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Sympathize with Karen Klein, But Don't Send Her Money

Posted: 06/22/2012 3:56 pm

Earlier this week, the internet erupted with a video of 68-year old Greece, New York bus monitor Karen Klein being viciously bullied and berated by a group of four middle schoolers.

The students poked and prodded Klein while dropping every four letter word imaginable in between repeated comments on the woman's hair style, appearance and family situation. The appalling video has become more of a sensation than last year's Casey Heynes video, where an Australian teenager fought back against a bully -- and won.

Since the New York bus video shot to popularity, Klein has done interviews with all of the major cable networks and umpteen national newspapers to share her side of the story. She's honest, not particularly eloquent, and does not seek revenge. All she wants is an apology.

Whether or not Klein will receive the apology she seeks is still unknown, but she will be receiving a large, as-of-yet undetermined sum of money for her ordeal. On Wednesday, a Toronto blogger put a fundraising goal of $5,000 on Indiegogo.com, hoping to raise some money for Karen Klein to take a vacation. In 24 hours, $340,000 had been raised, with the number still rising (the amount at the time of publishing is $540,000).

Neither Klein nor anyone in her family requested this money, and it is her choice as to what she does with it, but she doesn't deserve it.

The more-than-16,000 strangers who have donated to Klein in merely a day are hopping on a bandwagon that made the bus monitor the overnight postergirl for bullying. However, Klein's reality is just as real to countless young children and teenagers who endure this ridicule on a daily basis. Those youngsters aren't blessed with six-figure donations for their troubles.

Every epithet and threat Karen Klein had to endure on her fateful Monday afternoon bus ride was one of the many that I heard on a daily basis. I'm not alone.

Nearly all of the bad words in my vocabulary today are there because they passed through my ears as I cried my way through elementary school and high school for years. I'm not jealous of Klein's receipt of such a substantial gift, although, if such a campaign were started for me I doubt I'd complain. My issue is with the thousands of people who found it so easy to put their credit card number into a website to help a woman unknown to them a week prior rather than taking action on the broader bullying epidemic.

Parents of bullies are often ignorant to their children's schoolyard behaviour. Parents of the bullied are usually kept in the dark by their children. Parents of the bystanders are just happy their children aren't in one of the other groups. Everyone has a responsibility to take an interest in bullying. Writing a check is not taking an interest.

What happens when Klein cashes her check and the world moves on? Until another video gets posted, likely nothing.

We shouldn't need to wait for evidence of one person's troubles to be blasted across televisions and radios around the world to be aware of an issue that will outlive the hype of Karen Klein.

 

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dididangerlove
subverting political perversion
07:34 PM on 06/27/2012
You don't get to make the call as to whether she deserves it or not.
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UnkBob
Have MS, dislike religion, hate republicans.
04:46 PM on 06/27/2012
Andrew Lawton your words had way too much baggage on this one. This is the part I enjoyed most(snark). Neither Klein nor anyone in her family requested this money, and it is her choice as to what she does with it,"""" but she doesn't deserve it.""" The lady accepted a gift. You mr andy have now made it ugly to receive a gift What gift does one deserve? I'm sure they don't deserve it. I have to say you don't really re-read anything before you post do you?
02:38 PM on 06/26/2012
To say she doesnt "deserve" it is insane. Yes, many have been bullied, myself also, but if someone, or many, want to give her their money...that is THEIR choice. What we need to learn is to not be bitter from the bullying we endured. You, my dear, sound very bitter. You should be happy for her, you should feel joy, not resent. So she happened to "win the lotto" in so many words...but dont knock her for it. No one is making you donate.
10:40 AM on 06/25/2012
Who are you to decide whether or not she "deserves" it? I am thrilled that the world has come to her defense and wants to do something good for her. Why is it when something good happens out of something bad, we are so quick to look for fault and cracks? Maybe we can collectively ditch the negative Default Drive.
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duggyg
Situation normal.....
01:31 AM on 06/25/2012
I think there is some satisfaction in turning a person these rats thought was a loser, into a big time winner, it screws them into the duckboards along with the cockroaches and dead flies.
06:27 PM on 06/24/2012
So Karen Klein does not deserve a penny ?, Nonsense, If people feel compelled to donate, they should do it.

People saw the YouTube Video and the IndieGoGo campaign and exercised their free will. They didnt need to consult with a reporter to help make the decision for them.

What we are seeing here is the democratization of the news media. People are reacting to news as it is being made, rather than having to be told by the media what they should do.

This enrages many reporters, after all, they spend hours of research crafting wonderful articles and stories that even win prizes and yet they cant sell a darn newspaper.

Along comes this guy from Toronto with a story about a bullied Grandmother and all of a sudden he raises more money than the reporters stories have made over their entire career.

Such is the new face of news media. You really have to know what people want to see and hear and be there with a bucket so people can drop a dollar or two in should they wish to help the poor woman.

