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What Raymond Taavel Would Have Said About His Killer

Posted: 04/18/2012 12:39 pm

Activist Raymond Taavel, who was killed on Monday outside of a Halifax gay bar, was a man of sincerity, compassion, urgency and persistence. If he had been at his own vigil, held April 17 on a closed-off block of Gottingen Street in Halifax at the site of his death, he would have been full of energy, emotion and hope.

He likely would not have delivered a speech, but he would have been pulling strings in the background, coaxing would-be speakers and anyone else in the crowd with key messages. He would have done it all with his trademark combination of sincerity, compassion, urgency and persistence.

Taavel had a passion for positive influence. After the vigil, he would have provided anyone in his presence with his wrap-up; soliciting points of view and offering mandates as next steps. Taavel would have tempered the vitriol and anger in each of us spurred by his cruel death with words of compassion, caring, and understanding.

2012-04-18-Halifaxpride2.jpg He would have shown a path to hope and demonstrated a determination to ensure such a tragedy would never happen again. He would not have accepted anything less than agreement to join a peaceful path. Each of us would be subjected to his trademark combination of sincerity, compassion, urgency and persistence.

Taavel would have been the first to broaden the conversation to be more than a polarization of hate vs. gay. He would argue that decades -- even centuries -- of systematic oppression of women, races, the mentally ill, the poor and others are as much to blame for his death as homophobia. Taavel knew it will take generations to fix oppression but he would not be deterred thanks to his trademark combination of sincerity, compassion, urgency and persistence.

Taavel would carry the torch for the commemoration of this tragedy. He would very humbly and quietly make sure it stood for something. He would make a courageous leap of faith that it could somehow be a symbol of some kind of positive progress.

He would exploit it to broker new conversations with key decision makers. He would target "the system" not with criticism, but with critical thinking and dialogue. He would not hold people accountable. Instead, he would show them how they could be an instrument of positive, systematic change.

Taavel would show us that the 32 years of his killer's life were, in all probability, as painful as the moment his head hit the concrete. Taavel would argue that chances are very good that the very things he fought against were the sources of this pain. He would be angry at those sources, not his killer, not the mental health system. He would do all of this with his trademark combination of sincerity, compassion, urgency and persistence.

There is so much to really, carefully, understand in Taavel's tragic death, and because it's what Taavel would have wanted, we must. The greatest way we can honour his lifetime of amazing dedication and accomplishments is to live in and abide by his spirit, and forever exhibit his trademark combination of sincerity, compassion, urgency and persistence.

 
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12:10 AM on 04/20/2012
I want to thank Huffington Post for this article. They hit the nail on the head. I did not know Raymond, but what has been said of him after his death makes me think he would be the first to fight against the attacks those in the mental health community are facing.

That being said, as a member of said community, and someone who has been "lost" in the mental health system, I would urge those who feel anger towards this horrible situation to apply it in a constructive manner.

I would urge everyone to contact your MLA's and demand reform to our mental health system. Too many who suffer from various mental health problems aren't receiving the care that they need. It may result in a tax increase, but it's something that needs to be done.

I would also urge everyone here to speak out when you witnessignorant statements against those with mental illnesses. Many are too ashamed to come out and say "I have a mental illness". The stigma associated with it is crippling, and it makes it very hard to be positive when people around you are hating a part of you that you can't control.

I am proud to say I am not one of those who has yet to find their voice. Early on, I was connected with many people with similar illnesses. They taught me not to be ashamed, regardless of what others thought.

For this reason, I'm posting this under my real name.
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Benjie Nycum
07:21 AM on 04/21/2012
Adam, I think you really draw out the important point in all this. I'm sorry you have/had been lost in the Mental Health System, but by when I read what you have written I also see you have found yourself. Thanks for the comment. It inspired me to try to develop this into a part two about Raymond Taavel's approach to fixing the system. It is here: http://tinyurl.com/c78krtj
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Nadine Lumley
unseatHarper circle ca
10:45 AM on 04/19/2012
Sitting tantalizingly in a warehouse in Winnipeg are 2,000 boxes of information about one of the most fascinating social policy experiments in Canadian history.

http://www.thestar.com/opinion/editorialopinion/article/920145--goar-anti-poverty-success-airbrushed-out#article

The experiment began in 1974. It was designed to test the concept of a guaranteed annual income in a small, fairly typical, community. Dauphin, a rural municipality of 13,000 midway between Winnipeg and Regina, was chosen at the behest of former Manitoba premier Ed Schreyer.

The city’s low-income residents were lifted and kept out of poverty, using a negative income tax. (Canada Revenue Agency topped up their income if it fell below the poverty line.) They could use the money as they chose.
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novabird
Lover of Life, Radical Centrist
08:08 AM on 04/19/2012
I am a bit dismayed that so many are rushing to excuse the actions of the killer due to mental illness, as if to suggest that this type of behavior might be expected from someone with schizophrenia. Schizophrenia or not, the killer needs to accept responsibility for his actions, for his drinking, for his well established history or repeated violence. The killers words to the TV cameras, when he was stone cold sober, suggests that he accepts zero responsibility for what he calls a "drunken brawl".
Schizophrenia does not give anyone a free pass for murder.
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Farah Mawani
Policy Researcher & Founder, Farahway Global
12:48 AM on 04/19/2012
A beautiful and inspiring tribute to a friend of an old friend. Thank you. To you and to Raymond Taavel.
05:37 PM on 04/18/2012
You have written a lovely, lovely tribute to this gentleman's memory...he must have been an incredible and wonderful person