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Balance, Schmalance -- Become an Entrepreneur!

Posted: 07/29/11 03:48 PM ET

I received an email recently, inviting me to attend a seminar for budding entrepreneurs. They were offering courses on how to become a huge business success. I scanned the topics and one course in particular, caught my attention: 'How to become a greater success by becoming more balanced.'

I clenched my very stressed out, entrepreneurial jaw hard, shook my head and said aloud, "Balance, Schmalance!" and then I sent the email into the never-to-be-seen-again junk file with a swift tap of my right index finger, gave a big exhale and relaxed -- a bit. I then started typing my very first blog, which you are reading now.

I have been hearing a lot about achieving so-called "entrepreneurial balance" lately, and I read about the importance of "down time" all over the place and it's time to nip in the bud one big fantasy about becoming a successful entrepreneur -- especially for the first five to 10 years, or longer -- just until you make it to the big time. It took me 10 years to become an overnight success. So, before you start scheduling "me time" in your business plan, please read this.

Now, in the world today, I know it is very unfashionable of me to be out of balance, especially when some people say that we need to be if we are to become a success. And I guess that's why some people are trying to teach it in courses similar to the one I recently read. But I am unbalanced. Period. I don't try to be, I just am. And I owe every unbalanced moment to my success as an entrepreneur and inspirational speaker and author, see, if I was balanced, I would probably have stopped right after thinking about becoming an entrepreneur. But quite frankly, success and balance are at opposite ends of the spectrum.

Myth: You want to start your own business and you think that you can lead a balanced life in the process. Truth: There will be no down time for you, my dear budding entrepreneur, nor should you expect any -- well, not if you are doing things correctly -- and this is just my humble opinion based upon doing 15 years hard time in business prison.

I learned a lot over the years in my business prison cell and one message I have for you is this: your life and work will be intertwined and there will be no distinct line between the two and if you are to become the successful entrepreneur that you want to become, you will quickly learn that there is no such thing as balance and instead, there is only one thing: doing whatever is in your power to keep on keeping on and making every second of every day count. And that will most always involve putting the business first and your ideas of balance second... or third... or last... or not at all.

What type of people become huge successes? Not ones that run at sub-par. Not ones that can't understand how difficult (really difficult) it will be most days and not ones that want balance. A good degree of your level of success will be in direct proportion of how hard you are willing to work. Being a successful entrepreneur is not in opposition to life. It is life. It will be your life as it is mine. That's not a bad thing, it's just the way it is.

I should probably be giving you reasons for wanting to be more like me, since I am such a success. You should be encouraged by my gentle, caring words and the state of my life and how wonderfully balanced I am. How I must be so very balanced to live such a rich, full, productive life (I am 55-years-old) with such admirable composure, like heroes and trailblazers we read about who teach us the importance of balance, healthy people who have their minds, body and spirit in perfect harmony.... please... Who are these people then? I can't count on one hand people that I know that are that balanced, even if they are not entrepreneurs...even if they work for someone else!

Do balanced people give us a reason for living? Do they challenge us to become better people? For me, it's the hopelessly unbalanced messes that changed their life around for the better or those people that had lots of crap in their life that forced them to grow beyond their wildest expectations. Take Einstein or Carlos Casteneda or Van Gogh. They were all extraordinary visionaries. Think of any extraordinary visionary and you might think that being balanced will get you to that level. However, when I think of any extraordinary visionary, creator, writer, leader, artist or entrepreneur, you will learn the complete opposite of what these living in balance people suggest. They were anything but balanced. They didn't seek nor crave balance. They craved and sought out passion, engagement, discovery -- extreme intensity. And THAT is something very important that I have always known and now you do too!

So, maybe that's why so many of us overachievers are not balanced; because it's just impossible. If you are an entrepreneur and have been in business for less than five or so years, or you have just started a business or you are thinking about starting a business, let me be very clear; you have to live, eat, sleep, breathe and accept that having no balance in your life means that you will be even that much closer to becoming a huge success. Now there you go...no need to take any stupid courses on finding balance anymore! Now I'm really stressed out...

