their world. Only a blind ideologue could overlook such important contributions.
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