Teens Lying To Parents: Kids Share Common Lies On Twitter

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Huffington Post Canada   First Posted: 03/14/2012 6:29 pm Updated: 03/14/2012 6:30 pm

It's eleven o'clock, do you know what your children are lying about? Well, prying parents can now find out using Twitter and the hashtag, #LiesIvetoldmyparents. The search pulls up the fibs tweeted by kids and range from little lies about homework and school to smoking and alcohol -- your typical teen problems.

But according to a 2008 New York Times article, those just maybe the tip of the iceberg. The article featured a study that focused on children lying to their parents and suggests there are 12 topics teen typically lie about:

...what they spent their allowances on, and whether they’d started dating, and what clothes they put on away from the house. They lied about what movie they went to, and whom they went with. They lied about alcohol and drug use, and they lied about whether they were hanging out with friends their parents disapproved of. They lied about how they spent their afternoons while their parents were at work. They lied about whether chaperones were in attendance at a party or whether they rode in cars driven by drunken teens.

Here is just a sample of what kids are sharing on Twitter using the hastag #LiesIvetoldmyparents. The story continues below:

Researchers haven't pinned an exact reason why adolescents lie to their folks but can offer a few theories: the child's embarrassment, their fear of disappointing loved ones, or a desire to become more independent.

However, before parents confront their child on a lie, it's important to find out if these lies hold any truth, says Annie Fox, a parenting advisor and author. "It's really bragging rights in front of a peer group. The truth is that most of them are good kids; they’re just trying to gain some status. The feel that they can only gain respect from peers by acting bad, but gain respect from parents by being good."

Fox also adds that mutual understanding and discussion are key to addressing the problem, "if your kid lies a lot then they might be under a great deal of social pressure -- maybe they're afraid they'll never get invited to a social event again. It's tough to set a standard that are different from other parents but they have to understand it's not okay to lie. The real objective of a parent is to raise a fully grown adult to make good choices when you’re not around."

While the reasons for lying among teens is varied, one thing that is certain: this isn't the first time teens have taken their angst against parents to the internet. Last February, a North Carolinan teen posted a Facebook note berating her parents for overloading her with house-hold chores. Her parents found the message online and fought fire with firearms and shot her laptop, while filming their response to her letter in a Youtube video.

Do any of these tweets surprise you, or are they familiar fibs you used yourself while growing up? Let us know at @HuffPostCaLiv or in the comments below.

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02:06 PM on 03/17/2012
Since when, did lies come in colors? If your kid is a liar today, he/she will lie until the day they drop dead.
12:27 PM on 03/17/2012
Is this really a surprise? It's a parents job to know their children. If their child seems even just a bit suspicious, they should do whatever it takes to keep them safe.
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mspat44417
Rock it if ya got it...Music
12:22 PM on 03/17/2012
Really parents you don't know what your kids lie about you need a web site..then you are really stupid...Have some common sense ... I know that's becoming extinct these days with people..
12:17 PM on 03/17/2012
Check out the fingernails on that thing in the picture. I know it is only a stock photo, but if you let your teenager go out looking like that, is practically the same as hanging a sign on her stating that she gives good sex.
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grundoboy
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10:55 AM on 03/17/2012
With said government, it's the standard of life....
09:58 AM on 03/17/2012
What does it take for a teenager to get the message. Evidently, this father (in video) had to resort to a more dramatic solution. I commend him for continuing to go to the next level of punishment to get the desired result. If kids today would have parents that would continue to go to the next level of punishment to get the desired result, I'm sure after a couple times the kids' would get the message they won't get away with it. Kids aren't any different today than they were 20,30,40+ years ago....but what is different is how they are being parented (or lack there of). Think about it!!! DO WHAT IT TAKES TO GET THE DESIRED RESULT. PARENTS WIN
09:45 AM on 03/17/2012
Kids today are raising the parents and are good at it! A "Lie" is a "Lie" and the parents let it go on until it is just too late to stop them. They began to lie to ones self and say what they can't do, but you did it or is doing it! Now they are telling each other that is the way to go; this is the way to get what they want. Just ask; don't lie!!! Wake parents before it is to late; your child might run as a "Elected Official" some day!
09:02 AM on 03/17/2012
i was a great actor in school. which made me a great story teller. which made me a superb lier. i lied about the stuff that wasnt important. if i didnt, i would have been tucked away in a bubble somewhere and i would be the most beta man ever.
03:36 PM on 03/16/2012
Shooting a laptop?

