Like many other 30-something women, I've started reading the latest treaty for the working gal, Sheryl Sandberg's Lean In. I'm now among the ranks of those who admire Sandberg's ability to leave the office on time and her gutsiness in contributing to a much-needed discussion on how North American's can better balance work and life so both men and women are better equipped to take on leadership roles if they want to.
One area where this discussion is sorely needed is politics, an arena that Sandberg -- an advisor to former US Treasury Secretary Larry Summers -- largely ignores in her book. This is a pity, as it will be increasingly difficult to attract good people to the profession if we can't offer some semblance of work-life balance.
My colleague Kendall Anderson, a mother of young children and an outsider to politics, was baffled to learn, while writing a report on Parliament, on how tough a life it is for people with kids. To quote her:
When we were writing "Lost in Translation or Just Lost?" I realized that the House sat until 6:30 or 7:00 p.m. Like many parents, I'm obsessed with making sure I have enough quality time with my kids every day -- before they go to bed at 7:30. My first thought on seeing the daily schedule was: "What about the family dinner? What about story hour?" (For those not parenting in recent years, the "family dinner" has recently been touted as the cure -- all to any problems with your children from asthma to drug addiction.)
Another fact that really hit home for me: MPs are only in Ottawa half the year, so they have to decide whether to leave their family at home in the riding for half the year, or drag them to Ottawa and leave them alone in Ottawa half the year while they visit the riding. And since there are limits to how much MPs can bring their families back and forth -- either formal limits or limits based on Canadians' perceptions of the supposed "perks" of being an MP -- most MPs opt to leave their partners and kids at home. All I could think about was the poor partner at home, enduring the "witching hour" alone -- 135 days of the year. Not to mention the guilt the MP mom or dad would have about being away so much.
MPs are well aware of this problem. In fact, one I spoke to said the best time to go into politics is when your kids are grown up and don't need you anymore.
While that may very well be true, politics, to be relevant and responsive to the public, should ideally be designed to facilitate the participation of a diverse set of citizens. In a series of exit interviews some colleagues and I did with 65 former MPs, work-life balance did come up, and in a paper I co-wrote with Royce Koop and James Farney, here are a few of the solutions they offered up:
1. Move to shorter, more intense parliamentary sessions. This would lessen the travel demands and allow MPs to go home for longer weekends. Alternatively, change regular sitting hours from 9 to 5, and eliminate evening sitting hours except in emergencies. This would allow them to go home for dinner -- or connect with their families and friends online, or even interact with a fellow MP outside the pressures of the House.
2. Offer reliable childcare. Nearby and inexpensive childcare would help encourage younger MPs to run for office, especially women. Since we're only at 23% women in the House, we are grossly underrepresenting our population.
3. Adjust constituent expectations. We constituents need to realize that MPs are spread pretty thin. An MP's staff should be seen as a representative of the MP, not the MP shirking his/her responsibilities. Seeing an MP in the flesh -- though it'll help them come election time -- should not be the all-important goal. The authors advise that MPs need more staff support, and we all need a smoother running bureaucracy to "allow the MP to spend more time focused on substantive representation rather than acting as a guide through our bureaucracy."
While no one enters politics for the lifestyle, some of the above might help aspiring politicians "lean in" just a little more.
Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg
In March 2013, Sheryl released her new book, “Lean In,” and it instantly shot to the top of the New York Times bestseller list -- and landed her on the cover of Time magazine.
Sheryl had never spoken about women’s issues in public before her TED talk on “Why We Have Too Few Women Leaders,” and she was advised against it by her peers, who claimed that it would draw attention to the fact that she is a woman. Sheryl laughed and said, “I think they know I’m a women.” The video of her TED talk instantly went viral. Overnight, Sheryl established herself as a leading advocate for women in the workplace.
The oldest of three children, Sheryl possessed undeniable leadership skills from an early age. But while young boys are often encouraged to lead, Sheryl was regularly referred to as “bossy.” Part of her mission today is to teach parents to encourage their young daughters to develop their leadership skills, instead of dismissing them as overly aggressive.
For her whole early life, Sheryl felt that she needed to hold herself back from being too successful or appearing too smart. In high school, she was voted “Most Likely to Succeed” by her peers, but was embarrassed by the recognition. She asked a friend on the yearbook staff to remove that title from her name.
After serving as Chief of Staff at the U.S. Treasury Department, Sheryl made her way to Silicon Valley, where she accepted a position as Vice President of Google’s Global Online Sales & Operations. At the time, Google was a small start-up, but during her stint with the company, it became an unprecedented success.
Sheryl met Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg at a Christmas party held by Yahoo COO Dan Rosensweig in late 2007. Although he wasn’t actively looking for a new COO for Facebook, Mark knew that Sheryl would be perfect for the job. After several months of becoming acquainted with one another, Sheryl left her post at Google to become Facebook’s Chief Operating Officer.
In various interviews, Sheryl has stressed to women the importance of choosing a partner who supports their career and agrees to assist with housework and childcare. Her husband, SurveyMonkey CEO Dave Goldberg, possesses these qualities, which allows the pair to operate as a team.
A graduate of Harvard College, Sheryl earned her A.B. in economics and went on to earn an MBA from Harvard Business School. In May 2011, she spoke at the commencement ceremony at Barnard College about achieving equality in the workplace and seeking ways to find work/life balance.
Sheryl is no stranger to economics. At Harvard, she met mentor Larry Summers, who later recruited her to serve as his research assistant at the World Bank. Here she appears on stage alongside Danielle Gray, deputy director of the National Economic Council; Mari Pangestu, Indonesia's trade minister; and moderator Chris Jansing at the APEC Women and the Economy Summit in September 2011.
After a stint as a business consultant, Sheryl served as the Chief of Staff for the United States Treasury Department under President Bill Clinton from 1996 to 2001. Here, she joins the former president and Katie Couric at the Women for Women International Gala at the Museum of Modern Art in November 2011.
President Obama listens intently to Sheryl’s advice during a meeting of the President’s Council on Jobs and Competitiveness. The council was established to promote growth in American business and equip American workers with the skills they need to succeed.
Arianna Huffington has been a strong supporter of Sheryl’s “Lean In” message, which calls for women to eliminate self-doubt and focus on their personal well-being. Here, Sheryl joins Arianna at the 2011 Matrix Awards, which honor women in communications and the arts.
Who has Sheryl referred to as her biggest personal role model? Her mother, of course! Here, she escorts her mom, Adele Sandberg, to the White House for the State Dinner for South Korea in October 2011.
In Sheryl’s current position at Facebook, she oversees business operations, which includes everything from marketing and sales to public policy and human resources. Here Sheryl speaks to an audience of marketing professionals at a Facebook event in February 2012.
Now a highly sought-after speaker on the world stage, Sheryl participated in a panel discussion at the World Economic Forum in Switzerland in January 2013.
Sheryl spoke about women in business with Chelsea Clinton as part of the promotion for her new book, “Lean In” in March 2013.
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