Slut. Fag. Loser.
This is the way their world ends.
With a casual cruelty scrawled on a Facebook wall for all to see.
It’s one of the little deaths suffered by children every day, across the country.
These are not your father’s bullies. Rather, the digital age has given tormentors an unprecedented reach into young lives. From Facebook to texting to Twitter to YouTube, bullies burrow deep into a young, raw psyche -- and deliver devastating blows.
And we, too, suffer that devastation as we learn their stories and their names.
Amanda. Jamie. Michael. And now Rehtaeh, or Rae, as her dad called her.
Earlier this week, the parents of Rehtaeh Parsons made the heartbreaking decision to remove the Halifax teen from life support.
A few days earlier, she had tried to hang herself.
If claims of being raped by four schoolmates are proven, the 17-year-old certainly endured more than most victims.
But the same fatal thread remains. Her father says she was hounded online with a photo of the ordeal.
“They took photos of it. They posted it on their Facebook walls. They emailed it to God knows who. They shared it with the world as if it was a funny animation,” grieving parent Glen Canning wrote in a blog posted on The Huffington Post Canada.
“Why is it they didn't just think they would get away with it?” her father asked.
“They knew they would get away with it.”
Parsons’ death stirred a tsunami of outrage across Canada.
Why didn’t school authorities investigate the assault? A school board spokesperson told the Chronicle Herald they didn’t want to interfere with the police investigation.
And what about the persistent bullying that would ultimately propel this tragedy into national headlines?
These questions, of course, always come too late.
Here’s a more prescient one: What will stop it from happening again?
Not just the next headline-snatching tragedy -- but the countless ‘little deaths’ that are adding up in schools and homes and social networking sites and on mobile phones as you’re reading this?
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<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/09/rehtaeh-parsons-girl-dies-suicide-rape-canada_n_3045033.html" target="_blank">Rehtaeh Parsons</a>, 17, committed suicide last week after she was allegedly raped when she was 15. The boys took a photo of her and then spread the photo to students at her school. Months of bullying followed. Police investigated the case but never pressed charges.
ON THE BLOG: Rehtaeh Parsons Was My Daughter
ON THE BLOG: What All Boys Should Be Told About Rehtaeh Parsons
B.C. teen <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/news/amanda-todd" target="_blank">Amanda Todd</a> took her life in 2012 after months of online bullying over an explicit photo of her was sent to students at her school. <P> Todd posted a moving YouTube clip chronicling the bullying she faced. Her death sparked greater awareness of bullying in B.C. and across Canada.
ON THE BLOG: Will the Law Listen to Amanda Todd's Story?
ON THE BLOG: The One Thing I Know Bullies Cannot Take Away
<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2011/09/29/mitchell-wilson-suicide-disabled-bullying_n_987070.html" target="_blank">Mitchell Wilson</a>, 11, was bullied and mugged because of his muscular dystrophy, a condition that made it hard for Mitchell to walk and perform physical activity. The Pickering, Ont. boy continued to be tormented and committed suicide in the fall of 2011, shortly before he was to testify at the trial of the boy who allegedly attacked him. (The boy was acquitted).
<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2011/10/17/hubley-ottawa-teen-suicide-bullying_n_1016828.html" target="_blank">Jamie Hubley</a>, 15, was the son of an Ottawa city councillor who had been suffering from depression but was also being bullied for being gay. He took his life in 2011. Jamie was a talented figure skater and musician, his father said.
Rick Mercer On Jamie Hubley's Suicide
Comedian Rick Mercer <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2011/10/26/jamie-hubley-suicide-rick-mercer-rant_n_1032750.html" target="_blank">dedicated one of his 'rants' to Hubley's suicide.</a> "He was gay alright. He was a great big goofy gay kid singing Lady Gaga on the Internet. And as an adult, you look at that and you go, you know what? That kid's going places. But for some reason, some kids, they looked at that and they attacked and now he's gone," he said.
