When first meeting a potential special someone, what is the first thing you notice?
Surprisingly, 89 per cent of men say good hair is the first thing they notice.
A survey by Zoosk.com was conducted to mark Hairstyle Appreciation Day (April 30th) — a day to appreciate good hair, and forget the 55 per cent of women who have had bad hair days.
The survey found that three-quarters of men say they will compliment a woman on her hairstyle, while 13 per cent say they'll stay quiet about it because they don't know what to say.
"Keeping hush could be a mistake: nearly one-quarter of women say that they expect to be complimented on a hairstyle they’ve spent time on, and while 71 per cent don’t expect a new romantic interest to notice their hair, they will gladly accept the admiration," says Jane Barrett, Director of Marketing at Zoosk.
"You don’t have to be Vidal Sassoon to pay a woman a compliment, so guys, stop stressing over tresses and let the compliments fly!"
Men surveyed gave out some top secret information, including which hairstyles were the "sexiest".
Down and straight was number one with 38 per cent, down and curly came second with 33 per cent, and a sophisticated up-do or simple ponytail tied with 13 per cent.
Women also apparently prefer these hairstyles, since the majority of women surveyed said if they're hoping to attract a romantic interest, they will wear their hair down in either a straight or curly style.
The top turn off hairstyles named by men include hair that is too greasy, contains too much product or is dyed unnatural colours. Also, majority of men (57 per cent) say they wish the half-shaved/half-long trend would die down and 29 per cent wish the popular "sock bun" up-do would go out of style.
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Talk About Sex
As time passes in a relationship, it’s easy to get into a rut and just go through the motions, rather than express what you really want (and need) in bed. Sex therapist <a href="http://www.hwhpr.com/williamslucenablog/wordpress/?page_id=2">Williams Lucena</a>, FMD, says it’s time to break this cycle with some frank talk. “Ask each other, ‘What do I need in bed from you?’” he suggests. “Get back to the communication you used to have.”
This doesn’t sound like a sex tip, but treating your body right with good nutrition helps the whole body, including your libido, says <a href="http://www.turnonyourinnerlight.com/page10.html">Debbie Mandel</a>, a stress management expert and author of Addicted to Stress. “Eat healthy foods to reduce cholesterol and keep your cardiovascular system humming,” she adds. “This will ensure that circulation is at peak performance for the ‘southern hemisphere.’”
Pick Up Some Chores
Want to put your partner in the mood for better sex? “Help around the house,” says Mandel. “The best foreplay happens outside the bedroom. By helping with chores and errands, you make them feel valued.”
Few things will get you ready to satisfy women quite like getting in regular exercise each day, says Matthew N. Simmons, MD, PhD, of the <a href="http://my.clevelandclinic.org/urology/default.aspx">Glickman Urological and Kidney Institute in Cleveland</a>. “Even as little as 15 minutes of exercise daily will improve self-esteem, self-image, and libido,” he says. “Exercise makes the physical aspects of sex more enjoyable. Furthermore, making exercise a habit promotes cardiovascular health, which is necessary for normal <a href="http://www.everydayhealth.com/mens-health/erectile-dysfunction.aspx">erectile function</a>.”
But Don't Over Do It
But don’t overdo it. Too much exercise can have the opposite effect, says Pete McCall, MS, an exercise physiologist with the <a href="http://www.acefitness.org/">American Council on Exercise</a>. “Being in an overtraining state produces general feelings of fatigue and low energy and can disrupt sleep patterns and change mood,” he says. “This is hardly a good combination for wooing a romantic partner.”
In Fact, Work Out Together
If exercise is good, then exercising with your lover is an even better sex tip, says Mandel. “Working out together ensures that both libidos and endorphins will be up,” she says. “Since you’re both already sweating, take it to the next level. Stretching together is also a good idea.”
Abstain A Bit
Abstinence as a sex tip? Believe it or not, it’s a surefire way to improve sex and make your next encounter with your lover even more exciting. “Practice abstinence for a couple of days, a weekend, or a week,” says Mandel. “Abstinence does make the heart grow fonder and makes you lust after forbidden fruit.”
Plan For Sex
It may not sound that romantic, but Dr. Simmons says it’s a great way to improve your sex life and satisfy women. Construct a plan for having sex, he suggests: “Setting aside time or arranging opportunities for sex is very important, especially for busy couples or those with children. Don’t let the frequency of sex dwindle due to fatigue or the inability to find the ‘right time.’”