 
I received an email recently, inviting me to attend a seminar for budding entrepreneurs. They were offering courses on how to become a huge business success. I scanned the topics and one course in par...
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BrianPK80
Wisdom is having more questions than answers.
07:33 PM on 08/05/2011
With all respect, your post has me thinking of hypomania, caffeine, cocaine, Adderall, Wellbutrin, and other natural and synthetic uppers I've seen friends experience. It sounds like you have been successful in synchronizing unhealthy personal attributes with the unhealthy values of our culture. I can appreciate the dedicated effort to do so and that "being successful" may be sufficient as a sole life-goal for you, but I don't believe it works for everyone. To be frank, your post has an aura of "thou doth protest too much" lingering within. And Van Gogh died miserably...
01:31 AM on 08/06/2011
Dear BrianPK80: Thank you for your reply. The whole point of sharing ideas and opinions is that the message may not work for everyone, and that's what makes the world go around. Who wants to all be the same anyway? But without the Van Gogh's in the world, wouldn't it be a really boring place for some?? He left his mark and no one can say if he was miserable or happy because we weren't him - regardless of what we read or learn. So, us unbalanced folk bring something to the table too. >CAT
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BrianPK80
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05:35 PM on 08/06/2011
Hi Cathrine,

I certainly did not mean to suggest the unbalanced persons bring nothing to the table. I am in fact in agreement that persons with that flair and spark do make life interesting, particularly in the arts (and politics also). Your original post however struck me not as a respectful celebration individuals who are innately extreme, but as a smug indictment of "work to live" mentality while promoting the "live to work" ethos. That tone naturally invites more dedicated scrutiny. And the message raises some serious "big picture" questions. Is an amorphous concept like success a means to an end or an end? If the former, is it the optimal means towards that end?

Best to you.
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BrianPK80
Wisdom is having more questions than answers.
05:37 PM on 08/06/2011
Aye, "live to work" and "work to live" above should be swapped. Time for coffee.
01:00 AM on 08/05/2011
The comment "let me be very clear; you have to live, eat, sleep, breathe and accept that having no balance in your life means that you will be even that much closer to becoming a huge success." is NOT the truth. I've been an award winning entrepreneur for 14 years and in my unbalanced, 18 hour a day, olden days I had a minor stroke at 26 while running and PR/marketing firm in NYC but turned my life around and became a balance/business coach for entrepreneurs for the past 11 years. I coach million dollar entrepreneurs on how to have boundaries and balance AND have a successful business. The thought that you have eat and sleep your business to be a success is old school and unhealthy. I have FUN and I have balance AND I have 9 current clients (300 past clients) that can say the same thing. So you might want to reconsider your stand that it's "impossible" and just know that your way is your way but indeed there's other ways of running a business so it doesn't consume your life, your marriage and your health. My business is The Boundaries Coach and I'm happy to give you some times if you ever want to explore the healthier side of things.
04:33 PM on 08/05/2011
Hi Thanks for posting/offering your services. However, I never said I am not happy. I am VERY happy. I am simply trying to put forward what effort people need to take when starting their own business. There is an imbalance and it's okay. I love being unbalanced and it works for me. And I think that's the point her. Of course I have all kinds of options to undo how I operate, by why would I? I love my life. I have been with the same wonderful man for almost 16 years - day and night as we work together too. I have animals around me all the time - but yes, they do come to the office with me! LOL!..oh, and I laugh a hell of a lot. I'm just out of wack a bit. Again, my life. My opinion and my success strategy. You may want to help out some of the aggressive repliers here though, because one thing I never had in my life, was anger or hate or holding grudges. THOSE things will kill you in no time at all! Thank God at 55, I have love and health. But, I did lose my mind a while back, but that was because of my prior life. If you read my book (okay, so I am plugging myself here now since you did first! LOL!) Beautiful Buttons, you will know what I mean. Phew! Okay, almost a novel here!! All the best, and thank you anyway. >CAT
11:43 PM on 08/04/2011
Any post that grabs my attention and gives me a "time out" is a great post for me! And, a post that gives me a light-hearted moment gets extra points. You got it!

Balance? Ha! Work/life integration? Yes!