ON THE BLOG: Cyber-Bullying Hits Home
An aspiring musician, 15-year-old Jenna Bowers-Bryanton took her life in January, 2011, after clips of her performances were criticized by bullies at school and online. <P>"They told her she had no talent, that she was ugly, that she may as well go kill herself," <a href="http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/nova-scotia/story/2011/03/28/ns-jenna-cyberbullying.html" target="_blank">Marsha Milner, a family friend told the CBC. </a>"The things that were said to her and the way she was bullied pushed her over the brink."
Anti-Bullying and Mental Health Resources Across Canada
Vancouver poet Shane Koyczan and animators from around this world <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2013/02/20/to-this-day-shane-koyczan-anti-bullying_n_2727057.html" target="_blank">created this beautiful tribute to those who have been bullied. </a>We've also provided links to a number of anti-bullying resources below: <a href="http://www.kidshelpphone.ca/teens/home/splash.aspx" target="_blank"><strong>Kid's Help Phone</strong></a> <a href="http://www.stopabully.ca/" target="_blank"><strong>Stop A Bully.Ca</strong></a> <a href="http://bullyingcanada.ca/index.php" target="_blank"><strong>Bullying Canada</strong></a> <a href="http://www.pinkshirtday.ca/" target="_blank"><strong>PinkShirtDay.ca</strong></a>
To date, anti-bullying measures are little more than a patchwork of local laws and programs -- some provincial legislation, some school board policies, some grassroots campaigns at schools and in communities.
And yet, the vulnerable still slip through the cracks.
After all, could there really be a more more visceral campaign than the one launched by Vancouver-area teen Amanda Todd? She was in the grips of persistent and brutal bullying -- both online and at school -- when she shared her story on YouTube last September.
The nine-minute clip shows Todd holding up cue cards, detailing her ordeals in school after school, city after city.
A month later, she took her own life.
Indeed, the social media knife cuts both ways. While bullies flock to cyberspace, so do their victims to find a forum for exposing the abuse.
Jamie Hubley, an openly gay teen in Ottawa, also chronicled his experiences online -- a series of blog entries that culminated in an online suicide note.
“I couldn't fix my own boy and that's tearing me apart,” his father, city councillor Allan Hubley, told CBC after his son’s death.
Mitchell Wilson of Toronto never got much of a forum at all.
You wouldn’t know it by that wall-to-wall smile, but the 11-year-old spent his short life battling muscular dystrophy. His mother had died when he was just eight.
Then came the demons. And a battle he did not win.
In November 2010, Wilson was attacked by a boy who went to his elementary school. The encounter ended with Wilson losing his iPhone -- and a row of teeth after getting his face smashed into the sidewalk.
The boy told his story to anyone who would listen -- including people who should listen. But his case found deaf ears among police officers and teachers. Ten months later, Mitchell Wilson took his own life, shortly before he was to testify at the trial of the boy who allegedly attacked him.
A judge acquitted a 13-year-old of assaulting and robbing him, The Toronto Star reported, because the Crown did not prove beyond a reasonable doubt that he was the attacker.
Jenna Bowers-Bryanton went looking for a very different kind of ear online.
The teen from tiny Belmont, N.S., dreamed of becoming a singer.
She posted some of her performances on a social networking site.
Cue the armchair critics with that particular brand of ruthlessness that so often comes with anonymity.
"They told her she had no talent, that she was ugly, that she may as well go kill herself," family friend Marsha Milner told CBC.
And, in all all-too familiar refrain, Bowers-Bryanton did kill herself. She was 15.
In the aftermath of her death, an exasperated Const. Todd Taylor of Truro Police Service told The Chronicle Herald, “We need to find something today we can use to put this type of behaviour in check. There is absolutely nothing to stop these young people from doing what they’re doing. There are no consequences. That's disturbing.”Are you in crisis? Need help? In Canada, find links and numbers to 24-hour suicide crisis lines in your province here.