What can stop us from being all powerful females, with strength, intelligence and sexual prowess? I know the five days of PMS and up to five days of bleeding between the thighs can slow me down. Sometimes unaware of my nearing period, I go from killing it in career and dating to a shattered shell of myself begging the darkness to swallow me whole. Thank goodness for Netflix and chocolate peanut butter ice cream.
Women experience such a massive range of hormones in a one month period. It's involuntary though necessary for our baby-making system. Although with a little knowledge and guidance we can turn our monthly cycle into a scrupulous wheel of feminine power. I have done the research and we can intelligently manipulate our days and weeks to experience all aspects of life fully and efficiently.
Our menstrual cycle has titanic effects on our sex drive, decision making, self-confidence and mood stability. What if instead of fighting this cycle with ibuprofen and general loathing, we work with the cycle to improve our love lives, careers, friendships, and even time management.
Think of the funny story you can tell him in a few months about how you dated him according to your cycle.
I could talk about periods all day but today I'm going to focus the menstrual cycle and dating. Research has proven women are found more attractive during certain days of our cycle, for the obvious reason men instinctively want to plant their seed in fertile women and their senses perceive our uterus as open for business and thus they become aroused by us and aggressive towards us.
A study showed strippers made significantly more tips when they were most fertile -- just before ovulation, or a little over a week after their period ended and they made significantly less while menstruating. Another study showed strippers who take birth control pills made less money consistently and overall. Food for thought if your sex life or sexual power has declined since beginning birth control.
Yet another study found men can recognize if females are on their period through smell. The same study showed us that men and women recognize fertile women and women not on birth control, as being more attractive through only photographs.
With this research in mind, we, as menstruating women, can plan ahead for a couple of things. If you are looking for a mate, temporary or permanent, why not bring in more understanding and knowledge to give you a huge step up? Think of the funny story you can tell him in a few months about how you dated him according to your cycle. How can we use this information to strengthen our connection with ourselves, increase the chances of attracting the man (or men) we are most interested in for mating or even just practicing?
Cycling with Success
Red Moon Arrival - Day 1 of 28 is the first day of bleeding
"This isn't a good time; I'll call you back in a week."
Days 1-7 Reserve for vacation days, early nights in drinking raspberry leaf tea and watching rom coms. This is a great time to connect more with the important women in your life. One or more are likely on a similar cycle to yours and can empathize best with your heightened emotional state.
Date! Flirt! Make love!
Days 8-15 The best days to go out, dress up, flirt more, go on dates, take on a new lover or reconnect with a current one. During these days you will look, smell and feel more attractive. You will be in your highest feminine power, use it and enjoy it.
Get Sh!t Done
Days 16-20 The days of strong manifestation, getting sh!t done and focusing on your vocational path. You're not quite a sexual as a few days before although remain in a place of confidence and now focused calm.
Days 21-23 Similar to days 8-15 you are back to a heightened sexual state, feeling fine, and self-secure. Use this time to attract new friends, lovers, conquer fears by asking out someone you have been crushing on, ask for a raise, apply for a new job, start your own business etc.
Reconnecting with Self
Days 24-28 Premenstrual Syndrome days can be difficult; especially if you are unaware you are experiencing them. The anguish can come in many ways from physical, mental, emotional, exhaustion, irritability, impatience, and self-doubt. Imagine tracking these days and realigning your schedule to ensure you have time to give yourself space, love, baths, hot water bottles, romantic movies to cry your face off to privately.
I personally noticed a huge difference since tracking my period, in reference to my dating and sex life. As a single woman in Vancouver, I need all the help I can get.
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According to Dr. Suzanne Wong of the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at St. Joseph's Health Centre in Toronto, and associate professor at the University of Toronto Department of Medicine, there a several reasons as to why you can get an extremely heavy period. "Periods can be heavy in women with a diagnosis of uterine fibroids or polyps or a thickened uterus called Adenomyosis," Wong tells The Huffington Post Canada. Heavy bleeding has also been associated with a genetic bleeding condition called "von willebrand’s disease" in adolescence. Both scenarios should be examined by your doctor. Perimenopausal hormone shifts can also cause heavy bleeding in women between the ages of 41 and 51. Wong notes that periods during perimenopause may also be irregular before they cease all together.
Unlike extremely heavy periods, which can signal other health issues, light periods aren't as much of a concern. "The normal amount of bleeding is variable and ranges from light to heavy depending on the woman," Wong explains. As long as your periods are regularly occurring (every 23 to 35 days) there should be no concern. "If the amount of flow changes to become lighter it may represent a slight hormonal shift that is probably of no significance," Wong says.
If pregnancy is not a possibility, a late period can usually be explained by a hormonal change. Factors like changes in weight, emotional stress, eating disorders, high performance athletics or having polycystic ovarian disease can cause women to have a delayed or missed period. "If you miss one period, this means that you did not ovulate that month and there should be no concern if they return to a normal pattern," Wong notes. If you aren't already keeping track of your period, Wong recommends getting a calendar or an app to do so. That way, if your periods are late (occurring at intervals greater than 35 days) persistently over six months, you'll know and be able to show your doctor.
Just like late periods, early periods usually have a hormonal cause including stress, polycystic ovarian disease or thyroid hormone abnormality, says Wong. And abnormal spotting or bleeding can also be mistaken for an earlier period — if you are concerned, check with your doctor.
Brown coloured blood is common during the final days of your period. According to Wong, this is a result of the blood that has been settled in the uterus being expelled.
"Missing a solitary period is likely from a temporary hormonal imbalance, usually caused by stress," says Wong. But birth control methods like the pill, patch, ring and IUD can also cause very light or non-existent bleeding. If your periods become regular again after a missed period, then there should be no cause for alarm. However, if you regularly miss periods or have an irregular bleeding pattern, you could be experiencing hormonal issues caused by stress, abnormal thyroid levels, or polycystic disease. As a reminder, if your period is irregular you should consult your doctor.
Periods can last anywhere between two and seven days, but anything more than this is considered a prolonged period. "If you have periods lasting more than seven days on a regular basis, you should contact your doctor," says Wong. Prolonged periods are often associated with heavy periods, and can lead to iron deficiency anemia that will affect your overall health.
According to Wong, this is actually a normal side effect of starting a new birth control pill, especially on that is low dose and is referred to as "break through bleeding." If this is happening in the middle of the cycle, then it is likely hormonal and of no concern. But if it persists more than three months, Wong recommends seeing a doctor to adjust your medication and rule out other causes such as uterine/cervical polyps, and infection. It is also advised to get an updated pap smear and cervical cancer screening in this scenario.
Spotting can be a side effect of being on a birth control pill, or using a copper IUD, Wong explains. Spotting can be due to infections (STDs) and, or more concern, a sign of cervical cancer. Harmless causes of vaginal spotting between periods can also include polyps on the cervix or a condition called "cervical ectropion," which are sensitive cells that protrude on the exposed surface of the cervix and are prone to infection and abrasions, Wong explains. Your doctor should be able to detect both of these conditions during a pap smear.
"Clotting can be a sign that your periods are very heavy," says Wong. (Check out the heavy periods section for more information).
During your period, the lining of your uterus produces a natural chemical called prostaglandins, Wong says. Prostaglandins causes small contractions of the uterus to help shed the lining during your period which can cause cramping. It also affects the intestines and can increase movement of the bowel, which results in more frequent bowel movements and sometimes, diarrhea.
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