Send Your Partner A Text
Make use of technology. Want to keep her in the mood for sex later that night while you’re stuck at the office? Use your cell phone or e-mail. “Send her sexy messages throughout the day,” advises Mandel.
Want a foolproof way to drive her wild and ensure better sex? “Find a particular feature, and tell her that she is the best in this class,” says Mandel.
Focus On Relaxation
Men like to get excited for better sex, but women are more likely to get in the mood through relaxation. “Wash her hair in the shower or massage her scalp to relax her,” says Debbie Mandel, a stress management expert and author of Addicted to Stress. “A woman needs to be relaxed before she is ready to receive.”
Regardless of how you get revved up for better sex, Matthew N. Simmons, MD, PhD, of the Glickman Urological and Kidney Institute in Cleveland, suggests not skimping on the foreplay — no matter how long you have been together as a couple. “Foreplay contributes greatly to stronger orgasms and improved sex,” he says. “Gearing up your autonomic nervous system will increase sensitivity, excitement, and strength of orgasm. Your patience and attentiveness will pay dividends.”
Think Like Your Partner
Natalie Bencivenga, co-founder, editor, and writer of <a href="http://twodaymag.com/">twodaymag.com</a>, advises thinking like a woman. “To think like a woman in bed, you don’t have to be one,” she says. “Give attention to some of her most neglected areas, like her neck, her feet, her inner thighs. Tease her mercilessly. Make her want it. You will be surprised what a build-up will bring!”
Let Them Take The Lead
Men so often take the lead in bed. Sometimes, the key to better sex is letting her be in charge. “Don’t be afraid to let your mate lead,” says Joyce Morley, EdD, a licensed counsellor in Decatur, Ga. “Allow your mate to initiate sexual pleasure on occasions, as well as taking the top position.”
Don't Overlook Lubricant
According to Bencivenga, there’s no shame in using lubricant to satisfy women. “Many guys think that since women get wet, if we aren’t wet, then we aren’t into it,” she says. “That’s not true. Sometimes, whether it’s stress, certain times of the month, or fatigue, women can have a hard time getting physically aroused even when they are mentally in the game. Lubricant in the bedside drawer is your new best friend.”
Switch It Up
If you’re experiencing a case of the “same-old, same-old,” working on adding a little variety is the key to better sex, says Simmons. “Spice things up by planning and discussing variations on your usual sexual habits,” he explains. “Lingerie, toys, new positions, and other creative additions can enhance intimacy and orgasm.”
Another way to add variety and improve sex life, suggests Mandel, is to try some place new. “Do it in different places to experience a different energy,” she says. “Take it outdoors if you are overwhelmed with technology and want to get back your natural rhythm.”
Just Don't Have Sex, Make Love
Does it feel lately like it’s just sex? “Try making love,” advises Dr. Morley. “You make love with that special someone, but you have sex with anybody.”
Use Touch Even Without Sex
Even when you’re not having sex, you can still improve your sex life by using touch in an intimate, but not sexual, way. “Touching is important, but doesn't always mean sex,” says Morley. “It is important to be intimate with your mate by touching her with love and affection on a daily basis. Kiss daily, and don’t be afraid to allow her to reciprocate.”
Take Care Of Your Penis
“Take good care of your penis,” says Dr. Simmons. “Penile injury is usually sustained when your partner is on top or when the penis buckles from missed penetration. If things are getting out of hand, ask your partner to ease up. If you suspect a penile fracture due to a perceived ‘pop’ followed by bruising, see a urologist immediately.”
It’s no wonder men experience trouble understanding women from time to time. When asked what hair ‘dos women find most attractive in men, the top answers were at complete opposite ends of the hairstyle spectrum.
Women find the "just out of bed look" sexiest (28 per cent), followed closely by hair that is “neatly combed” (27 per cent). Women are just as divided when it comes to which hair styles they find most unattractive. Hair that is too unkempt is just as much of a turn-off (14 per cent) as hair that is "too perfect" (13 per cent).
Whether it’s tamed or tousled, women can agree that greasy hair is the biggest turn-off (56 per cent).
"If there is any clear advice I can offer to men based on the survey results, it is to never skip the shampoo! Ladies were loud and clear in saying that clean hair is best," says Barrett
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