Kristina and I took a break from the Vancouver rain recently and turned a meeting in LA into an excuse for a full weekend in the sun, complete with other gal pals, shopping, chardonnay and pool time. Fun!
Of course we decided in advance which restaurants to hit and like many women who care about fashion, I put some thought into what to wear to the various hot spots, not to mention my shopping and pool outfits. My wardrobe weaknesses are shoes and dresses and I spend more then I care to admit on both, so I don't ever want to miss an opportunity to wear a favourite frock or sky-high heels to a swish dinner.
After a day of serious shopping, we all raced back to our hotel to hit the showers. There were blow dryers, flat, curling and clothing irons going all at once. Eyelashes were groomed, outfits debated, make up applied and nails quickly painted before rushing out the door. A serious effort was put in by all.
And when seated at the five-star establishment where we were dining, I looked around at all the other women in the room who had clearly made a similar effort. Nice work, ladies.
And then my eyes wandered to the boys, I mean men, in the room.
There were sweatshirts everywhere. Too-long pants sitting below the butt crack (really? are we still doing that?), scuffed sneakers, and yes, baseball caps. Some even turned off-centre. (I have never understood this look. To me it screams, "Helloooo I'm a dumb dumb." Why would one want to advertise that?)
Benicio del Toro was at the next table, big poofy hair sticking out from under a baseball cap. He looked like an old man who really really doesn't want to grow up.
And shopping along Robertson? There's a guy barking into his cell phone wearing a too-tight, soiled t-shirt and shuffling along in flip flops -- no pedicure there -- next to his perfectly put-together better half.
Now, I know men's fashion in L.A. is decidedly relaxed, but things have gone too far. There is a difference between casually chic and sloth-like. Buy a belt. And an iron. Wear clothes that fit. Buy entire outfits at a time if thinking is too hard for you. Keep a collection of new white T-shirts.
And take off that f-ing baseball hat!
If you plan on going shopping (and you should), remember that stripes and bold colours are in for spring, navy looks good on everyone, and you can never have too many nice socks.
We all want our fashion to look effortless. But that takes a lot of work! And if you insist on doing none, then you should pay for dinner; your honey probably spent all her money on shoes. I know I did.
This post originally appeared on AnnaAndKristina.com.
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I used to see men wearing sweats everywhere in Calgary - another clue, fellows - sweats are for home and the gym only. If you have to walk or take a bus to the gym, wear your jeans and change when you get there.
This article, however, sounds like a couple gals playing dress up in LA and being disappointed by their idea of Cali glamor not being lived up to. Benicio del Toro in a ball cap probably better than the frosted tipped bobble heads in distressed boot cut jeans and blazers I see all over Vancouver though.
Practicality and comfort are more important to some of us.
Could the slobs take a minute to tidy up? Absolutely. Does every meal out need hours of preparation? Sorry, no.
Is it really too much for a woman to ask that in addition to all the wonderful things that make you a great man, to brush your hair too? Or maybe leave the ball cap for your buddies?
ps wearing your ball cap on backwards or sideways is only cute on 4 year olds.
Are you trying to turn men into women? so we can all buy in to the beauty industry and make the economy grow?
Look , ask around to men you trust what they like more a girl whol looks ''fabulous'' but takes an hour and a half of preparation before going out or the same girl who looks ok but clean and can be ready to go in 10 minutes... 100% of them will tell you its the second one.
Makeup, hair , shoes , matchon handbags and earings , eyelashes, eyeshadow , foundation and whatnot , time to realise that all that is superfluous and only encourage people in general to live in a superficial world where look counts for more than content. This is what you want?
i repeat this whole article makes me sad... because it appears some people will never learn that looks don't matter in the long run and that the opinion of strangers is worth less than nothing...the author may be a good person i don'T know her but the views expressed here are whats wrong with society.
you can be clean and not be dressed to impress.
In my experience people who look casual and lets say sloppy are much more fun to be around and easy going than the stiffs who look like they could be on the cover of GQ, because for some reason fashionistas like the auhtor and their male counterparts usually come with attitude surgically grafted on.
I repeat if you want to spend a fortune on clothes and hair and shoes and makeup , if you want to dress to impress, then go for it but don't expect others to fall for your stupid scheme and live in your superficial world.
You can be clean and neat and not wear a suit and tie and not look like the cover of a magazine.
WE DON'T CARE!!!!
Thank God.