Keep it comin', CatherineAnn
04:36 PM on 08/05/2011
Phew! Thank you, BarbaraMark! This has been pretty therapeutic for me...LOL! Maybe I will get invited to post again, which would be awesome. I have a lot of different ideas to get lots of people closer to being their unbalanced best! LOL!! >CAT< X0
04:04 PM on 08/03/2011
One of the best parts of being an entrepreneur is being able to laugh at our faults, habits, and anything else that others may not see as "normal." I appreciate your honesty (and sense of humor) and no doubt there are many other entrepreneurs who are "not balanced," just like you, which is the way it should be. I try to live a balanced life, but that's not always possible. Having your own business is like having a baby...it needs to be nurtured often. Sometimes your business is going to take top billing, while at other times it will care of itself. What I like best about your first blog post (congrats, BTW) is that you admit to not being balanced and that it works for you. How boring would life be if everyone worked the same way? Keep up the good work. Looking forward to your next blog post.
11:26 PM on 08/03/2011
Thank you very much, LisaKanarek! I would love to post again...it would give me an opportunity to start putting out more of my success strategies....may not be what you learn in formal school, but there are a lot of people out there that think they can't become a huge success because they don't have education, or more, etc., to realize their dreams. There are other ways to doing things. It may take longer, or may be more work, but anything is possible. That's my mantra: Dream it. Believe it. Be it! >CAT
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05:14 PM on 08/01/2011
I really enjoyed reading the article for a different perspective. Although I don't necessariy agree with it wholeheartedly since I write a blog about exactly that which you oppose which is "living a balanced life". Most days are anything but balanced especially for working moms like myself but it's something I'll always strive for. I do feel that if you accept the fact that you're not "balanced" and that's the way it'll always be (the struggle) then you've already lost in my opinion.

I'm always searching for harmony in all areas of my life (family, work, friendships,etc.) because all of those things are a priority to me. Of course, not everyone's priorities are the same and that's fine too: no judgement from me. Honestly, you make your life sound fairly miserable. Much luck to you on your journey for happiness!
11:48 AM on 08/02/2011
Hi ChicWorkingMoms: Thank you for your post. Glad you enjoyed the article. I LOVE being unbalanced! Like you, I realized that my life was too crazy to keep thinking there was something wrong with me because I couldn't be like someone else. So, I embraced being unbalanced and saw that as my norm instead of beating myself over the head trying to do something that I couldn't achieve. And, being unbalanced has helped me to become a huge success....grade 8 education, pregnant at 15, born into poverty with alcoholic parents, sexual abuse from the time I was 5, in jail, on probation...and then a life on the streets...and worse. I kept thinking that life held nothing in it's big old hands for me because I couldn't get along in mainstream society. Then, I accepted the way I was (and of course there's a lot more to my story) and after the age of 40, became a multi-award winning entrepreneur! If I kept thinking that I was a nothing. Today, I am alive (very important! LOL!), happy, healthy and I make a huge difference in other peoples lives in very many ways. Thank you, ChicWorkingMoms! >CAT
01:56 PM on 08/01/2011
Cathrine,

Thank you for your humor and candor. Your post is certainly a healthy dose of reality about what it really takes to be successful as an entrepreneur. I appreciate your honesty and unwillingness to tow the party line. At the same time, I still do personally believe that we must invest in ourselves through relaxation and rejuvenation so that we may be the best business owners and human beings that we can be. Often, the greatest inspiration and new ideas come to us in those few stolen moments of peace and reflection. Otherwise, we are just too busy in daily operations.

Dr. Vrunda Davé
Founder, The Soul Entrepreneur
www.VrundaDave.com
11:54 AM on 08/02/2011
Hi vrundabizdoc: Thank you for your post. Ahhh...I can feel how balanced you are, even through my computer! LOL!....In my life today, I do spoil myself in various ways and I take good care of myself...however - everything that I created to become successful, happened from a state of being unbalanced and it was from this imbalance, that I created a lot of good and positive. Now I can enjoy the fruits of my labour, so to speak. I was tired of reading success strategies from other people that would have left someone like me, out of the running. Yes, different people from the way I am can become a success but that has not been my personal experience. Thank you! >CAT
01:54 PM on 08/01/2011
Ann,
Thank you for sharing this post on my Facebook page! It does fit right in with what I write about. Living the Balanced Life. It is not possible. It is an ongoing journey. And you are absolutely right, being an entrepreneur can suck all your time, if you let it. And that will come down to personal preference and priorities. I know many people who are in business for themselves to allow more flexibility for family and self. They are not trying to build a large company, simply a small business that allows then the flexibility they desire. Of course, this may mean that being available for your child after they get out of school in the afternoon will mean that you have to work til midnight after they go to bed. Or work on your laptop while at the park watching them play. It's all about choices!
Thanks again!
Bernice
http://livingthebalancedlife.com
11:55 AM on 08/02/2011
Thank you, Bernice!! >CAT
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BlessingOshin
Full-time Chemical Engineer & Working Mom
08:02 AM on 08/01/2011
I agree completely. Balance is a myth, all we can do is seek fullness in life, approach everything with a can-do attitude, be it our job, family or friends. Life is too short to sit around sipping coffee in the name of balance.
11:56 AM on 08/02/2011
Love your reply, BlessingOshin! If you're not hugely successful today, you will be!! >CAT
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arkymorgan
Nobody knows the trouble I've been...
06:37 PM on 07/31/2011
And then, in their mid-to-late forties, these overachievers either suddenly decide they missed out on 'family' and try to horn in on their teenagers' lives, kick over the traces and go hunting a trophy spouse or drop dead of a heart attack.

