"How is telling a woman and child to cover up not sexual violence?"
I was standing in line at my local McDonald's when the person behind me asked, "Is that a plaid shirt you're wearing?" I was flustered, my face turned a crimson red and I quickly exited the restaurant. It was only when I sat down inside my car in the parking lot that I realized what had happened: I'd been plaid-shamed.
The only way to give a whistleblower a pair of "concrete shoes" is to create unbearable conditions on the job -- such as assigning onerous tasks unrelated to the job or enforcing obscure codes of conduct -- until you sink to your lowest point & either quit or refuse to cooperate.
During a flight from Montreal to Halifax, I missed a chance to carry out an act of "shaming" against a person who I think has abused his position of authority in Canada. It's well known that MacKay has been less than truthful several times during his political career. Given how powerless ordinary folk and public interest groups have become, I would like to see people embarrass the hell out of those who take advantage of the public by lying to us, cheating us, or destroying our priceless environment.
Who cares if an asshole is feeling ostracized for being an asshole? Isn't that sort of the point? If they stew on it and distance themselves from other people, that's a win. Who wants to spend time with an asshole? If they revisit their thinking in order to avoid being shamed again, so much the better; either way, we lose one asshole.
There is a problem with the church today -- a problem that runs deep and wide and long. It's created a chasm actually and an exodus. It's a problem sourced by a history of church practices and traditions that serve to verify its authenticity as real and overt. It's a problem all right. And that problem is shaming, specifically the shaming of people, both Christian and otherwise.