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saying no

It made me happier and healthier, and therefore stronger in all aspects of my life.
We sometimes don't have the time, but don't want to admit how much we're struggling to keep all the balls in the air.
If I say "no" to something it's because I truly am unable to say yes, or to be frank, I simply don't want to say yes.
You're up early and you're up late. And in the middle, you seem to be running. Running to the office, to meetings, to soccer games, to the grocery store, to the dentist, to the PTA meeting, to the birthday party for ... well, you can't even remember who the birthday party is for. You say yes to everything, because you're a team player. Try saying these five things instead.
You're not being selfish, you're showing responsibility
We accept life is irreversibly transformed and some parts of our pre-children lives are forever lost. It's hard to do -- life was simple and straightforward before kids and it's healthy to admit we miss it. It doesn't make us ungrateful parents, it makes us human. It means we're honest.
The word "selfish" has a bad rap. I get it. Being "concerned chiefly or only with yourself" seems like kind of an asshole move, but is that always the case? I don't think so. The "Screw you, suckers!" variety of selfishness deserves its critics, but what about the kind of selfishness that simply means you're putting yourself first?
We have the right to want more. We deserve to have space for ourselves in our lives. Self-care is the ground floor of the revolution. This is where we begin to reclaim our lives, even in the midst of a chaotic and complicated world. And that, my love, is life-changing.
Boundaries help us define who we are and provides us with a definite sense of self. While setting boundaries and learning to say no is an ideal opportunity to gain a sense of self, it also helps us to rediscover who we are, our personal values, and what's important to us. Most people have a hard time setting personal boundaries, particularly within their relationships.
Saying no to your children can be a teaching moment - an opportunity to learn about responsibility and how to deal with disappointment. It can free up some time for the things that you really want to do, and can alleviate a lot of the stress that comes with being a parent.