Meh. This isn't a life, it's a self-inflicted indenture.
12:01 PM on 08/02/2011
Hi arkymorgan: How are you? Geesh...you sound more stressed out than I do! LOL!...just kidding..I have a fabulous life, am happy and healthy and am very, very, blessed....oh, but I do have a 'trophy husband,' so you were right on with that one! Thank you! >CAT
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newshoundmama
My bite's worse than my bark
04:16 PM on 07/30/2011
It takes 10,000 hours to truly master something, to 'become successful' at it.

Based on your nonsense about 24/7 for 15 years, you can hardly call yourself a success at being an entrepreneur.

Lets say you only worked at it 6 days a week, rather than the 7 you claim. You'd be an entrepreneur 144 hours of each week.

Lets say you actually took a two week vacation each year, although I'm sure you'll claim that's just too 'balanced' for you to consider. You would still be an entrepreneur 7200 hours of each year.

Oh, but of course. . .deny though you may, you still need sleep. . .reduce your 7200 hours per annum by one third to represent sleep. Don't worry, Hon, I'm sure every one believes you work during your dreams, too. Reduced by one third, your 'awake' working hours are 4774 per year.

Multiply that by 15 years and it's taken 71 610 hours to become successful? That's not success, that's abject failure. You should have mastered a different career for every day of the week with the rubbish you're espousing. Most of the time you've put into 'becoming successful' has been wasted in pursuing something well beyond the reasonable amount of time it should have taken. What you've gleaned from it, in comparison to what you've put into it, is just sad.
12:18 AM on 07/31/2011
What a ridiculous argument. It doesn't just take 10,000 hours to master something. The crux of the "10,000-Hour Rule" is that success in any field is, to a large extent, a matter of practicing a specific task for a total of around 10,000 hours. I'm sure the author was not focused on her business every waking hour.
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newshoundmama
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10:29 AM on 07/31/2011
What a ridiculous lack of reading comprehension on your part. The whole 'point' of the author's article is that she's been so focused on her business to the exclusion of all else, that she doesn't have time add balance to her life. She, herself, claims to be THAT focused, ALL the time. I don't believe her, either, but was tongue-in-cheek giving a rough calculation of how someone who sleeps, takes one day off a week and an annual vacation would still have enough time pursue non-business interests, and successfully pursue their career aspirations. Going by her assertion that her business is that all-consuming, she's a failure at it. If she's into her second decade (!) at it, and it's still all-business, all the time, she's not gleaning any rewards that can compare to the time and lost opportunity-cost that she has sacrificed in other areas. That lost-opportunity cost is not limited to non-business aspects life, either; she likely would have have numerous career path opportunities that would have been more rewarding in both business and non-business spheres had she not been chasing a carrot on stick and congratulating herself along the way about how successful she is in being a failure.
BTW, the 10000 hour rule isn't restricted to single or specific tasks. Being able to master piano would take 10 000 hours, but wouldn't mean the pianist is restricted to 10000 hours of mastering a single composition
03:36 PM on 08/02/2011
Hi there...wow! I don't even have the math skills to check out your numbers because with my ADD and learning disability (true) and I still count on my fingers....and where the heck is my calculator?? Geesh... so, I will assume your numbers are correct. Yes, 15 years is a long time to become a multi-millionaire I guess..hey, maybe I should have posted this article 9 years ago when I was only a millionaire..LOL!!...okay, just having some fun here...but seriously, perhaps I didn't do it the way you did (you are a multi-millionaire too, correct?) and if your strategy worked better than mine to get you to where you want to be in life, that's fabulous. If not, I would love to hire you as my Accountant because I am still impressed with those calculations! (smile) Thank you for taking the time to post. >CAT
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newshoundmama
My bite's worse than my bark
06:27 PM on 08/02/2011
I'm pretty sure I don't want to work for you, in an accounting capacity or any other. . .given that you seem to think your millions, and whether or not I have millions in somehow a measure of success. And if you would take the time to get a balanced, and accurate look at my post, you will note I never said 15 years was a long time to become a success (as opposed to millionaire, which is neither here nor there). I said spending the amount of time you claim to spend in your endeavours is not a necessity to success, in fact that investment of time is ridiculous. I believe another poster quite nicely described it self-inflicted indenture. It's not the 15 years I dispute; it's the 24/7 pace you claim (and that I don't believe, in any case).
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wtaylorhi
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01:28 PM on 07/30/2011
I think you can create balance for yourself as an entrepreneur. Being off balance is probably not a great state to always be in. Your income may fluctuate; but you should have more than one source of income anyway.

