Bravo to Torontonian Max Sidorov for standing up to the bus bullies of Greece, New York and for not being a bystander, despite the distance and the ease of looking the other way. As has been widely reported in the past 24 hours, 68-year-old bus monitor Karen Klein suffered a malicious verbal attack by a group of grade seven students on a school bus, experiencing the sort of fear and shame that many of us have gone through at some point in our lives. Because of Sidorov, the response to her victimization has been overwhelmingly compassionate.
Although Sidorov was simply hoping to raise a few thousand dollars to send Klein on a special vacation following her ordeal, his campaign raised more than $500,000 (and counting) in just two days, exceeding all expectations and demonstrating that people are profoundly tired of the intolerance and disrespect so prevalent in society today. There seems to be an increasing level of contempt for older adults and much of that is due to the breakdown of values and lack of education about compassion, caring, empathy and simple respect for one another.
As the saying goes, "kids will be kids," but the level of animosity, degradation, harassment and the length of time the bullying persisted was simply outrageous. As a human rights organization that teaches thousands of students every year about the consequences of bullying and hatred, we often talk about perpetrators and bystanders. What is significant in this episode is the lack of intervention from anyone else on the bus, as well as the apparent lack of concern evidenced by the student perpetrators regarding the taping and posting of the incident.
It is important to point out that this was not merely a matter of bullying. We should clearly understand this event for what it was -- a matter of age discrimination laced with sexual profanities -- and an episode that has raised the profile of the discrimination faced by many older adults and the elderly in societies across North America.
We think that the decision by the victim to not press charges is commendable. However, more than apologies are needed to change an environment in which children believe bullying behaviour is acceptable; Friends of Simon Wiesenthal Center's educational programs are based on the premise that the solution to hate and disrespectful behaviour is continuous education that advocates against bullying and indignity, and teaches empathy and compassion for others. To achieve those educational goals we have designed the Tour for Humanity, a mobile, bus-based Tolerance Center that will visit schools and institutions to focus on the issues of bullying and hate.
Buses seem to be a focus for these sorts of episodes; perhaps because they bring people from different backgrounds closely together they can sometimes be a flashpoint of both disrespect and intimidation, or of more positive interactions, including simple courtesies like people giving up their seats to strangers.
Klein's refusal to interact with the bullies may yet become a wake-up call for society -- in much the same way Rosa Parks' refusal to move to the back of the bus was at the dawn of the civil rights movement -- to mobilize around the issue, not just of bullying, but of the need to respect one another and to treat each other with kindness and dignity.
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You have overshot Avi.
You shouldn't re-appropriate pivotal civil rights figures and moments because of vague similarities.
Rosa Parks was a hero, and a part of an organized civil rights movement that sought to fight against racism within a society and the laws of that society. She was fighting against systemic and overt racism.
Karen Klein was a victim who was bullied by terrible children... She was not a part of an organized (or even spontaneous) social movement, and she was not being targeted by unjust laws or a flagrant denial of rights.
Only Karen saw justice as a result of the media attention her incident has received. Rosa Parks worked hard to gain rights and acceptance for a disenfranchised group of people.
There are enough differences here that should lead you to avoid any false equivalencies between both individuals and their individual plights and incidents.
Lame.
Benlolo = Schmuck
Rosa Parks was not someone who was unable to do her job. She was not a big load that took a beating because she was someone who was placed in a situation that she should not have been in.
Worse, this is all falsely presenting Ms. Parks as someone who was in the wrong place at the wrong time. She was not. She was actively involved in a form of resistance against discriminatory policies that she found abhorrent. She was trained. She used that training when needed.
This bus monitor was the opposite of Rosa Parks. She had training, but decided to sit there and take it instead of standing up for herself and utilizing her training. She is not a hero for taking a beating.
THe weird thing about it is the ordinariness of Greece NY, a quiet middle class suburb of Rochester,NY. If this can happen there, it can and does happen in communities al over the country.
They bully people they don't agree with all the time, look how they treated Sarah Palin or Joe the Plumber, not to mention Carrie Prejean.
What happened to this woman is unfortunate and yes she deserves a nice vacation.
But she doesn't deserve $500,000 and she sure as hell doesn't deserve to be compared to Rosa Parks.