03/22/2016 01:53 EDT | Updated 03/23/2017 05:12 EDT

The Pursuit Of Perfection Can Stop You In Your Tracks

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Uncertain girl is looking at arrows. Girl full of doubts and hesitation.

We're nearly through a quarter of 2016 and some of us are feeling like the year is a complete write off already. Our resolutions have gone down the toilet. Life has gotten in the way. We feel like failures. But we don't have to.

Changing something about your life is a big deal. You might not nail it the first time you try. In fact, you may never be perfect at this thing you want. That's a good thing!

A serious mark of strength in a person is the ability to get up off the ground and try again and again.

It's not easy to remember the truth of abundance when you're "face down in the arena" as Brene` Brown puts it. Down there inadequacy reigns king and hollers its message loud and clear.

"You are not enough!"

"There is not enough!"

"You're finished!"

"You've failed. Period. End of sentence."

Not listening to that voice is hard, because it's when you're down that you have to decide your next move.

Inadequacy is a bully and a liar. It wants you to believe that things are hopeless and everybody else has what it takes, except you. Perfection is the only way to succeed.

But perfect means you can not be improved upon. You stop growing. You're finished. You're dead.

Oh friends! I encourage you to listen to abundance. It's cheering for you. Hear it.

"It's OK! There are second and third and fourth chances for you!"

"You learned a lot that time!"

"Get up!"

"Try again!"

"Your ideas are never ending!"

Kintsukuroi (n.) (v. phr.) - Japanese: "to repair with gold"; the art of repairing pottery with gold or silver lacquer and understanding that the piece is more beautiful for having been broken.

If we think of the lessons we've learned when we fail as silver or gold filling in our cracked broken places, we can also deem ourselves more valuable for having been broken.

Even if my ideas turn into failures, or I revert back to an old habit that I'm trying to break, I remind myself that the next moment is there to rise in. And so on with each moment after that allowing me to be still in the dirt until the will to get up and dust myself off returns to me. There is no scarcity of moments ticking by.

I'm declaring each month as start-over month. That is what's saving my life right now. It's knowing that I can decide that this month is a month of retries or Wednesday is do over day. Or Sunday is the beginning of back to the drawing board week.

Today I chose to start again in using my time more wisely and avoiding distractions. I chose to take another look at the rooms in my house and purge to make them peaceful. I will breathe and be OK if I slip up.

Celebrating improvements as victories. Stepping out to pursue creativity. Not waiting for my cards to be all aces before I place my bets.

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