Here's to finding your balance!
03:42 PM on 08/02/2011
Thank you for your post, wtaylorhi. I think that's my problem...I have income sources from multiple areas, hence, always being busy. But as mentioned in another post above, I LOVE what I do. I think it's very important that budding entrepreneurs, or future entrepreneurs, know exactly how very hard you have to work to make a business successful. Maybe that's why so many of us quit or give up? Because they figure they can't make it work, but then they are taking lots of down time or not focused enough..who knows? But for all the entrepreneurs out there that work their butts off non stop, I'm right with you and they know what I am talking about. For the entrepreneurs that want to be more successful, hey, at least see how someone else had to do things to get to where they are, right? Anyway, thank you for your post! >CAT
11:24 AM on 07/30/2011
I don't care about the baloney about how its OK just to work; because it shows *intensity*, etc., to be un-true. This just shows the very obvious, an un-balanced life, that is, one without any time for love, social contacts outside of work, sports, hobbies, etc..In the end that is quite sad and the person will regret it when old.

My sister sacrificed everything to work and now is very successful, a partner at Price WaterHouseCoopers. She has worked 14 hours a day or more, six days a week for decades. She does nothing else. Not one holiday, she did not have children, no sports, no other activities but work. A single minded drive for what...power & position; naked ambition & greed for more money than she can spend, and has no one to nurture or to pass the money to. Work & nothing else.

Five cats; says it all.
12:20 AM on 07/31/2011
John, what your sister has done may not be your idea of a balanced life, but if your sister is doing what she loves and is good at and she has no regrets - who are we to criticize the path she's taken.
03:46 PM on 08/02/2011
Hey, John. I have five dogs and two cats...but I have a loving husband, and a very, very, blessed life. Who ever said power and money and position (and lots of pets) equals greed? And she may be smart for not wanting kids...do you know how much time THEY take of one's life? Now THAT is a tough job! I never said I have nothing else. I have it all. So can anyone. That's my point. Thank you for the post... and my regards to your sister and her felines. >CAT
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conservativewhitemale
Silence is the language of God. Zip it.
10:13 AM on 07/30/2011
Spot on. I interpret "balance" as being dependent on others to define your own productivity. I can no more phathom working for someone else, then I can someone being stuck unemployed. Choose your product/service, define its market, season it with tenacity, and the rest takes care of itself. "Balance" by definition, is only usefull to those stuck in a life of serfdom.
03:47 PM on 08/02/2011
Wow...I like you already, conservativewhitemale! LOL! Thank you for the support. You get it and I appreciate you saying so! >CAT
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04:39 AM on 07/30/2011
It's interesting that you only hear from the "successful" entrepreneurs. And they always have a formula to explain their success. Celebrate your imbalance and work your a** off in Ms Ann's case. But what about the unbalanced failed entrepreneurs who worked their a**'s off. My guess is there are a lot more of them than the successful ones. What did they do wrong. I chalk it up to bad luck.
If you really want to be successful here's my formula.
1. Be born in the U.S.A
2. Be white (preferably, but not necessarily, male).
3.Have well off, educated parents.
4. Have the semblance of a work ethic (think G. W. Bush).
5. Be lucky
Actually number 5 is really all there is to it. Successful people hate to hear that. Especially if there "inspirational speakers".
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conservativewhitemale
Silence is the language of God. Zip it.
10:01 AM on 07/30/2011
You're wrong. I was homeless at 15, and never went to highschool. At 50 now, working in an engineering capacity in a "day" job, with a side job turning down business to keep it a hobby business, and a professional musician to boot, I would posit luck plays a very small part for most of us. Further more, my advice to you would be to stop waiting for "luck", but get that chip off your shoulder, as nothing will work against success more then bitterness.
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MiddleMolly
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10:39 AM on 07/30/2011
I think you missed the point. And how did you become an engineer without a high school degree?
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newshoundmama
My bite's worse than my bark
03:57 PM on 07/30/2011
Nothing will work against success more than not knowing how to construct a proper sentence, or how to use words in their proper context.