Maybe reporters could take a lesson from this and jump on some causes of their own. Who knows maybe their campaigns could end up refunding the news industry !
05:27 PM on 06/24/2012
I was a teacher of middle school students for over three decades, Andrew, and I have to disagree with your statement that "parents of bullies are often ignorant to their children's schoolyard behavior." That was not my experience. In fact, it was often easy to see how a child could learn bullying behavior from the example of his/her parents. Many parents of bullies either choose to ignore the evidence, or to blame someone else: the school, the teachers, the bullies peers.
01:51 PM on 06/25/2012
PREACH!!!
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novabird
Lover of Life, Radical Centrist
04:32 PM on 06/24/2012
Her well deserved windfall is not coming out of your pocket Andrew Lawton. It is sad that you and many like you are so stuck in your cold left brain analytical processes that you can't be really happy for this abused senior citizen and her good fortune.

Giving comes from the heart. It makes us feel good to help this abused old lady and to know our gift will improve her life. Why are so so uncomfortable with this overwhelming display of love and empathy, I wonder??
04:26 PM on 06/24/2012
Considering all the negative comments...I'll bet you're sorry you wrote that blog.

And yes...you are envious.
12:45 PM on 06/24/2012
If I had a nickle....
life never ceases to amaze me.. It gives and gives and not only to the deserving.. We eat,, we breath, we lay down our heads and sleep, we open our eyes to see, we live on a habitable planet, we have people in our lives to love us, the trees produce and the water flows.and the planet keeps on giving.. never once asking if there are to those among us who do not deserve joy and sustenance.I know this.. If we do not strive to complete the circle we cease to be .Giving is synonomous with living.
12:13 PM on 06/24/2012
Don't be jealous that she is getting money.
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Medusa Sant
Jedi on the streets. Sith in the sheets.
10:33 AM on 06/24/2012
Who are YOU to say that she doesn't deserve it?!? These people donated THEIR hard earned money FOR HER. F-O-R H-E-R. You understand that??? FOR HER. What people decide to do with their money is their own business. Go suck an egg if you don't like it.
10:30 AM on 06/24/2012
In my opinion, send money to whoever or whatever you want to. Seriously. People spend money on dumber things! Who cares what she does with it, who cares? She's a 68-year old widowed bus monitor for crying out loud...I'm sure the author doesn't know her situation enough to judge whether or not she should receive the money, none of us do.
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YankeeCanuck
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11:34 PM on 06/23/2012
Yeh, and Sun News doesn't deserve the few viewers they have. Why?
Because Canadians do not like bullies.

THis explains a lot:
http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/andrew-lawton/
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Robson
Apolitical / nonpartisan blogging on HP since 2005
11:12 PM on 06/23/2012
The media certainly picks and chooses the benefactors of their largesse and the spotlight. They picked Ms Klein for some odd reason. She's $600K richer today.

Who was it taking the video? Who uploaded it and what coordination was done to have it immediately linked on every news website? Who coordinated with one Max Sidorov to provide a donor page? Who coordinated all the appearances? Please understand that the system is rigged and most are suckers while only a few are beneficiaries.

Max and the mainstream media took very good care of Ms Klein.
09:16 AM on 06/25/2012
Exactly.. the latest fad..This woman didn't stand up for herself and now a media darling. This is so odd.
02:49 PM on 06/26/2012
"Latest fad?" Really? are you friggen serious? Do you really think she could have stood up for herself? In what manner? Are you dense? Had she said one "wrong" thing to one of those punks she would have been at risk for losing her job. You can bet your rear that one of those parents would have been beating down the medias door at every opportunity!!!! She had no option but to remain silent. These kids were telling her that she had no family, that they all killed themselves because they couldnt stand being around her because she was so fat!!!!! Did they even know that she was a widow? Did they even know that she had a son who committed suicide? Hell, I would have knocked these kids front teeth out and spent the rest of my life in prison!!!! She held on to the few strands of dignity that she had. She didnt ask for this humility, but she sure is getting an awesome karmic reward. I LOVE AMERICA!!!!!
04:55 PM on 06/27/2012
I'm with you Diane. I am teaching my child to stand up for herself when and if someone bullies her. And if she becomes a bully herself, she can certainly expect reprecussions from me. And I'm a much bigger b**ch that she could ever be.

I'm tired of watching people play victim. If you were dealt a sorry lot in life, do something about it or not, but no complaining when nothing changes if you choose the latter.

I'm not saying Klein deserved this teasing at all, and she has been through so much. I can only assume that she just broke down at the moment and couldn't summon up the energy to fight back, which is OK. But it sets a bad example, IMO, to younger generations that they should just sit back, cry, and accept their lot in life.
02:43 PM on 06/26/2012
you sound bitter and envious also. "Who took the video?" really? REALLY?! The little punks who abused her did! Then they upload it on facebook so they can share with their friends how cool hey thought they were making fun of this woman! A monkey can upload a video on youtube and hit share. So it wasnt some great feat. Who cares if she gets money, is it coming out of your pocket?
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Robson
Apolitical / nonpartisan blogging on HP since 2005
07:19 PM on 07/07/2012
I'm not bitter or envious,  I only question exactly how the media picks and chooses their subjects and victims whom they promote?     There is more to it than randomness.