Sorry, that's not "cute", that's a pretty serious threat against the safety of a child.

If a partner in a relationship breaks something that belongs to the other person, that's an implicit statement about, "look what I could do to you". If a parent does that to the property of a child, the exact same statement is being made.
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11:43 AM on 03/17/2012
He did not shoot the laptop in front of her.

He sent a very clear and unmistakable message about who is in charge and that her actions have consequences.

He wasn't trying to be "funny"... in fact the message he sent is "this is quite serious" so you need to pay attention.

Yes... you could interpret his actions to mean this could be you (you could not as well)... but you know what... at a certain age of life you need to understand that yeah.. this could be me if I misbehave... someone may shoot me... so perhaps I should do the right thing... actions have consequences.

A win all the way around.
07:08 PM on 03/17/2012
No, screw that. Just because he's making an implicit threat in a passive-agressive kind of way doesn't absolve him of making a clear violent threat.

If you SHOOT something, you're clearly sending the message that you're capable of shooting other things too.

Violent actions against objects that belong to other people are proxies for violent actions against other people. Just because children are the one group in society we allow you to inflict violence on without legal consequences doesn't make it even remotely acceptable.

This guy is a piece of human garbage. Clearly he's raising his kids to follow in his footsteps. The whole thing is tragic, since he should really know better and his kids are just going to be as terrible as he is, and neither of them will ever realize why.
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psandysdad
The older you get, the more excuses you have.
11:34 AM on 03/16/2012
"Researchers haven't pinned an exact reason why adolescents lie to their folks".....

Really? Then maybe this will come as an epiphany: they do so because a) they think they know everything, and b) that their parents don't know anything.

Sure, they fooled me and got away with stuff any number of times. But as often as not, I *let them* fool me and chose to ignore this or that for the sake of family harmony.

As I have said before: in *any* long-term relationship, in my case single parent - kids, it helps to be a little deaf, dumb and blind.
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11:24 PM on 03/15/2012
teenagers........yeah......teenagers!!!!
05:33 PM on 03/15/2012
I can't stand teenagers. I didn't do this when I was that age. I did what I was supposed to do while I was under their roof and they didn't hand me anything.
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Fran Jaime
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01:30 AM on 03/16/2012
LOL! Yeahhh, riiiight! We were all saints when we were teenagers!
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joebikerchef
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09:57 AM on 03/17/2012
*crossing fingers* I know I was!
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03:58 PM on 03/15/2012
But here's the thing that the teenagers don't realize - the parents know that they're lying. As many people have posted - yes, parents were teenagers once and lied to their own parents. Probably told many of the same lies themselves. Parents are actually smarter than they look.
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Fran Jaime
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01:31 AM on 03/16/2012
Unfortunately, some parents are clueless or prefer to act as if they are to the peril of their kids. I have a friend who started drinking a t 11. She would get to school drunk and both her parents and the teachers preferred to ignore that.
12:19 PM on 03/17/2012
Many mothers will lie for their daughters, because they don't want to be held accountable by anyone for their actions, either.
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02:37 PM on 03/17/2012
True, but in my experience those mothers (and fathers as well) are the exception to the norm.
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ethelmertzrules
Repetition doesn't make it true
02:43 PM on 03/15/2012
Yep. My cat would never tell me that.
02:12 PM on 03/15/2012
Half of those twitter trends on there are made up for the most RTs! Just because we lie to our parents doesn't mean they raised us badly. Us teens have a choice to tell the truth or not, we aren't 6 anymore where are parents could get us to admit our lies easily. Besides, everyone of you adults were teens once!
11:46 AM on 03/17/2012
Exactly, we were once teens. Only difference is the majority had two parents in the house and when they layed down the law we knew they meant business. I don't remember columbine type slayings or teenagers killing their parents without a 2nd thought. Maybe something can be learned from those 'old' fashioned parenting skills. Today too many parents let the kids rule the roost.