I received an email recently, inviting me to attend a seminar for budding entrepreneurs. They were offering courses on how to become a huge business success. I scanned the topics and one course in particular, caught my attention: 'How to become a greater success by becoming more balanced.'
I clenched my very stressed out, entrepreneurial jaw hard, shook my head and said aloud, "Balance, Schmalance!" and then I sent the email into the never-to-be-seen-again junk file with a swift tap of my right index finger, gave a big exhale and relaxed -- a bit. I then started typing my very first blog, which you are reading now.
I have been hearing a lot about achieving so-called "entrepreneurial balance" lately, and I read about the importance of "down time" all over the place and it's time to nip in the bud one big fantasy about becoming a successful entrepreneur -- especially for the first five to 10 years, or longer -- just until you make it to the big time. It took me 10 years to become an overnight success. So, before you start scheduling "me time" in your business plan, please read this.
Now, in the world today, I know it is very unfashionable of me to be out of balance, especially when some people say that we need to be if we are to become a success. And I guess that's why some people are trying to teach it in courses similar to the one I recently read. But I am unbalanced. Period. I don't try to be, I just am. And I owe every unbalanced moment to my success as an entrepreneur and inspirational speaker and author, see, if I was balanced, I would probably have stopped right after thinking about becoming an entrepreneur. But quite frankly, success and balance are at opposite ends of the spectrum.
Myth: You want to start your own business and you think that you can lead a balanced life in the process. Truth: There will be no down time for you, my dear budding entrepreneur, nor should you expect any -- well, not if you are doing things correctly -- and this is just my humble opinion based upon doing 15 years hard time in business prison.
I learned a lot over the years in my business prison cell and one message I have for you is this: your life and work will be intertwined and there will be no distinct line between the two and if you are to become the successful entrepreneur that you want to become, you will quickly learn that there is no such thing as balance and instead, there is only one thing: doing whatever is in your power to keep on keeping on and making every second of every day count. And that will most always involve putting the business first and your ideas of balance second... or third... or last... or not at all.
What type of people become huge successes? Not ones that run at sub-par. Not ones that can't understand how difficult (really difficult) it will be most days and not ones that want balance. A good degree of your level of success will be in direct proportion of how hard you are willing to work. Being a successful entrepreneur is not in opposition to life. It is life. It will be your life as it is mine. That's not a bad thing, it's just the way it is.
I should probably be giving you reasons for wanting to be more like me, since I am such a success. You should be encouraged by my gentle, caring words and the state of my life and how wonderfully balanced I am. How I must be so very balanced to live such a rich, full, productive life (I am 55-years-old) with such admirable composure, like heroes and trailblazers we read about who teach us the importance of balance, healthy people who have their minds, body and spirit in perfect harmony.... please... Who are these people then? I can't count on one hand people that I know that are that balanced, even if they are not entrepreneurs...even if they work for someone else!
Do balanced people give us a reason for living? Do they challenge us to become better people? For me, it's the hopelessly unbalanced messes that changed their life around for the better or those people that had lots of crap in their life that forced them to grow beyond their wildest expectations. Take Einstein or Carlos Casteneda or Van Gogh. They were all extraordinary visionaries. Think of any extraordinary visionary and you might think that being balanced will get you to that level. However, when I think of any extraordinary visionary, creator, writer, leader, artist or entrepreneur, you will learn the complete opposite of what these living in balance people suggest. They were anything but balanced. They didn't seek nor crave balance. They craved and sought out passion, engagement, discovery -- extreme intensity. And THAT is something very important that I have always known and now you do too!
So, maybe that's why so many of us overachievers are not balanced; because it's just impossible. If you are an entrepreneur and have been in business for less than five or so years, or you have just started a business or you are thinking about starting a business, let me be very clear; you have to live, eat, sleep, breathe and accept that having no balance in your life means that you will be even that much closer to becoming a huge success. Now there you go...no need to take any stupid courses on finding balance anymore! Now I'm really stressed out...
