Engagement Rings: Should A Man Spend More Than $2,000 On Bling?

Engagement Rings

The Huffington Post Canada   First Posted: 09/06/11 07:50 PM ET Updated: 11/06/11 05:12 AM ET

What price would you put on true love? Apparently it's not worth as much these days: Recent surveys have shown guys are now spending far less money on engagement rings than they did in the past. While the old standard was to spend around three months pay on a rock for your lady, a survey by home insurance company LV has found these days, most guys are spending less than a month's earnings.

More specifically, guys are now spending around $2,000 on engagement rings, as opposed to $8,000 before. (Which seems a tad ridiculous when you consider the history behind engagement ring marketing: since DeBeers coined the phrase "A Diamond Is Forever" in 1939, 80 per cent of women in North America now sport diamond engagement rings. Prior to the ad's appearance, men would traditionally give women fur coats, automobiles or rubies as an engagement gift.)

But don't give your guy a hard time about being a cheapskate. Given the current economic climate, he's certainly not the only one who's spending less on bling. "It's not surprising to see men tightening their belts in these tough economic times," John O'Roarke, the managing director of LV, tells the Daily Mail. "Regardless of how much a ring is worth, it is still a treasured possession." Hey, even Prince William gave his bride a second-hand ring.

In fact, it's not just the diamond industry that's taking a hit during this recession -- the whole institution of marriage is suffering. According to recent reports from the U.S. Census Bureau, marriage rates are at an all-time low and it's largely believed that financial insecurity is one of the top reasons. These days, only 52 per cent of Americans are married, compared to 57 per cent in 2000.

People are also choosing to wait longer to get married. Since 1970, the median age to get married for the first time has risen by six years for both men and women. And a 2010 study showed a record number of young couples aged 25 to 34 are postponing or even cancelling wedding plans indefinitely. "The economy is obviously hitting couples pretty hard and making them more risk averse," W. Bradford Wilcox, a sociologist at the University of Virginia, tells iVillage.

Already-married folk aren't faring well through the recession either -- a study from the University of Virginia reported 29 per cent of couples claimed the financial climate had put extra stress on their marriage, with couples lacking a college degree being the hardest hit by the recession. It's interesting to note, however, divorce rates have actually declined during the recession. Either financial stress makes relationships stronger or it's just too expensive to get divorced.

Does the fact our marriage habits as a society depend so much on finances seem troubling to you? Is this an indication that marriage has become little more than an expensive spectacle that may not even work out? Let us know what you think.

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01:07 AM on 09/30/2011
Where did you get the $2,000 figure?
According to data from www.diamondcodes.com/trends the average diamond ring price is more than $3,000.
You can also look at www.diamondcodes.com for a diamond ring price comparison and see that many rings are lower than $1,000 - which brings me to the conclusion that the average person probably spends even less. The high average price is on account of people buying super expensive rings.

TheKnot.com also had a large survey in which the average price came out to be more than $5K.
07:19 PM on 09/16/2011
you can NEVER have enough diamonds
06:28 AM on 09/09/2011
"A Diamond is Forever," one of the all-time successful tag lines.
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02:34 PM on 09/08/2011
No, a man should not pay more than $2,000 for an engagement ring. Besides, the size of the engagement ring shouldn't be what's important. A man should not pay for an expensive ring
that he can't afford. He should only buy an engagement ring that's affordable for him.
As to why divorce rates have declined during the recession, perhaps more couples are not
giving up on their marriages so quickly and trying more to work out the problems in their
marriage.
03:46 AM on 09/08/2011
A wedding meh? This is more bullshtt! Love what you love and enjoy everything you already have! Be Happy!
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06:39 PM on 09/07/2011
My son just got engaged to the most wonderful girl. She let him know that if he ever spent money on a ring, she'd know he wasn't the right guy for her.

He did give her a ring.. he got it free from his aunt because her hubby got her a bigger ring. She doesn't want a wedding either... they're going to city hall and then we're all going out to dinner. She cares more about the marriage than the wedding, more about him than glitz and possessions and I couldn't love her more than if she was my daughter.

Lucky him
(she's very lucky too, he adores her and can't wait to be her husband)

I think priorities have shifted in the past 30 years thanks to DeBeers ads and reality shows. The one day becomes the focus with no thought to the marriage that comes after it. Bridezillas abound who want an all about me day and I can't imagine the fall that must come the day after a wedding that's become your life.