For me, work-life balance usually tips to one side
I certainly did not mean to suggest the unbalanced persons bring nothing to the table. I am in fact in agreement that persons with that flair and spark do make life interesting, particularly in the arts (and politics also). Your original post however struck me not as a respectful celebration individuals who are innately extreme, but as a smug indictment of "work to live" mentality while promoting the "live to work" ethos. That tone naturally invites more dedicated scrutiny. And the message raises some serious "big picture" questions. Is an amorphous concept like success a means to an end or an end? If the former, is it the optimal means towards that end?
Best to you.
Balance? Ha! Work/life integration? Yes!
Keep it comin', CatherineAnn
I'm always searching for harmony in all areas of my life (family, work, friendships,etc.) because all of those things are a priority to me. Of course, not everyone's priorities are the same and that's fine too: no judgement from me. Honestly, you make your life sound fairly miserable. Much luck to you on your journey for happiness!
Thank you for your humor and candor. Your post is certainly a healthy dose of reality about what it really takes to be successful as an entrepreneur. I appreciate your honesty and unwillingness to tow the party line. At the same time, I still do personally believe that we must invest in ourselves through relaxation and rejuvenation so that we may be the best business owners and human beings that we can be. Often, the greatest inspiration and new ideas come to us in those few stolen moments of peace and reflection. Otherwise, we are just too busy in daily operations.
Dr. Vrunda Davé
Founder, The Soul Entrepreneur
www.VrundaDave.com
Thank you for sharing this post on my Facebook page! It does fit right in with what I write about. Living the Balanced Life. It is not possible. It is an ongoing journey. And you are absolutely right, being an entrepreneur can suck all your time, if you let it. And that will come down to personal preference and priorities. I know many people who are in business for themselves to allow more flexibility for family and self. They are not trying to build a large company, simply a small business that allows then the flexibility they desire. Of course, this may mean that being available for your child after they get out of school in the afternoon will mean that you have to work til midnight after they go to bed. Or work on your laptop while at the park watching them play. It's all about choices!
Thanks again!
Bernice
http://livingthebalancedlife.com
Meh. This isn't a life, it's a self-inflicted indenture.
Based on your nonsense about 24/7 for 15 years, you can hardly call yourself a success at being an entrepreneur.
Lets say you only worked at it 6 days a week, rather than the 7 you claim. You'd be an entrepreneur 144 hours of each week.
Lets say you actually took a two week vacation each year, although I'm sure you'll claim that's just too 'balanced' for you to consider. You would still be an entrepreneur 7200 hours of each year.
Oh, but of course. . .deny though you may, you still need sleep. . .reduce your 7200 hours per annum by one third to represent sleep. Don't worry, Hon, I'm sure every one believes you work during your dreams, too. Reduced by one third, your 'awake' working hours are 4774 per year.
Multiply that by 15 years and it's taken 71 610 hours to become successful? That's not success, that's abject failure. You should have mastered a different career for every day of the week with the rubbish you're espousing. Most of the time you've put into 'becoming successful' has been wasted in pursuing something well beyond the reasonable amount of time it should have taken. What you've gleaned from it, in comparison to what you've put into it, is just sad.
BTW, the 10000 hour rule isn't restricted to single or specific tasks. Being able to master piano would take 10 000 hours, but wouldn't mean the pianist is restricted to 10000 hours of mastering a single composition
Here's to finding your balance!
My sister sacrificed everything to work and now is very successful, a partner at Price WaterHouseCoopers. She has worked 14 hours a day or more, six days a week for decades. She does nothing else. Not one holiday, she did not have children, no sports, no other activities but work. A single minded drive for what...power & position; naked ambition & greed for more money than she can spend, and has no one to nurture or to pass the money to. Work & nothing else.
Five cats; says it all.
If you really want to be successful here's my formula.
1. Be born in the U.S.A
2. Be white (preferably, but not necessarily, male).
3.Have well off, educated parents.
4. Have the semblance of a work ethic (think G. W. Bush).
5. Be lucky
Actually number 5 is really all there is to it. Successful people hate to hear that. Especially if there "inspirational speakers".